marklarsson Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I have been posting on her for a while but have not really shared my story. so maybe this will help others out. 2 months ago my relationship of a year and a half ending after a silly argument, which later lead to my ex saying that we had gone into a relationship rut. 2 moths before that i had lost by job and was struggling to find a new one. i also had some family issues that i had to deal with. i was not coping with it very well. this caused me to argue more than usual ad generally not myself. i told my ex all about this, and did everything in my power to try to win her back but she just treated me like a lair and something she had scraped off her shoe. i was very shocked because during the time were were together she was going through a traumatic time in her life and i was there for her every step of the way when most men would have looked for the exit door. but when i needed her the most to stand by my side she left me. i found out just recently that just 2-3 weeks after we had broken up she was seeing someone else. i suppose this is how she repaid me for all those times. whether she is having GIGS or not i don't really care at this point. i tried so hard to not resent her for this that's why i kept reaching out to her and doing improvements without her but as time went on her actions shocked me and i couldn't help but feel that 'what i did for her she was not willing to do for me' anyway im now on no contact solidly for 2 weeks. my old boss called me to offer me to over see a new project for him so i now have a new job, im loving it. i have dealt with my depression very well back to the fun person i was before that. going to the gym more frequently to get my body ready for the summer. im not looking to start a new relationship any time soon however, i feel i need to be focused on these other things first. so this is to those who maybe facing the same situation as i was in. there is hope, you can get through it yourself, if they are not around you have the strength within yourself to do it and you will become a better person because of this. concentrate on family and friend who are actually present and there for you. thank you for reading 1
richard9 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 sounds VERY familiar, towards the end of the relationship i was also treated like sh*t, but i still tried and tried and tried because i loved her so. sounds like things are really moving forward for you and hope things continue to get better! im 3 months into NC and its definitely these days when we feel good about ourselves that we have to remember. because there will still be hard days, im going through one today but your story helped, thanks for sharing
Author marklarsson Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 sounds VERY familiar, towards the end of the relationship i was also treated like sh*t, but i still tried and tried and tried because i loved her so. sounds like things are really moving forward for you and hope things continue to get better! im 3 months into NC and its definitely these days when we feel good about ourselves that we have to remember. because there will still be hard days, im going through one today but your story helped, thanks for sharing Im very glad that my story was able to help, and at least give you the push to get help get you through today. i know its almost a catch 22 if you turn and walk away without trying it looks like you don't care and if you try to do something it looks like you cant let go. but believe me the best thing is to just let go, especially when the other person is making no effort to get back with you either
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