Author kaylan Posted February 28, 2013 Author Posted February 28, 2013 No kidding and to make matters worse, he thinks he won the lottery with this "gem". Wait till he is on the receiving end of this. He actually thinks that he is "different", "special", etc. from his "friend" and no way this woman does to him what he did to his "friend". He has much to learn. Much to learn? Lmao. Stop being a pretentuous know it all. I am different from my friend because I dont have his size. Nor have I gotten around the way he has. Hes hooked up with a chick friend of mine before whos said the same thing about him down there. And the way I get along with girls I date...they know they can come talk to me about our sex life and be honest with me. Plus I wouldnt be upset if a girl told her friends about our sex life...thats what guy and chick friends d with one another. If she wasnt getting off...was faking it...and didnt tell me about it...well thats on her. Because i make sure my gals can see im an attentive lover and open to direction. I outright tell them communication is important to me and that i want us to enjoy ourselves. If they dont wanna follow suit...its on them. meh.
veggirl Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 If my best or close friends new man was talking s.hit about her and I knew it, I would tell her asap. If he was like "oh its like throwing a hot dog down a hallway", no I wouldn't tell her those exact words, but I would say "he is talking s.hit about your sex life with him to his buddies". If this was an acquaintence and he was talking s.hit, no I wouldn't tell. 1
William Posted February 28, 2013 Posted February 28, 2013 Moderation would like members to steer this thread back to discussion about 'warning the dude' and keep the explicit sex talk out of it, since the details aren't topical and this will keep the thread in the current forum. Thanks.
chucksagent Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 You're just coming off as a bad friend man. You keep putting your friend down and building yourself up. And the fact you have to ASK us all what to do speaks volumes about how strong the friendship is. As I said, women come and go...ESPECIALLY when you describe them as "girls we are currently hanging out with." Lol. Not like "the love of my life." 1
Author kaylan Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 You're just coming off as a bad friend man. You keep putting your friend down and building yourself up. And the fact you have to ASK us all what to do speaks volumes about how strong the friendship is. As I said, women come and go...ESPECIALLY when you describe them as "girls we are currently hanging out with." Lol. Not like "the love of my life." Im not asking you what to do. Ive said what im doing, and Im asking what others would do. None of what anyone has said has changed what I originally planned to do...which is to stay out of it. This guy is a buddy. Not a best friend. Which is why I wont jeopardize my own love life for a guy I merely consider a buddy and a good wing man. We arent close enough where dick size conversations wont truly alter our friendship. Hell, I dont even think I could have that convo with my best friend. Then again, I know him and the girls hes dated well enough to know he doesnt have a size issue.
candie13 Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 I think it's a delicate situation - his current date's "perception" is that his dimensions aren't... satisfactory. Maybe he's got the regular length not the regular girth.. I mean, so many details, you cannot possibly make any assumptions into that direction. However, if I were you, I would NOT talk to my friend about his date's sexual frustrations - that is his problem to solve, communication in general and communication in bed. What I woud do, however, is sort of red flag him that she's not EMOTIONALLY on the same length wave as he is. If your friend is falling for the girl and is totally unaware that there are issues, yeah, I would maybe make an observation or two to raise his attention to that factor - she is not that into him. Up to him to take it from here and do the math. Unfortunately, the piece of info you got (bed sheet type) and how you got it makes it impossible for you to use it to your friend's benefit. I mean, this chick might think he's totally useless and the next girl might think he's a God in bed (I sort of am prefer "regular" size men, more comfortable for me, as opposed to larger... it's linked to mechanics, and how bodies function... pleasure is a very subjective matter). It's about compatibility in bed and perception, it doesn't necessarily mean he has a small... you know... p.... . So you can't really tell him: "hey man, your date thinks so and so". It is up to him to figure out that whatever it is that they are doing, she's not entirely satisfied, not up to you to communicate it.
Author kaylan Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 (edited) ^Hes aware that things arent perfect. Theres other things going on with them right now that are being worked on. So Im sure theyll be a good look at their relationship and issues soon.Kaylan... I am really concerned about the fact that you find normal and necessary to talk about the size of other guys with the girls you have a relationship with... I have never ever have the size talk with a woman and even less about someone else ... I play competitive team sports and obviously in the changing room often we all get to see each other nude ... but even between men the only comments I have ever hear about size is about the guys who actually are very big... we joke with them all the time! (Like I didn't know you had a third leg.. or what kind of mutant are you.. or this kind of jokes...), but I have never discussed with any of my girlfriends or even any of my friends (some of them are my friends since we were 4 years old) the size of our penis or the size of someone else... I am beginning to believe that you actually have some insecurities about your size and need reassurance by comparing yourself with your friends... What are you talking about? You are acting like I go around looking for info on a guys measurement. The girl Im dating mentioned there was trouble in bed with my friend and the other chick...and I asked her what that trouble was. I know how big my best friend is because in the past hes mentioned having to go easy on his ex gf during sex. Best friends have no problem sharing that kinda info with one another. Esp since weve been friends since high school. So no, again you are off base and incorrect with your assumptions? Im insecure about my size? loololol. Not at all dude. Ive always gotten nothing but compliments on my size and how I make girls feel. If anything I could gloat about my size...but be insecure? Nah. Try again bro. Edited March 1, 2013 by kaylan
2sure Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Just remember a nice quotes about friendship people could use around here! "True friends stab you in the front" Oscar Wilde "Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down." Oprah Winfrey "A true friend is someone who is there for you when he'd rather be anywhere else." Len Wein And last one but most relevant! "If it's very painful for you to criticize your friends - you're safe in doing it. But if you take the slightest pleasure in it, that's the time to hold your tongue." Alice Duer Miller My goodness, we're not talking about deception and betrayal, we're talking about a simple social grace. You should relax no? It isn't as though the original poster is considering ending the friendship because of the friends misfortune. Given that OP has become privy to this info via overhearing a conversation...otherwise known as eavesdropping...this isn't something to be shared. It wont effect his health or finances, it isn't urgent. 1
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