Do single women like Men who know how to Cook?

[Estate]

So, I wanted to get your thoughts on how much more attractive it is dating a Guy who knows how to Cook? or if it makes no difference at all.

 

I'm trying to expand my skills, and was wondering what dishes really get a woman mouth-watering wet?

 

I already know how to make spaghetti and sauce, what else is good - perhaps some chicken dishes or roast, maybe some exotic dishes.

 

I think men and women are both driven by their stomachs if they meet someone who is a fantastic cook. I certainly think a woman who cooks is a keeper. People say cooking classes are great places to meet single women, as well.

 

Are women also "Foodies" who like to try new restaurants? Is Sushi really popular with women? Or is Italian a safer bet? I don't really like sushi, but its okay from time to time, but not very filling and very expensive.

 

I think these threads are so ridiculous...

Who many of these threads have we had in the past few days:

"Do single women like X...."

 

How the hell do we know?

 

Some women probably think a man who cooks is nice. Some probably think he's batting for the other team... who knows what she thinks.

 

But why not back it up a little. If you are having problems meeting women, the problem doesn't lie in whether you can cook or not... it might just be in that you think EVERY single woman in the world... is the same, without differences and there must be a "secret formula" to break every one of them down.

 

What a crock! You're treating women like a game or a puzzle or an object.

 

How is "single" a feature of women that make them all relatable? It's even worse than grouping women by race, religion, location, nationality, etc...

At least in those cases there might be SOME similarities but even then it's clutching at straws since, and this might shock you but....

 

Every woman in the world, single or not, has her own unique opinions, interests, and views on the world.

 

 

Asking is single women like X is just a dumb question. Get to know a girl and see if SHE likes X.

[StanMusial]

I think these threads are so ridiculous...

Who many of these threads have we had in the past few days:

"Do single women like X...."

 

How the hell do we know?

 

Some women probably think a man who cooks is nice. Some probably think he's batting for the other team... who knows what she thinks.

 

But why not back it up a little. If you are having problems meeting women, the problem doesn't lie in whether you can cook or not... it might just be in that you think EVERY single woman in the world... is the same, without differences and there must be a "secret formula" to break every one of them down.

 

What a crock! You're treating women like a game or a puzzle or an object.

 

How is "single" a feature of women that make them all relatable? It's even worse than grouping women by race, religion, location, nationality, etc...

At least in those cases there might be SOME similarities but even then it's clutching at straws since, and this might shock you but....

 

Every woman in the world, single or not, has her own unique opinions, interests, and views on the world.

 

 

Asking is single women like X is just a dumb question. Get to know a girl and see if SHE likes X.

 

Also, just to clarify, being able to cook or even cook extremely well is not going to help you attract women at all. If you decided to cook for her then you already have convinced her somehow to come to your place which means she likes you for some other reason.

[jcrew11]

I think these threads are so ridiculous...

Who many of these threads have we had in the past few days:

"Do single women like X...."

 

How the hell do we know?

 

Some women probably think a man who cooks is nice. Some probably think he's batting for the other team... who knows what she thinks.

 

But why not back it up a little. If you are having problems meeting women, the problem doesn't lie in whether you can cook or not... it might just be in that you think EVERY single woman in the world... is the same, without differences and there must be a "secret formula" to break every one of them down.

 

What a crock! You're treating women like a game or a puzzle or an object.

 

How is "single" a feature of women that make them all relatable? It's even worse than grouping women by race, religion, location, nationality, etc...

At least in those cases there might be SOME similarities but even then it's clutching at straws since, and this might shock you but....

 

Every woman in the world, single or not, has her own unique opinions, interests, and views on the world.

 

 

Asking is single women like X is just a dumb question. Get to know a girl and see if SHE likes X.

 

I think your response shows how little the modern lazy male cares about going the extra mile to impress women. Maybe you are the one with one-itis who wants to focus on finding the perfect woman.

 

But believe it or not, there are some men who want to appeal to more than one woman. Is knowing how to cook or wearing a suit, so uncomfortable that you cannot fathom a man putting in a little extra effort in the romance department?

[FitChick]

I'm a good cook so I don't care.

