napy666 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 My friend told me of this guy him and I began talking on December 31, 2012 then by January 4, 2013 we went on our first date. Then went on a second date a short time later and hung out in between as well. We don't really have much in common really. He's a Virgin, I'm a Virgin, we both live in the same city, we're both writers, we both like card games, and anime etc. Thats about it. He drinks, he drives, he works, and again lives in the same city as I do. So after a few hang out's and dates he tells me he has a fetish. His fetish being a foot fetish. I found this very odd and weird ever since seeing the MTV's True Life of that 1 white guy who also had a foot fetish. He then goes on to tell me about something called a "Foot Job" which is a sexual practice with the feet that involves one's feet being rubbed on a partner in order to induce sexual excitement, stimulation or orgasm. I thought alright maybe we won't do this anytime soon, same with making out, or even sharing our first kiss. Boy was I wrong. Everything I wanted to take slowly all happened in a rush like a slap to the face. I wanted to wait and kiss him on Valentine's Day but kissing came before then as well as making out. I did tell him I wanted to slow down and take things more slowly but he figured since I had a previous relationship lasting 3 years with more experience than him - him only experiencing a blow job, hand job, and kissing and he says he's a Virgin, he thought I would just jump right into anything and everything! So as I said before kissing and making out came in a rush and then Valentine's Day arrived and we took off hung out and made out and then this happens he pulls down his pants/boxers and pulls out his penis and makes me give him a footjob and then stomp my feet on his penis and balls. This whole experience really made me uncomfortable and feel weird towards him. I again told him afterwards that I wanted to take things slowly and that was weird and different. After that night I lost interest and didn't really feel the connection anymore. BUT this is where I am thinking about the whole thing, he works, he drives, he likes me, and he lives in the same city. WHILE all the other guys I have spoken to on and off with don't work, don't drive, and live 45 minutes away or won't take the effort to ride the bus or train. And don't talk to me unless I hit them up. So it leaves me thinking what should I do? I honestly don't like this guy no more and would feel better cutting him off but then again what if I later regret it? What to do?
CC12 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 You should never date anyone out of desperation. If you do, you'll accept a lot of treatment that you shouldn't accept, like someone pressuring you to engage in sexual fetishes and other acts that you're not comfortable with. You don't even like the guy anymore and you're only considering keeping this going because he drives and lives in the same city as you. Those are some pretty low standards. Demand better for yourself. 3
todreaminblue Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 shuddering.....foot fetish huh because he watched a tv show.Hmmmmm....if you are not comfortable with anything you should be respected enough to be able to have your own likes and dislikes.....you have to say what you are comfortable with and what you are not....sexual acts are nto eant to eb forced....let alone show a lack o funderstandign fo th eother persons lieks and dislikes....you dont sound compatible...what he likes shouldtn depend on a tv show...it shoudl a be a mutually enjoyable experience...not one that leaves you cold or i am sensing turned off.......you dont need this....i wish you luck......and happiness in love....deb
Author napy666 Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 shuddering.....foot fetish huh because he watched a tv show.Hmmmmm....if you are not comfortable with anything you should be respected enough to be able to have your own likes and dislikes.....you have to say what you are comfortable with and what you are not....sexual acts are nto eant to eb forced....let alone show a lack o funderstandign fo th eother persons lieks and dislikes....you dont sound compatible...what he likes shouldtn depend on a tv show...it shoudl a be a mutually enjoyable experience...not one that leaves you cold or i am sensing turned off.......you dont need this....i wish you luck......and happiness in love....deb No I saw the TV show segment about the foot fetish thing. He got into his foot fetish I have no clue how haha.
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