fruitmelon123 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Ok well it was our first date in a while and everything seemed to have went well. When she got home we text eachother but I noticed it seemed to be 1word answers coming from her but she did say she had lots to do so thought nothing of it at the time. Txt her 2days later saying morning and got a short hi reply back. following a blanked txt in the evening and the day after aswell. Ain't text her in 2days now. Do you think she is trying to play games ? maybe she doesn't like me anymore at all. Or should i wait another few days to not come across desperate. cheers
mammasita Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I say move on. If she's turning cold this quick, she is either playing games or she just isn't into you (or both). Cut your losses, it was only one date.
Estate Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Ok well it was our first date in a while and everything seemed to have went well. When she got home we text eachother but I noticed it seemed to be 1word answers coming from her but she did say she had lots to do so thought nothing of it at the time. Txt her 2days later saying morning and got a short hi reply back. following a blanked txt in the evening and the day after aswell. Ain't text her in 2days now. Do you think she is trying to play games ? maybe she doesn't like me anymore at all. Or should i wait another few days to not come across desperate. cheers THIS! Move on.
PhoenixRysing Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Wait - did you say she sent you blank texts? If so, it may not be a game but rather a phone compatibility issue. This happens to me sometimes when someone with an iPhone sends me a message (I have an Android) especially if there are pictures or multimedia involved. Just a thought. 1
dasein Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Please consider stopping texting and limit your early interactions with new women to -calling- them on the phone and asking them out for specific plans. Once they decline two invitations without offering alternate plans, or if you get their VM, they don't return two calls, move on. Avoid flaky women or those with an attitude of "he must work for me." Those are undesirable and will generally have other serious dating/life issues. Good luck. 1
Mr_Flay Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Same old story. You might think that the date went well because it wasn't awkward and the conversation flowed, but she's not that interested in you. You were good for killing some time with, but she's looking for something better. Happened to me two or three dozen times. Just move on as well. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 You were good for killing some time with, but she's looking for something better. Her "better" might not actually be "better". Then again, maybe the OP could do better.
truth_seeker Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Avoid flaky women or those with an attitude of "he must work for me." Those are undesirable and will generally have other serious dating/life issues. Good luck. This is a great piece of advice.
Author fruitmelon123 Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Same old story. You might think that the date went well because it wasn't awkward and the conversation flowed, but she's not that interested in you. You were good for killing some time with, but she's looking for something better. Happened to me two or three dozen times. Just move on as well. The early dates seemed all new and great but then I think the reality hit her being that her job and schedule will always be in the way for a relationship. I think I've accepted that now but it still doesn't mean we cant have fun every now and then, But she thinks I'm better than that.
Author fruitmelon123 Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 This is a great piece of advice. That is true but she has paid for things in the past as she really insisted that it would make her feel good.
dasein Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Sometimes today, they will pay for things as they see no future and don't want to feel obligated. Usually they just have a healthy attitude about dating and money in the year 2013, but some will pay when there will be no lay also and accept largesse from men they will sex. Physical response and enthusiastic acceptance of invitations to do things alone are the best indicators. Most everything else is noise. When you get involved with texting them and lots of other noisy contact, it's easy to get the wrong idea that they are attracted. Women like attention, and will accept it. If they like you, they will be ready to spend time with you and get physical with you to whatever degree.
Author fruitmelon123 Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Sometimes today, they will pay for things as they see no future and don't want to feel obligated. Usually they just have a healthy attitude about dating and money in the year 2013, but some will pay when there will be no lay also and accept largesse from men they will sex. Physical response and enthusiastic acceptance of invitations to do things alone are the best indicators. Most everything else is noise. When you get involved with texting them and lots of other noisy contact, it's easy to get the wrong idea that they are attracted. Women like attention, and will accept it. If they like you, they will be ready to spend time with you and get physical with you to whatever degree. I spoke to her last week about sex, The plans where for her to come round and cook at mine then get down to business. Few days later she asked me out to lunch as she was tired & couldn't be asked to cook. Now I'm in this situation. However she did say during the lunch she had been acting crazy and drinking lately so it seemed like she never wanted to bring that conversation up sort of thing.
dasein Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Talk can equal pressure that can be uncomfortable in the early going. Try not to plan out first sex on a schedule and just set the mood and let things happen. They seem to like it better that way as opposed to talking about it in advance.
crude Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 That is true but she has paid for things in the past as she really insisted that it would make her feel good. If that's the case, then she's not jumping from one free ride to another, and she's just too busy to have a serious relationship. If you want a friendly one and so does she, then go for it. Those are my favorite kinds. Don't worry about appearing desperate, because if she tells you to drop dead, you'll never communicate with her again anyway. Don't burn your bridges unless you have to.
Author fruitmelon123 Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 If that's the case, then she's not jumping from one free ride to another, and she's just too busy to have a serious relationship. If you want a friendly one and so does she, then go for it. Those are my favorite kinds. Don't worry about appearing desperate, because if she tells you to drop dead, you'll never communicate with her again anyway. Don't burn your bridges unless you have to. I think that's what she was trying to tell me, but she is annoyed cause she does really like me but feels sorry cause it will never happen as i wanted it to. So best thing for me is not talk to her about it but just play cool and act friendly. Get a few more girls so she knows there is competition and I'm not just all over her and then eventually things will come back round to her.
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