crystal.mayer Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 So I'm 23 and my bf wants me to sleep over his house but I really don't want to. Idk, maybe I'm old fashion . We've been dating for a yr and this will sound pretty stupid but I want to wake up next to the guy who I know I'm going to spend the rest of my life with. I'm not a virgin or anything I just feel weird about the sleeping over thing. What do you guys think?
ScienceGal Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 You've been dating a year but haven't ever woken up next to him? Have you had sex with him?
Author crystal.mayer Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 You've been dating a year but haven't ever woken up next to him? Have you had sex with him? Yes I have, he was a virgin and recently lost it to me but I sort of don't want to have sex with him again, he's younger than I am and I honestly don't think he's ready for the responsibilities of having sex. I've taken naps with him during the day but I seem to have a problem with the sleeping over part, with every bf I've had I've just always avoided it! I either leave before falling asleep or I make them leave. I know it's weird but ...
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Well, if you don't want to sleep with this guy again, then I agree--don't do sleep overs. Unfortunately, now that you've had sex with him, he'll want more. The easiest solution is to avoid scenarios that would lead him on. More generally, you're entitled to have any preferences you want. I like the intimacy of waking up to a serious boyfriend whether I am sleeping with him or not. It's your prerogative to prefer the reverse. Stick to what makes you happy.
Soxfaninfl Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Yes I have, he was a virgin and recently lost it to me but I sort of don't want to have sex with him again, he's younger than I am and I honestly don't think he's ready for the responsibilities of having sex. I've taken naps with him during the day but I seem to have a problem with the sleeping over part, with every bf I've had I've just always avoided it! I either leave before falling asleep or I make them leave. I know it's weird but ... It's a little weird, but my ex wife's best fried would make her boyfriends sleep on the floor when they slept over, so it's not too wired.
miss_jaclynrae Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 It's a little weird, but my ex wife's best fried would make her boyfriends sleep on the floor when they slept over, so it's not too wired. That is bizarre. Yes. I definitely think it is weird.
ScienceGal Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 (edited) If he isn't "ready for the responsibilities of having sex" then this is about more than sleepovers... Either stop having sex until you feel he is mature enough to handle it, or separate and find someone you're more compatible with. Edited February 27, 2013 by ScienceGal
rocketman122 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 man this really weird. not sleep over after a year together. man that guy has patience. truthfully, I would not stay if you didnt want to sleep over. its just amazing to wake up spooning the one you love. waking her with great cunnilingus, the great morning wood, er, sex. getting breakfast together..ITS THE BEST!
Keenly Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 It sounds like you are not interested in your boyfriend. Maybe its time to consider letting him go.. having sex with him and then denying any future sex is going to hurt his feelings, as he will see it as a rejection. Same with you having no desire to cuddle with him all night.... another rejection. Are you sure you Even like him? 1
carhill Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 The rest of your life is today. You could be dead tomorrow. This young man shared his first sexual experience with you and has apparently been dating you for a year. That's a lot of 'todays'. If you're not sure of how you feel about this year of todays, then clarify that and make a choice. Relationships don't back up, they move forward, one day at a time. How does he feel about not having 'sleep-overs'? You're partners in this. His opinion matters. 1
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