cottom Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I'm the one that convinced her to go to university, I was the one that convinced her to go to this specific university, I was the one that convinced her to do this specific course I was the one that her friends didn't like because i wasn't the ex that always beat her up I was the one who told her to make new friends rather than the 3 girls she "hated" but was her only friends I was the one that worked 6 days a week to help get money behind us I was the one that didn't listen when she told me she didn't like how comfortable we are together I was the one that was okay that this guy in her uni, on her course, in her new friend group was visiting her every single day to hang out When we first got together i was the cocky, arrogant, cool-guy that everyone looked up to. She didnt like my friends so made me give them up, she didnt like my job so made me quit, she didnt like that i had girls on my facebook and some people i didnt know, made me delete it.... when we split up i had no friends, no social networking to reestablish connections, a job where i was on my own 24/7 so i didnt meet new people. She left me for a cocky little prick who makes fun of/bullies his mates, has a large connection of girls and is a general ugly douche! Basically she got with me, changed me to what she "wanted" then left me for the old me but a much worse version! I feel its all my fault for just everything. 1
Author cottom Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Its been 3 months since we split up, i think about the b**** every single day which really makes me angry...Ive tried so hard to go out and meet new people, i have reestablished a few friendships and the amount of times ive gone out to meet a girl and stuff but i haven't even hugged a girl in this time. This is the same guy that 3 years ago had every single girl wanting him and now cant even get a second look. My looks have deteriorated over the last few years, but i am 20 still and i should be out with all the girls all the time. Im facing a real hard depression right now, i was actually happy with my life being like this as long as i had that girl in too.
blue_jay_bird Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 A relationship takes two people. You can't take 100% of the blame.
cavalier99 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 DUDE great rant! Now...it may not seem like it now but this is one of the best things that has happened to you. You wise rise form the ashes like phoenix and wont ever lose yourself so much in a RS again and will have much better boundaries. Just keep on working thru the pain. Rock on! Cav 1
richard9 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 i am kind of in the same situation, but im digging my way slowly out of it, as Cav said its when you lose yourself to a girl, blinded by love, that you come out the other side not knowing who you are anymore and having noone to turn to. i too stopped spending time with my other friends and family, changed jobs and generally didnt talk with anyone else. now im alone and having to force myself to go out places and do things, in the hope of making new friends, its hard, but you've got to try. its definitely a lesson for the future, have your own life apart from your GF.
RiceaRoni Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Don't blame everything on yourself she takes part of the blame because as stated above, it takes two to run a relationship; and yes sadly some of us are blinded by love sometimes, but with the experience of break ups we learn. Not saying that the break was a good thing per say, but you learned from it. Think positive and rise above.
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