[runningfar]

So, I wanted to get your thoughts on how much more attractive it is dating a Guy who knows how to Cook? or if it makes no difference at all.

 

I'm trying to expand my skills, and was wondering what dishes really get a woman mouth-watering wet?

 

I already know how to make spaghetti and sauce, what else is good - perhaps some chicken dishes or roast, maybe some exotic dishes.

 

I think men and women are both driven by their stomachs if they meet someone who is a fantastic cook. I certainly think a woman who cooks is a keeper. People say cooking classes are great places to meet single women, as well.

 

Are women also "Foodies" who like to try new restaurants? Is Sushi really popular with women? Or is Italian a safer bet? I don't really like sushi, but its okay from time to time, but not very filling and very expensive.

 

 

I don't care personally if he is a good cook because I am very, very good. I can't even be modest about it, really. I would just as soon not have him encroaching on "my" kitchen.

 

New restaurants, depends on the woman.

[Jane2011]

I dated a guy a little over a year ago who was really into cooking. He cooked for me a lot and was always just talking about cooking. It was attractive, and I liked it, but I wouldn't say it's somehow a huge boost to him over guys who don't cook. Thinking of the guys I've been attracted to other than him, their not cooking didn't decrease their attractiveness.

 

I guess I'd say it's a neutral quality. The only positive about a guy liking to cook, really, is that he has a hobby/interest at all, not that the particular hobby/interest is cooking.

[Estate]

I think your response shows how little the modern lazy male cares about going the extra mile to impress women. Maybe you are the one with one-itis who wants to focus on finding the perfect woman.

 

But believe it or not, there are some men who want to appeal to more than one woman. Is knowing how to cook or wearing a suit, so uncomfortable that you cannot fathom a man putting in a little extra effort in the romance department?

 

One-itis? Are you kidding? hahaha.

I had 2 dates last week, I have 3 set up this week.

These are ALL different girls with different personalities and interests....

 

The point is that *I* am happy and content in myself and with who I am. I am not going out of my way to take up interests or dress a certain way that JUST to impress a girl.

 

If I want to learn to cook, I will learn to cook, but not because someone told me girls like it.

 

Most of what you wrote is total crap but you're right, I DO want to find the perfect woman, so I am getting out there, chatting and talking to as many people as I come across in my daily life. Just because a woman says she likes a man who does X, I'm not going to change myself! She should like me for OTHER good traits I have for us to get along... or else maybe she doesn't, in which case we are not compatible... so it's no loss for either of us.

 

I mean... you call me lazy? You are an idiot. How many unique, thoughtful, exciting, dates have you set up in the past 2 weeks? Not many by the sounds of it.... LAZY? HAHAHAHA.

 

You're just looking at this all wrong... you want this "one size fits all" solution to your problem and you're looking in ALL the wrong places! Going the extra miles for someone you haven't even met yet? Do you know how stupid that sounds?

You don't even know this imaginary girl yet, how do you know what she likes or dislikes? Why are you changing yourself to supplicate to someone you don't know anything about?

 

If you have a girlfriend or a wife who you are committed too, and she suggests you learn to cook... sure, be that charming guy and go the extra mile for her.... but what if you spend the next year becoming a master chef with no dates in all that time and then the next girl you meet next year just likes tattoo artists? What will you do? You've wasted a whole year of your life meeting nobody and when you do, if was for all the wrong reasons....

 

Your logic is SOOOOO flawed it's laughable.... yet you ask for advice... someone disagree's, gives you REAL advice which will HELP you and you turn around and call me lazy, a "typcial" guy who knows nothing about women apparently?

 

You asked a question, I answered, you just didn't like the answer.

 

Why not take the advice? Sure, you don't believe me, but I DO get girls, lots of them... and none of them ever give a crap if I can cook, or wear a suit or whatever.

Sure, they like if I make them dinner, it's a sweet thing to do but whether it's a Gordon Ramsey recipe or beans on toast, they DON'T CARE! They only care I did it for them. Why can't you get this? There is no magic pill! Listen to to advice people are giving you here!

[jcrew11]

One-itis? Are you kidding? hahaha.

I had 2 dates last week, I have 3 set up this week.

These are ALL different girls with different personalities and interests....

