Sucks when you cant warn a dude...

[kaylan]

Besides the whole matter.

This is not pillow talk.

The girl you are seeing is way out of line.

Can you imagine what else she may be sharing?

 

That should be your main concern.

She should have not shared this with you, point blank

People need to get a grip. Couples talk...and I did inquire about how my friend and his girl were doing. I was told his chick wasnt the happiest and I asked why. So my chick wasnt really out of line. And his chick wasnt out of line in sharing those things with a friends. Girls talk to their chick friends about their relationships and sex the same way guy friends do.

 

Also, in response to the others on this page...its not my place to interfere with this dudes relationship. Hes my buddy, but hes not like my best bro or anything. He seems happy, and I cant know for sure if his girl wont become happier as time moves on. Why would I get in the way and expedite him getting hurt?

 

People are talking about bros b4 hoes? Gimme a damn break...bros before hoes doesnt mean I jump in and interfere in a relationship just because his chick is having some doubts. If she was cheating...yeah Id tell him...but people have doubts all the time. Im not gonna jeopordize something I have with a really cool chick all based on a little bit of girl talk.

 

Get real people.

[kaylan]

I honestly would love to know if my girlfriend is complaining about me sexually and much more if she is complaining in front of other guys... If that is not a clear red flag..I don't know what a red flag it is..

 

I would appreciate my friend to be loyal to me in ANY kind of circumstances... I prefer to be embarrassed that being the last idiot that gets to know my girlfriend is down talking me around her friends...

No friend of mine would withhold information about such a behavior from my girlfriend... and if he would do that and I would find out the friendship will be at steak!

Get a grip. This girl told one friend...not the whole world as you are insinuating. And why would I open my mouth when its quite possible shes trying to fix things with him? This girl does like my friend and think hes a good guy. Im not gonna jump to conclusions and make assumptions..and then open my trap when I dont know whats exactly going on.

[kaylan]

One second... so this girl didn't really complain about her boyfriend in front of you but it was your girlfriend the one that actually told you that.

 

That changes the game totally... anyway I think is totally wrong for your gf to tell her what her friend have confessed her personally about someone she knows you know... Sorry but your girlfriend should know when to shut up... She is not that good friend of her friend if she can't hold on in such a personal information...

You may think its wrong...but most people share a lot of information with people they are dating. Its usually just regular conversation to a couple...especially when youre contrasting your relationship to someone elses.

 

If you read many of the posts on this forum, youll realize that people dating or in relationships will sometimes mention things mentioned to them by their friends. Hell, the reason this mostly came up with my chick was due to my own inquiry really.

[kaylan]

I'm less shocked by the sex aspect of this than the fact that it's known she is dating him because he lives closer than her first choice! What's up with that? Hope I interpreted that right.

 

If she is settling for him, then surely he is already aware of that fact, so I vote for saying nothing.

Im not sure how aware of this he is. They both know that before the relationship started that they were both multidating. Outside of that...Im not sure what hes aware of. They both played games before committing.

[kaylan]

If she is a good friend she would just have told you that they are having some troubles and that is all... she could share some information with you if you would not know the guy... but come on.. you are his friend.. it is totally humiliating the other guy!

 

I wounder what would would you think if the situation would be the other way around... I am sure you would love your friends having pillow talkings with their girlfriends about how you suck in sex?

No one in this situation is best of friends. And even if they were, I still expect couples to talk.

 

If I was in this situation, I wouldnt be mad at my friend or the women they are seeing. Id only be upset with the girl Im seeing for talking to other people before communicating with me. But Im realistic and know couples talk about things.

 

Plus what guy wants to hear from his friend that he isnt exactly what his gf wants in bed? Its not another mans place to bring that up...especially when its possible they can work on this.

[Soxfaninfl]

People need to get a grip. Couples talk...and I did inquire about how my friend and his girl were doing. I was told his chick wasnt the happiest and I asked why. So my chick wasnt really out of line. And his chick wasnt out of line in sharing those things with a friends. Girls talk to their chick friends about their relationships and sex the same way guy friends do.

 

Also, in response to the others on this page...its not my place to interfere with this dudes relationship. Hes my buddy, but hes not like my best bro or anything. He seems happy, and I cant know for sure if his girl wont become happier as time moves on. Why would I get in the way and expedite him getting hurt?

