AlexB Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 (edited) But i have a good reason this time! It's only been 6 days since i've been dumped and the first thing i did was deactivate my facebook. Now this was all well and good, but i wanted to go back on to be able to connect with my friends, and i knew my ex was still going to be there. So i decided to just log back on quickly, go to my friends list and delete/block my ex. I didn't look at anything on her wall, but did end up seeing a new profile pic I figured i might as well do it now while it's still fresh than to leave my fb deactivated for a while and then have to go back and do it when i've already been healing for awhile. My heart felt like it was going to explode out of my chest and my hands were trembling the entire time. I left mutual (pretty much her friends) friends, on there although i've blocked them from appearing on my newsfeed. Would you guys have done what i've done? Should i have just left my facebook deactivated? Edited February 27, 2013 by AlexB
NoLeafClover Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 But i have a good reason this time! It's only been 6 days since i've been dumped and the first thing i did was deactivate my facebook. Now this was all well and good, but i wanted to go back on to be able to connect with my friends, and i knew my ex was still going to be there. So i decided to just log back on quickly, go to my friends list and delete/block my ex. I didn't look at anything on her wall, but did end up seeing a new profile pic I figured i might as well do it now while it's still fresh than to leave my fb deactivated for a while and then have to go back and do it when i've already been healing for while. My heart felt like it was going to explode out of my chest and my hands were trembling the entire time. I left mutual (pretty much her friends) friends, on there although i've blocked them from appearing on my newsfeed. Would you guys have done what i've done? Should i have just left my facebook deactivated? Another bites the dust. Yes you should have left it deactivate it. Why active fb again if you deactivated it. The reason you gave was not a good enough reason. You signed up in Feb, if you keep like this, you will be posting on here about still hanging on him in Feb 2014.
Author AlexB Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 Wanting to stay in contact with my friends isn't a good enough reason? I'm pretty much left out of everything when i'm not on there. Being on there makes me feel less alone. I was anxious the entire time knowing she was on there still. I wanted to just get it over and done with.
NoLeafClover Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Wanting to stay in contact with my friends isn't a good enough reason? I'm pretty much left out of everything when i'm not on there. Being on there makes me feel less alone. I was anxious the entire time knowing she was on there still. I wanted to just get it over and done with. Alex, I know it's hard but you can't keep hurting yourself. There is a reason for everything we do as there is an excuse for everything. You need to be honest with yourself first before you truly start NC. If you can't accept the relationship is over, you will hurt and hurt and hurt, until you run out of energy and be emotionally drained. You have a choice, either go thru that and realize the hard way, or keep your head up and start to heal properly. I don't suggest keeping FB (I did keep my FB but I had FB since 05 and my ex wasn't worth that many years of my past) but if you must keep it, you have to block her and her friends and promise yourself you will not look for your partner or anywhere else (google the name, look on twitter, instagram and what not) You have to be strong hun, as right now you are your worst enemy. You are fighting against your inner feelings and that is the hardest thing to do. Everyone on this section is going through it or has gone the same feelings at some point and we are all here for you. Do not tell yourself you can't do it and that you don't have any friends. I am a guy and I don't talk to any of my friends about being hung on my ex but I bit my tongue and learned to survive on my own. Be strong because if you think 6 days is hard, you will run into more speed bumps in a few weeks than in couple of months. If it makes you feel any better I am 70+ days NC, and it is do-able and I feel great even when I think of my ex. You can do this. 1
meeji Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Delete your ex from friends.... THEN BLOCK! At that point, you can use facebook all yoou want. Simple. 1
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