 

The point is that *I* am happy and content in myself and with who I am. I am not going out of my way to take up interests or dress a certain way that JUST to impress a girl.

 

If I want to learn to cook, I will learn to cook, but not because someone told me girls like it.

 

Most of what you wrote is total crap but you're right, I DO want to find the perfect woman, so I am getting out there, chatting and talking to as many people as I come across in my daily life. Just because a woman says she likes a man who does X, I'm not going to change myself! She should like me for OTHER good traits I have for us to get along... or else maybe she doesn't, in which case we are not compatible... so it's no loss for either of us.

 

I mean... you call me lazy? You are an idiot. How many unique, thoughtful, exciting, dates have you set up in the past 2 weeks? Not many by the sounds of it.... LAZY? HAHAHAHA.

 

You're just looking at this all wrong... you want this "one size fits all" solution to your problem and you're looking in ALL the wrong places! Going the extra miles for someone you haven't even met yet? Do you know how stupid that sounds?

You don't even know this imaginary girl yet, how do you know what she likes or dislikes? Why are you changing yourself to supplicate to someone you don't know anything about?

 

If you have a girlfriend or a wife who you are committed too, and she suggests you learn to cook... sure, be that charming guy and go the extra mile for her.... but what if you spend the next year becoming a master chef with no dates in all that time and then the next girl you meet next year just likes tattoo artists? What will you do? You've wasted a whole year of your life meeting nobody and when you do, if was for all the wrong reasons....

 

Your logic is SOOOOO flawed it's laughable.... yet you ask for advice... someone disagree's, gives you REAL advice which will HELP you and you turn around and call me lazy, a "typcial" guy who knows nothing about women apparently?

 

You asked a question, I answered, you just didn't like the answer.

 

Why not take the advice? Sure, you don't believe me, but I DO get girls, lots of them... and none of them ever give a crap if I can cook, or wear a suit or whatever.

Sure, they like if I make them dinner, it's a sweet thing to do but whether it's a Gordon Ramsey recipe or beans on toast, they DON'T CARE! They only care I did it for them. Why can't you get this? There is no magic pill! Listen to to advice people are giving you here!

 

Well, you seem to be a Quality Boyfriend by putting in minimal effort. God forbid a guy hold himself to some higher standards than trying to hookup with the most dumb and desperate woman out there. God forbid I try to look good, and expect to find a woman who can look good in a nice dress as well. People's standards and expectations are so low these days. Let me guess, you are a traditional guy who expects a Woman to do all the Cooking and Cleaning?

[dasein]

Cook for groups and have parties where you cook lots of good food and you will get laid by randoms who get drunk on your booze and hang around "to help clean up." One on one dating though, being able to sign a bill in a nice restaurant works better as an aphrodisiac IME.

 

Learn to play an instrument. Profit.

[Estate]

Well, you seem to be a Quality Boyfriend by putting in minimal effort. God forbid a guy hold himself to some higher standards than trying to hookup with the most dumb and desperate woman out there. God forbid I try to look good, and expect to find a woman who can look good in a nice dress as well. People's standards and expectations are so low these days. Let me guess, you are a traditional guy who expects a Woman to do all the Cooking and Cleaning?

 

What a complete dumbass.

 

So YOU are the quality guy? Calling women you don't even know dumb and desperate? What a complete and utter idiot. No wonder you are alone with that attitude towards women.

 

I go on dates BECAUSE I CAN. I go on dates to meet QUALITY women who I can click with, I won't settle for less. When I meet a girl who I am attracted to and I like her, I will ask her out and believe me.... lack of effort? How many women have you asked out lately man?

 

I will go out of my way for any woman I CHOOSES to make my girlfriend but I am not desperate and neither is any woman I associate myself with. I just don't settle just because I got a nibble on the line.

 

Lack of effort? You are laughable... Do you even know me or any of these women?

 

Traditional guy? Cooking and cleaning? Get real... it's 2013! You seriously have shown with these threads you have ZERO idea about women...

and someone who DOES is actually trying to HELP you and you just act like a total idiot.

What do you do if a woman who actually likes you tries to hint at what she likes? Do you take her advice to get her or do you flip out like this at them?

