Fuzzymuzzy Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 I had posted before about her before so if you want the history on the situation.I think if you click on my name you can see the other post under second chances. Anyway my girlfriend & I broke up about 2 monthes ago. She started dating a guy who has lost his liscense due to drunk driving, has no kids and she has 2, 1 with me, & has signed a lease for the guy on a mobile home. I know she moves fast but this is kinda crazy. I myself have come to terms with our break up and in doesn't bother me but my concern is for the kids. Within 2 weeks of meeting her he was telling her he loved her and would help to raise these kids. She is now driving him back and forth to work because he can't drive. Do you think she is getting taken for a ride? And what can I do about her having my son in such a whack situation? Do I have any grounds to fight for custody?
uriel Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Sorry you're concerned for your child. This is an anxious situation. Obviously, it's not good for her to move so quickly with a new man, one who's got unstable finances and may have a substance abuse problem. That show's she's somewhat emotionally unstable. I don't know if it would be enough to give you sole custody or even if you want to make such a serious move just yet. However, I would certainly quietly check the guy out. Do a background check: does he have a criminal record, for example? Then, you might get some advice from your local social work / family services agency. Explain that you are exploring your options and want to know what you can do for your child in this circumstance. Finally, if you have a decent relationship with your ex, ask if you can get to know the guy. Take him out to dinner or something. I know that's weird, but it's through getting to know this man that you'll best be able to protect your son. Also, see your son and talk to him regularly. Keep getting feedback from him about how he's doing and what living conditions are like. Don't share this all with your wife right away. Keep this line of communication open and -- as best you can -- consequence free for your son. -- uriel
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