 

People are talking about bros b4 hoes? Gimme a damn break...bros before hoes doesnt mean I jump in and interfere in a relationship just because his chick is having some doubts. If she was cheating...yeah Id tell him...but people have doubts all the time. Im not gonna jeopordize something I have with a really cool chick all based on a little bit of girl talk.

 

Get real people.

 

If a women is unhappy with a mans penis size then it's just a matter of time before she breaks up with him. He can't do anything about his size. I don't believe in that motion of the ocean crap. Size does matter. Thankfully I'm above average, and I have never had to deal with that issue with a women. If my lady wasn't happy with my penis size then I would just cut my losses and move on. Why fall in love with someone you can't please sexually. She also has settled for him, and is waiting for someone else. Why let him get more emotionally involved with this girl?

[SmileFace]

Kaylan if she wasn't out of line.

How about you get in line and tell your friend.

[ScreamingTrees]

Great, another thread to reinforce the belief that I shouldn't bother opening up to anyone, lest my body be ridiculed behind my back.

 

Too bad you couldn't tell him, I'd personally love to give a girl the whole "I'm sorry, but I'm just not feeling it" to **** with her head, if I knew she wasn't really into me and was just using me for specific things.

[Quiet Storm]

I think you should tell him.

 

He needs to know that his girl is running her mouth about him. Give him the chance to dump her before she cheats.

 

I agree that your GF shouldn't have told you. It's immature and gossipy.

 

However, don't ignore the possibility that the whole thing could've been designed to start drama, and you fell into the trap. The "small d!ck" trick is trump card many immature girls use to get back at their boyfriends for some legitimate or perceived wrongdoing. Some women get off on making men feel insecure, it gives them a sense of power and superiority. It's not hard to start a rumor.

[dasein]

Don't be so sure you are seeing the whole picture. A HS acquaintance was going around bragging about screwing a girl and talking badly about her, she was beneath him, butterface, two bagger, blahblah. A couple of wiser friends told him not to go around spouting that trash as who knows the future. The guy and the girl "beneath him" have been happily married for over 25 years and this story gets told, not in a mean way, at reunions behind his back to this day.

 

You never know until you -know-. Most of what one hears is likely noise that may or not be reflective of the true deal. For all you know, you could be being played as part of a pushpull game these girls are running. Just one of many possibilities here. So put any reservations out of your mind. There's a reason hearsay is not admissible in court.

[CptObvious]

Stay out of it bro. A bro shall not defend a bro in this situation. The weak must be left to die.

[StanMusial]

Don't be so sure you are seeing the whole picture. A HS acquaintance was going around bragging about screwing a girl and talking badly about her, she was beneath him, butterface, two bagger, blahblah. A couple of wiser friends told him not to go around spouting that trash as who knows the future. The guy and the girl "beneath him" have been happily married for over 25 years and this story gets told, not in a mean way, at reunions behind his back to this day.

 

You never know until you -know-. Most of what one hears is likely noise that may or not be reflective of the true deal. For all you know, you could be being played as part of a pushpull game these girls are running. Just one of many possibilities here. So put any reservations out of your mind. There's a reason hearsay is not admissible in court.

 

I agree with this post. I wouldn't get involved on second-hand information, you'll just get caught up in the rumor mill. If I saw the dude's gf out kissing a guy or running around then I'd probably tell him. Or if I had some actionable information in some other way. For all you know she is just a world-class b*tch that likes to start shyte.

[2sure]

There is no way to tell a friend in advance that you know his girlfriend is unhappy with the size of his penis.

 

In this area alone, men must be lied to at all times.

[johan]

There is no way to tell a friend in advance that you know his girlfriend is unhappy with the size of his penis.

 

It depends on the friendship. It might be something to give him a really hard time about, even if it isn't true.

[Emilia]

People who justify lying in one situation will always find justifications to lie in other situations too....

 

I must remember to be brutally honest then when a guy next time mentions me his penis size. I'll tell him it was your idea to tell him what I REALLY thought.

[Soxfaninfl]

The motion of the ocean does certainly matter. The boyfriend I had that was the best in bed had the smallest dick. Its probably because I dont get off easily from actual sex (like a lot of women) and this guy was more willing to satisfy me other ways. Plus, he was more adventurous

 

What I've seen on this LS is some women need a large penis and some can get off with a smaller one. My ex told me straight out after we had sex for the first time that my penis was a good size, or we wouldn't have worked out. I was surprised when she said that, but at least she was being honest. If I wasn't big enough then I simply would have moved on. She also told me that her sister could get off with a 4 inch penis, but she needed a longer one. Some women require size and others not so much.