 

Again, you are going about it TOTALLY wrong. You want to look good? Great, well you have ONE good idea... but it's to go around town wearing some cheap ass Macy's suit and thinking you are Barney Stinson... get a clue about fashion and style and stop TRYING SO HARD and maybe you might have some success.

 

You want to go an extra mile for a girl? How about you MEET ONE first and find out what she likes... THEN go the extra mile!!!!!

 

You're channelling all this energy into superficial things which have ZERO impact on you even meeting or attracting a woman. You are clueless yet won't take any advice.

 

I mean... a guy who actually DOES get women is trying to give you advice here and you obviously have this bitter attitude towards me, I suppose I'm some dumb jock type to you who has no clue.

Why not LISTEN????(Women like that!!!)

You're asking for advice, I am giving you REAL advice that MIGHT JUST WORK and because you can't or won't even bother to TRY do it, you just blast it and put all these stereotypes on me.

 

This is like the 10th thread I've had to say this.

I'm not a dumb jock. I am a very successful professional.

I'm not a gym rat but I take care of myself and look well whenever I can.

I get along with women because I neither act like some dumb jackass frat boy around them, nor come across like a whimpy little boy who has no idea how to talk to them and is willing to supplicate to anything they say.

I earn a good living, I have my own car, house, etc... I don't rely on anyone but myself.

I don't settle.

I don't get depressed and post miserable posts online all day becuase a girl didn't respond to me online or some crap.

 

Bottom line... I treat women as equals! I LISTEN to what EACH INDIVIDUAL one likes and if I like them enough too to want to persue them, I will GO THE EXTRA MILE for them... but not before.

 

Dude, seriously.. get a clue. It's SO obvious why you are alone but won't take advice from someone who is the slightest bit more successful than you are at this.

[Casablanca]

Of course...girl I'm talking with was impressed when I told her I actually cooked food instead of microwaving everything.

[jcrew11]

What a complete dumbass.

 

So YOU are the quality guy? Calling women you don't even know dumb and desperate? What a complete and utter idiot. No wonder you are alone with that attitude towards women.

 

I go on dates BECAUSE I CAN. I go on dates to meet QUALITY women who I can click with, I won't settle for less. When I meet a girl who I am attracted to and I like her, I will ask her out and believe me.... lack of effort? How many women have you asked out lately man?

 

I will go out of my way for any woman I CHOOSES to make my girlfriend but I am not desperate and neither is any woman I associate myself with. I just don't settle just because I got a nibble on the line.

 

Lack of effort? You are laughable... Do you even know me or any of these women?

 

Traditional guy? Cooking and cleaning? Get real... it's 2013! You seriously have shown with these threads you have ZERO idea about women...

and someone who DOES is actually trying to HELP you and you just act like a total idiot.

What do you do if a woman who actually likes you tries to hint at what she likes? Do you take her advice to get her or do you flip out like this at them?

 

Again, you are going about it TOTALLY wrong. You want to look good? Great, well you have ONE good idea... but it's to go around town wearing some cheap ass Macy's suit and thinking you are Barney Stinson... get a clue about fashion and style and stop TRYING SO HARD and maybe you might have some success.

 

You want to go an extra mile for a girl? How about you MEET ONE first and find out what she likes... THEN go the extra mile!!!!!

 

You're channelling all this energy into superficial things which have ZERO impact on you even meeting or attracting a woman. You are clueless yet won't take any advice.

 

I mean... a guy who actually DOES get women is trying to give you advice here and you obviously have this bitter attitude towards me, I suppose I'm some dumb jock type to you who has no clue.

Why not LISTEN????(Women like that!!!)

You're asking for advice, I am giving you REAL advice that MIGHT JUST WORK and because you can't or won't even bother to TRY do it, you just blast it and put all these stereotypes on me.

 

This is like the 10th thread I've had to say this.

I'm not a dumb jock. I am a very successful professional.

I'm not a gym rat but I take care of myself and look well whenever I can.

I get along with women because I neither act like some dumb jackass frat boy around them, nor come across like a whimpy little boy who has no idea how to talk to them and is willing to supplicate to anything they say.

I earn a good living, I have my own car, house, etc... I don't rely on anyone but myself.

I don't settle.

