movin it Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Hey all we have been broken up now for about 5months, about 3 months of that being no contact. she broke up with me because i became needy. she also said when we broke up that she would like to get back together someday but then wasn't the time. We did have a phone call initiated by me about 2 months ago just to say hi and see how she was going which went really well, she was excited to hear from me and very giggly and happy when i was talking. we organized to catch up but she bailed at that time because she said she was unhappy at the time and wants to catch up when she is in a better state of mind. Well since then she has been likeing a lot of my fbook updates and photos untill the other week she emailed me out of the blue asking how i am going, what ive been up to etc? I kept the replies short and light, she takes her time replying like every 3 or 4 days, so thats what i have been doing also. Now one other thing i noticed aswell is, that she started showing interest in hobbys of mine which she used to tag along with some times when we were together. She also changed her profile pic to a pic of her from when when i first met her 3 yrs ago. And she has said multiple times "do you remember this, or that?" She said she wants to have another chat on the phone when we both have time aswell. Do you guys think she is playing silly buggers or could this maybe be the start of the process to reconciling if we decided we wanted to? thanks in advance for the help.
pandora_be Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Do you guys think she is playing silly buggers or could this maybe be the start of the process to reconciling if we decided we wanted to? thanks in advance for the help. Usually girls do not play buggers. The process of reconcilation until it happens and until you are back together for a while is very hard in the beginning for the dumpee; everything she says - you will analyze. So don't focus on facts and keep you conversations friend-like, so yeah that means also having to swallow that she tries to look good for other guys and talks about her plans to go out and how great it was when she met one of her old pal's. Important facts to consider in order of escalating in the good direction (no body language stuff, interpretation just action based-facts): 1. She is still interested in you 2. She mail/texts you regulary 3. She answers your call 4. She calls you back after you have called her 5. She agrees to meet up with you again for a first time 6. She actually shows up 7. She touches you during your conversation 8. Within one week after first time meet again she notifies you that she would like to do something with you 9. You can get her to visit you at your place 10. She can not stop touching you --------------------------------- END OF THE FRIEND ZONE 11. From here on you can consider her your girlfriend again and she will have a talk with you soon about the future. But to get there, it is even harder than simply moving on and starting with someone new. So she should be worth it, up to you to decide. Find out for yourself where you are and see if things are progressing. In the meantime you should have other options so you can handle a setback much better. 1
Author movin it Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Yeah i get what you're saying here and that has gone through my head that she may be just trying to impress another guy/guys. What i don't get is why she made those changes on fbook an then emails me straight after? She also allways asks if i remember some of the fun thimgs we used to do. But like you said maybe i'm just being a typical dumpee and analyzing things. I'm open to trying again with her, but it isn't something i am completely attached to as an outcome, i have been on a few dates just havn't come across anyone special yet thats all.
OSCAR_BUSTOS21 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 There are many things on the web about looking into a girls actions during re-connection. I know because I've been scrawling the net for them, I believe she does want you. Personally stuff loos quite good but you have a long road ahead yet. You seem to have it under control, the next stage will probably be dating in which case play a little hard to get and show her that she can't walk all over you. Play your cards right and who knows.
Author movin it Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Thanks guys, yeah i've been googling around, i just was after an outside perspective on my situation. I was confused because i was thinking if she has met someone else why even bother emailing me to say hello and see how i'm going. She knows i'm really well i told her last time we spoke and i'm sure she sees it from my fbook updates and photos that she allways likes. If we reconcile in the future i will be putting it up here for everyone to give them hope
fungusamungus Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 In this case, there is literally no perceivable difference between whether she is trying to reconcile or simply wants to test the waters of friendship. There is no way you can tell. Because even if she was trying to reconcile... she wouldn't be doing it overtly and put herself out there for outright rejection. It's immature, but it still happens because girls are still afraid of rejection.
Author movin it Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 Yeah i know what you mean, i really just wanna be intouch as friends and see where it leads from there. So i am happy with what is going on at this point, i should add that she is interstate with work at the moment and has been since we broke up apart from being back for 2 weeks after xmas. She is back in april which is when she said she would like to catch up with me. I guess i just have to be patient and open to see where things lead. Thanks again guys
cps Posted March 5, 2013 Posted March 5, 2013 hi! i may say you should just be careful in assesing your exs true feelings..just keep it cool.. talk to her if she wants to talk to you.. be nice to her.. do and still try your best for her.. dont let her have the feelings of rejections like what you have felt. she will realize it..
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