sl1038 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I met a wonderful man via OLD a month ago. We have been practically inseparable since we met. He is kind, helpful, giving and thoughtful, an all-around nice person, and I'm very attracted to him. Everything is going well, except that he periodically mispronounces my name. My name is Suzanne. He usually just calls me sweetie or hun. However, several times now, he has called me Susan. So, he's not calling me someone else's name; he calls me a variation of my own name. I have always hated being called Susan because my name has been mispronounced as such semi-frequently throughout my life. The first time I told him he was mispronouncing my name, he said he knows it's Suzanne and didn't realize he was pronouncing it Susan. I thought the problem was solved, but he's continued to call me Susan periodically. He usually catches himself, gets frustrated with himself and feels stupid. He told me last night, after catching himself call me Susan, that the names are basically the same to him. I was sure to let him know that they are very different to me. He accidentally called me Susan again later in the night. I just let that one go because I didn't want to argue. If I had to guess, I'd say he calls me Suzanne half the time and Susan the other half, when he uses my real name, since he usually calls me by a pet name. My real concern is how to break him of calling me the wrong name, because if he does it in front of my friends, I would be horribly embarrassed. Any ideas on how to correct him without making him feel stupid? Is this even fixable?
StanMusial Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Attach electrodes to his balls that administer electric shocks via a remote control device that you control. Whenever he mispronounces your name, give him a quick jolt. In a day or two he will have broken the habit.
SmileFace Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Really? face/palm He isn't calling you a different name....I can't even. You need a damn hobby or something. 1
KraftDinner Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I thought you were going to say he called you by his ex's name or something. Now that would be a real problem. While annoying, I don't think the Susan thing is a big deal. Just 'jokingly' start ignoring him when he calls you the wrong name! Like not rudely... "Susan, pass the salt." You: looking around casually as if to find this Susan person. Just warn your friends that somehow he thinks Susan is the same thing as Suzanne and make a joke of it. My friend's name was Lita, and her ex pronounced it Leedah (supposed to be Lee-Tah). Annoyed everyone but we got used to it.
MidwestUSA Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 He tries to catch himself, gets frustrated and feels stupid. Doesn't that tell you what you need to know? 2
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