I don't get depressed and post miserable posts online all day becuase a girl didn't respond to me online or some crap.

 

Bottom line... I treat women as equals! I LISTEN to what EACH INDIVIDUAL one likes and if I like them enough too to want to persue them, I will GO THE EXTRA MILE for them... but not before.

 

Dude, seriously.. get a clue. It's SO obvious why you are alone but won't take advice from someone who is the slightest bit more successful than you are at this.

 

What's your advice then - don't learn how to cook, don't go to clubs wearing suits, just be boring self, and the women will come crawling! Oh I got it work out 8 hours everyday at the gym.

[ltjg45]

What's your advice then - don't learn how to cook, don't go to clubs wearing suits, just be boring self, and the women will come crawling! Oh I got it work out 8 hours everyday at the gym.

 

You don't have to learn how to cook. Like some females have already stated, they don't want their males to take them over in the cooking department. I can respect that. If you want to learn how to cook, do it for yourself.

 

You should also know why NOT wearing a suit will help your case but apparently you do make 50k+ a year so it doesn't apply to you.

 

The rest of that crap? It's just crap.

[Jane2011]

Learn to play an instrument. Profit.

 

Agree.

 

The biggest "hobby turn-on" (for me) is a guy who plays the guitar.

[Estate]

What's your advice then - don't learn how to cook, don't go to clubs wearing suits, just be boring self, and the women will come crawling! Oh I got it work out 8 hours everyday at the gym.

 

No, Jesus man, cop yourself on!

 

Here's some advice:

Yes, go to the gym... like 1 hours a few times a week... you can't do THAT much? Yet women have to spend hours on themselves for you? 1 hours like 3-4 times a week never killed anyone and if you don't eat like crap in between you'll see major benefits, both in attractiveness and eh... living longer!

 

No, don't wear suits...don't be THAT guy... spend the same money on 2 cool pairs of jeans, a few v-necks, a fitted blazer, a few fitted shirts and a nice pair of leather shoes.

You now have a whole new wardrobe which you can interchange items to go almost anywhere.

 

Do go to clubs... why not? Go to LOTS of places that girls are and just say Hi and get chatting.

 

DON'T be boring. A suit doesn't make you less boring. Cooking doesn't make you less boring... just moping around and having a victim mentallity and being generally a boring guy, makes you boring....

Work on your personality and conversation skills if people aren't responding to them.

 

DO learn to cook but only if YOU want to learn to cook... otherwise replace cooking with reading, or yoga, or joining a football team or gokarting or freaking ANYTHING.

THAT makes you attractive, you have hobbies and interests where you meet FRIENDS and have your own life which YOU are happy with.

 

 

 

That's just a start... and this is SIMPLE stuff that you can start doing TODAY. Want more advice? Have more questions? Just ask! WE WILL HELP YOU!

 

But please... don't reply to this with a whole bunch of excuses why NONE of that is anything you can do.

[2.50 a gallon]

Knowing how to cook well, was only one of my skills that I brought to the bedroom. But it was right up there with dancing, being able to make a cold approach to a woman, and being able to let them talk and listen

 

Shortly after the breakup of my marriage, I began to teach myself how to cook some gourmet meals, as they took a lot of effort, thus keeping my mind off of her every second, I ended up with a great tasting meal and they came in quite hand when I re-entered the dating scene.

 

When the Ex and I broke up, I found myself a thousand miles from home, and being as we had just moved there, without a friend in the world. When I went looking for a new apartment I chose a large complex of mostly singles and picked on on the ground floor so my Weber could be just outside my door and then let the aroma of well cooking meat to its magic.

 

When cooking on a grill learn how to marinate the meat the night before, and then how to cook it slowly. One of my best sellers was kabobs, with steak and shrimp. You boil and deveing the shrimp the night before, then let it marinate overnight in white wine. Wrap it in a slice of bacon when out put in on the kabob.

 

Dishes I learned how to cook, Coq au Vin (French for Chicken in Wine) was always a hit, wines with other meats, pork, beef, lasgna, homemade ravioli, green chili burritos, chicken and dumplings, beef stroganoff, sweat & sour shrimp, jambalaya, applesauce and pork chops. Learn how to make a good gravy, you can make one from scratch with a boulin cube, butter, water and flour

 

Learn how to use a crock pot.

