Revolver Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 And I don't think that's talked about nearly enough is to pick your battles. There's tons of relationships with LT potential that end in fights/arguments over things that lets be honest in the grand scheme aren't that important. Like was it REALLY worth it to blow up on his/her for that? I know its hard but even if your right, you don't have to be the "winner" all damn time if that makes sense. This isn't just great advice for relationships, it can obviously be applied in other areas of your life 2
Els Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 This is true in LTRs, but if you're just at "LT potential" stage (ie honeymoon phase), IMO if it ends in arguments there's probably a lot more wrong with it than just the people involved not picking their battles. You really should not have to 'pick your battles' at honeymoon phase, when both people are on their best behaviour. If you're having to do that a lot, there's either some distinct incompatibility or issues that one or both need to work out. "Small" issues early on generally turn into huge issues later. 1
StanMusial Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Solid advice. I would add that sometimes you just let the hurricane blow and take your hand off the rudder. One of my ex gfs used to have a temper and she would blow up sometimes with the slightest provocation. I learned when to just let her tire herself out. I found out about a month after we split up that she was seeing a psychiatrist for a variety of issues. Dodged a bullet on that one, maybe literally.
ThaWholigan Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 What if battles are part of the natural dynamic between the two parties?
TouchedByViolet Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I personally don't date people who are fond of drama, fights and arguments. Sure there will be disagreements and discussions but that is different than a fight. I feel like some people get off on their dramatic relationships. 1
Treasa Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 This advice is excellent, and I'm glad you mentioned that it relates to other areas of your life as well. Pick your battles is a saying. It doesn't literally mean you have to be fighting for it to apply. It basically means know what's really important to you, and what isn't.
calgary Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 great advice! only at the time some things seem really painful and cause an argument.. only after the break up for you to realize it wasn't as bad as it seemed. My ex would have never cheated, she was just extremely flirty. she was holding hands with a guy and I didn't like it so I ended it.. I miss her everyday. feel like I warned her on a few occasions to stop flirting with other guys but it just pushed her further away.
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