mutant Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Since my BU I have tried several strategies in combination to get over the EX i.e further studies, sleeping around, evaluating my former relationship, taking new responsibilities at work and of-course venting here on LS. I think I am now doing fine but I am still yet to achieve indifference. I have severally tried to evaluate myself as well as my former relationships and realized I hold double standards in some situations e.g I went NC on my current Ex so that I can heal yet I still stay in contact with my former Ex (at least once a month). I know we broke up 5 years ago and we are supposed to be over each other but that didn't seem the case when I met her early last year. Perhaps, I should go NC on her too to help her move forward. she isn't dating anyone currently I don't see any harm hanging out with my former ex (BU 5 years ago) but I would feel jealous and bad if a girl I was dating kept hooking up with EX boyfriends. I don't regret or feel immoral for sleeping with 2 girls (not proud of it either) for a while, 7 months after my current BU yet I would pity my ex if I found out that she went sleeping around randomly after the BU . I never cheated on my current EX emotionally or physically for the four years we dated. I dated my former Ex for a year and we never had sex though we were intimate; the BU was 5 years ago. I have been trying to evaluate my behavior, actions and thinking because I realize I am far from perfect. Anyone else with double standards??
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