 

Also used to spend wintery days making homemade pasta, then get out the ravioli maker.

 

Also try some of the boxed mixes like cheese cake, then added canned blue berrys or cherrys.

 

By far the most successful was wine and cut out cookies. Christmas, halloween, thanksgiving, valentines, St. Patricks day and sometimes just for the fun of it.

 

I had a big grocery bag of cutters, and would empty it on the table, and let them pick out which ones we would use. Even have some of Tweety, and Porky pig. Generally it did not take long for the wine to take affect, and they would let the little girl in them come out an play. Over a 15 year period, I guess it got me at least 30 dates.

 

Twenty years ago I met this totally out of my league long legged blonde, whom I wanted badly. As with all lookers, she had a BF, so I waited until he made a mistake. They temporarily broke up for six months while he went off to clean up from drugs. Fourth date, I brought her over to bake halloween cookies, then later thanksgiving, for Christmas she gave me a large plastic container to replace the paper bag. He came back early, but it was too late. We have now been together for over 17 happy years.

 

I do 90% of the cooking, and almost all of the dish washing, fair trade as she comes home to me every night and happily does all of my laundry and nicely folds everything

 

Quite often when we are out together, I will catch other guys with that "What the hell is she doing with him?" look on his face.

 

You see, I am retired, a short skinny guy, and not that good looking, and she is not only taller than me, she is also a granny that still has an hour glass figure. Daily she has a half an hour routine where she washes her face with special oils, what ever, and still looks like she is barely 40.

Edited February 28, 2013 by 2.50 a gallon

[Els]

Agree.

 

The biggest "hobby turn-on" (for me) is a guy who plays the guitar.

 

Hahahah, this just shows how different women are, and how pointless it is for the OP to assume that any one thing will be a guaranteed turn-on.

 

My bf does both: Play the guitar and cook. And I gotta admit the cooking is a way bigger turn-on. Perhaps it's because I can play several instruments myself and grew up amongst people who could all play at least one. On the other hand, it's not that common to find young men who know how to cook anything more complex than instant sauce and assembled stuff, at least where I come from.

[ja123]

It's a real treat if a man cooks for a woman. I find it sexy!

 

Someone mentioned that it's good to know how to make healthy food. That's true! I once had a man that cooked for me ... but added extra calories, then he complained that I'd gained weight! How ironic! HAHAAAA

[jcrew11]

Hahahah, this just shows how different women are, and how pointless it is for the OP to assume that any one thing will be a guaranteed turn-on.

 

My bf does both: Play the guitar and cook. And I gotta admit the cooking is a way bigger turn-on. Perhaps it's because I can play several instruments myself and grew up amongst people who could all play at least one. On the other hand, it's not that common to find young men who know how to cook anything more complex than instant sauce and assembled stuff, at least where I come from.

 

Well, eating and cooking is something humans do everyday. Its one of the necessities in life. Also, some people are poor and can't go out to expensive restaurants, so its easier to create a nice romantic set-up at home. I just don't really think its that far-fetched or difficult to try to cook up a fancy meal once in a while to impress a girl.

[clia]

Single women only like men who cook while wearing suits.

[NYWoman]

Would that be their birthday suits?

 

It sounds erotic, but dangerous

[veggirl]

A guy grilling is cool, I like that cause I can't do it.

 

A guy in the kitchen stirring sauces and whatnot...that doesn't turn me on at all tbh...I find cooking very feminine soooo I'd rather do it for him than him do it for me. I know that's weird...

 

I'm cool with him cooking me breakfast, but dinner I prefer to care of.

[Archgirl]

Totally addicted to sushi atm.

A man who can cook - Definitely a turn on, I love watching men be competent at things

[Estate]

Well, eating and cooking is something humans do everyday. Its one of the necessities in life. Also, some people are poor and can't go out to expensive restaurants, so its easier to create a nice romantic set-up at home. I just don't really think its that far-fetched or difficult to try to cook up a fancy meal once in a while to impress a girl.

 

So JCrew... I take it you're ignoring the advice/help offered to you?

[leigh305]

i like men who know how to cook...mostly because i'm not very good at it...