Estate Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Hey folks, So I got this girls number before last weekend. We got in touch and arranged to meet up this weekend. Anywhere, he's the kicker. She texts A LOT. We've been texting every day since about everything and anything. In one way I kind of like it, she seems interested and she's being cute and flirty. And I've met a lot of girls going overboard on the "hard to get" schtick lately so it's sort of cool that she seems genuinely interested and is in touch. That said... we haven't even gone out yet... I feel like she's asked me every "first date" question under the sun by text already. How do you folks react to someone texting a lot? Is it a sign of someone likely to become too clingy? Or can I just take it as her being interested? She's cute and seems sweet so it's not like I think she's bugging me, I'm just watching out for signs early on.
Imajerk17 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Hey folks, So I got this girls number before last weekend. We got in touch and arranged to meet up this weekend. Anywhere, he's the kicker. She texts A LOT. We've been texting every day since about everything and anything. In one way I kind of like it, she seems interested and she's being cute and flirty. And I've met a lot of girls going overboard on the "hard to get" schtick lately so it's sort of cool that she seems genuinely interested and is in touch. That said... we haven't even gone out yet... I feel like she's asked me every "first date" question under the sun by text already. How do you folks react to someone texting a lot? Is it a sign of someone likely to become too clingy? Or can I just take it as her being interested? She's cute and seems sweet so it's not like I think she's bugging me, I'm just watching out for signs early on. How did you meet her? Many women (actually PEOPLE) who come on this strong lose interest as quickly. Beware.
To be or not to be Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 This sounds similar to a situation I recently posted. He doesn't seem that into me anymore after just a couple weeks. So I would say yes, it's a red flag But men and women are different. I actually like texting alot but need an occasional phone call to really connect on another level. So giver her a call and don't rely on texting someone to try and get to know them. Good luck.
rocketman122 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I dont mind at all if a woman wants to have constant contact with me. Id rather it be too much, then too little. me and my GF constantly text all day and talk about 4 times a dy as well. I know its a lot but its ok with me and her. not everyone likes constant contact. my example is the extreme. only thing I ask is to be patient because sometimes when im stressed at work I cant answer right away. I dont want to give the idea that im ignoring her. I dont that..too childish and immature. stupid mind games.
carhill Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Save the texting for after you actually meet and there's flesh-pressing 'like' experienced, and mutually. 1
truth_seeker Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Many women (actually PEOPLE) who come on this strong lose interest as quickly. Beware. ^^^ This. Recently I met a girl who was doing the same thing. Texting, phone calls, asking me every question imaginable. We met for a date and it turned into a disaster. Usually, these types of women are unstable and have a ton of baggage. Proceed with caution is my advice.
kimberlydoll Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 How did you meet her? Many women (actually PEOPLE) who come on this strong lose interest as quickly. Beware. I agree. All the men I met off of OLD sites that did this burnt out quickly or were really clingy in general
FitChick Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 You don't have to acknowledge every single text. Ignore all except the ones where she needs an answer to something. Otherwise put all your replies into one bigger text. Or tell her you don't like texting. Or say you will discuss it with her when you next see her.
SJC2008 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 It could be a sign of neediness but my main concern would be that she's on the rebound. If that's the case you're just a fill in and the texts aren't about yall getting to know eachother, they're about attention for her to ease her bruised ego; Find out how long she's been single. Like IMJ said, when things start fast they fizzle fast, I had that happen before.
veggirl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Texting like that with someone you barely know is false intimacy. Being attracted to texts you receive is a lot different than in person chemistry. I wouldn't engage in all that before a first date, kinda sets the expectations a bit high when in reality you don't know one another well. 1
Author Estate Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Cheers, thanks for the input. Yeah, it's difficult to pin down where someone is coming from. The hard to get play is like the total opposite. I wasn't sure where she might be coming from. Maybe it's a rebound or attention thing. I'll keep my eyes open with her.
Shardish Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I can't stand texting or making phone calls, I'd much rather have face-to-face communication and no I am not referring to Skype. I don't text a lot as a singleton and I sure as hell won't do that at the dating stage or in the relationship stage. I often wonder what people discuss on dates when they spend most of their time texting back and forth to each other inbetween dates. I often wonder if those people recycle the same conversations over and over again.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Keep in mind that if a girl doesn't contact you much, it doesn't mean she is playing hard to get. Most girls won't think of you 24/7 when you just started dating.
dasein Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Agree with carhill, imajerk and veggirl. Try to move to personal meeting quickly and limit texts and text responses until you have met several times. Good luck.
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