Author ifonlyenough Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 OP - you are reallly pretty, and your body size sounds really desirable to most men! Women come in all shapes and sizes; some men prefer curvier women, some men prefer brunettes, and etc... Please know though - your VERY PRETTY to a lot of men, and most men would feel lucky to have a wome who looks like you, and who is a nice person also:) Go and find a man who really loves you! This guy might really like you a lot, despite his nastyness, he obviously likes being around you a lot and he would like you to some extent... However, I suspect he sounds like a man who does not really have a high capacity to actually love ANY women.. he sounds too flawed and cold and heartless to really experience love or much feelings towards women or people in general:sick: That, or he is a jerk, and no decent women would want him anyway~! Your a decent women by the sounds of things, and deep down I KNOW you do not truly want him either...... You know what you have to do. Good luck..... Thanks! You are VERY sweet!!! Thanks for the super kind words!! So blessed!
tbf Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 You're hilarious.. Keep upping the ante until you get the response and the stir in the crowd you are looking for....And a tear down of me when you don't like my response. Is this what you do to your boyfriend when you don't like his response? A rhetorical question.
Locust Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 I'm very in love with my boyfriend of just 4 months but there are a few red flags that I don't think I can get over. We've probably moved fast and have spent almost every day together since we met. At first, he would make comments about other women's "hotness" and body parts in front of me... even pictures of my friends. I made it clear that I thought this was rude and disrespectful and he eventually stopped. I am his first girlfriend ever. (He is 26 and I am 29) Then he would make little comments about my weight and things like "how I could make my butt bigger". Keep in mind I am 5'5" and 118 and he is the one overweight at 6'3" and 248. Then, it comes out that he basically has a porn addiction and masterbates sometimes up to 5 times a day. After porn/sex addiction destroyed my first marriage, I have no tolerance for this, and I told him that up front. When stuff started popping up everywhere about nasty sites, he finally admitted it, but claimed he didn't recall me telling him. Then he starts bawling to me, saying he "doesn't want to loose me... and he will never do it again..blah blah blah.." So, I explain to him how much it destroyed me before. My ex husband constantly rejected me and put me down for porn. Then he brings it up himself to tell me he hasn't been doing it anymore, and wont do it to hurt me.. I knew saying he would never do it again was a promise he couldn't keep, but hoped he would at least take steps. I knew his nit picking of me was part of his disillusionment of what a real women looks like. After he made a comment about my weight in a recent picture, I got upset, and finally said, "I don't meet your standards do I?" and he say's "Well, no woman really does."... Uhhh... OKay!! So he reluctantly begins to basically describe a porn star to me in great detail... "long hair, tan skin, toned body, nice butt (about this big he says), boobs this size. height 5'2"-5'5", defined abs.... and on... I was like "Really? No wonder you've been single".. and he just shrugged. I then was like, "Why the heck are you with me then if I don't meet your standards? He went on "I love you and I don't care about that anymore... blah blah"... Well then, why did you just tell me this and why do you keep tearing me down... The irony is that I'm actually pretty thin. Then I ask him about the porn, and he say's he has "glanced at it a few times." but that was it and he "only wanted to see if it would do anything for him, and it didn't really." I then asked him what a "few" meant to him and he said "somewhere around 5".. Uhh.. Ok... Then I tell him what a bunch of bs that he just told me.. "oh you just glanced at it?" "Give me a break" "Just own it". Then he tries a different approach by saying he did it because of me and how I made him feel... What? Now it was my fault... But couldn't tell me what it was that I did... I expected it not to be over, but why not just own it and be honest? I just couldn't handle it anymore. He never had even had more than a one night stand before me. I'm really scared of making a mistake and ending up with the wrong person again, and all I want in the world is to be loved and accepted for who I am. I don't want to feel like I'm not good enough or in competition or clearly compared with random objectified women online. Is it time to move on? All of this combined with the fact that he is a super huge mama's boy... (He even told me how she bawled to him when he told her he was seeing someone..omg).. I would rather break ties as soon as possible then be with someone who I'm never going to be enough for... Any advice is great. I'm sorry to hear ifonlyenough and being 26 years old my surprised which surprises me that he can't distinguish from a fake girl who probably had several stages of plastic surgery to get the perfect butt and cleavage. I think the porn industry has created a image in most young men minds of a ideal woman figure that is impossible to achieve because its really not possible. I had a casual acquaintance show me a porn video and I just was like oh barbie dolls. If I can distinguish the women in porn videos are not realistic then he should be able to. If that is your profile picture on the left, well I'll share my opinion. I think your gorgeous and its too bad for him he can't see he has a real beautiful woman and not some barbie doll he sees in porn videos.
Leigh 87 Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Thanks! You are VERY sweet!!! Thanks for the super kind words!! So blessed! I am honest too; your are very pretty to enough men out there, for you to not have to worry about getting guys who adore you and the way that you look... Use common sense please, just think: I am sure you KNOW very normal looking women, who have guys who love and adore them! I know it will be hard to let go of a man you have probably become very attached to! I highly recommend you post in the break up section! When you are crying and heartbroken and being apart from him, you will have 50 people who have been through THE SAME THING, there to support you. It really helps having people on here who are going through a hard break up, or have gone through it before.... I know it is hard to go without people you like a lot or even love, but it is by FAR more easier to go through this tempporary pain, in order to find a guy who truly does love you and the way you look
camillalev Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 It doesn't need to be said again, but the guy is an enormous ******* who intentionally says things he knows will cut you down, using "honesty" as a paper-thin shield. I'm interested in seeing what you'll end up doing.
hppr Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 It doesn't need to be said again, but the guy is an enormous ******* who intentionally says things he knows will cut you down, using "honesty" as a paper-thin shield. I'm interested in seeing what you'll end up doing. Leave him for a guy that's basically the same.
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