Edited February 28, 2013 by Soxfaninfl

[2sure]

That is so true... I also wonder if maybe the problem is that OP girlfriend thought OP was a bit insecure with his size and that would be a good way to reassure him...

 

 

People who justify lying in one situation will always find justifications to lie in other situations too....

 

I have no problem at all telling someone they look fine if it is already too late to change their clothes. None. So, if telling someone their physical characteristics that they cannot change are prefectly OK makes me a liar in all walks of my life - you have a lot, a real lot, to learn.

[chucksagent]

AnimalLover - You nailed it. This is not something people should be discussing. If the one girl is sharing it with the other girl, then that is just friends talking. But you are HIS friend. Even the way you worded it "my buddy and I are dating these two girls." Notice how you wrote that? Your LOYALTIES belong to him. Not a couple of females.

 

It's been my experience in life, that if a Man holds a female who IS NOT HIS WIFE above a friend regarding importance, he usually isn't worth being a friend to begin with. This whole "man code" or "bro code" before it got cuties facebook and twitter jokes, came from a REAL PLACE. Men are different than women. They aren't catty, they don't like drama, they don't talk about each other behind their backs, they don't deliberately hang out with ugly guys to make themselves look better, they don't say they have ugly friends to girls to make the girls want them more, they REMAIN friends a lot longer, etc.

 

I've had the SAME guy friends since 10th grade. Roughly 20 years now...NOT ONE of my girlfriends had a friendship like that. The only one who still did, sees them like twice a year maybe. I see many of my friends once a week, at LEAST once a month. And we all usually email or text daily.

 

It's called a bond. You can't POSSIBLY bond with someone who doesn't have your back 100%. That's just life. That's why relationships are all about trust.

 

Now it's one thing if your girl just let it slip to you and it was JUST the two of you. But if his girl is telling YOU that ****, one on one, or to the girl AROUND you, you absolutely ABSOLUTELY have to speak up. Heck, maybe even to her directly when she says it. Normal, mature people don't bash someone they supposedly care about to their mutual friends....that's cold man. You are all supposed to love this guy - how would you feel if roles reversed?

 

You talk like you are in such a power position here, but guess what, when you aren't around, maybe they are talking about the guy with the little brain, or little character, for not sticking up for his buddy.

 

That's not my insulting you, I'm just saying how women can be two faced. Nobody ever THINKS they are the ones being mocked. Lol. Just take your buddy for example!

[dasein]

Well if what you say is true, that women are more catty and prone to drama than men, then as a man, is it really the -wise- thing to go repeating every unsubstanted thing that comes out of a woman's mouth as gospel in the name of having a friend's back when that revelation could cause real damage but is based entirely on pillowtalk -hearsay-?

[Quiet Storm]

The motion of the ocean does certainly matter. The boyfriend I had that was the best in bed had the smallest dick. Its probably because I dont get off easily from actual sex (like a lot of women) and this guy was more willing to satisfy me other ways. Plus, he was more adventurous

 

 

Very true. The female g spot is only a couple inches in. If they know how to properly hit that spot...size would be an afterthought. These young girls probably don't know about their g spot yet and blame his size because they don't know any better. I was in my 20s before my husband and I figured it out. It's hard to find, but once you put it to use, whoa! The g-spot is like an ATM card, it must be activated.

[kaylan]

Very true. The female g spot is only a couple inches in. If they know how to properly hit that spot...size would be an afterthought. These young girls probably don't know about their g spot yet and blame his size because they don't know any better. I was in my 20s before my husband and I figured it out. It's hard to find, but once you put it to use, whoa! The g-spot is like an ATM card, it must be activated.

Posts like this, while partly true, are also somewhat arrogant in my opinion. Because they seem to discount the knowledge and experience of women who dont get off with smaller than average penises.

 

Plenty of women know they need to feel an average or above average penis in them to feel satisfied. And plenty of women know exactly what gets them off despite what you say they do and do not know about g spot.

 

Sure I can get off with a number of vaginal sizes...but sex feels best when a girl is the right amount of tightness. Not too tight...not too lose either. Who is anyone else to tell me different about what feels go for my body?

 

And just because someone sometimes has an orgasm doesnt mean they had an amazing orgasm or great sex. So I wouldnt try to be an authority on other peoples bodies...especially when a person has experienced what great sex is for them.

[Drseussgrrl]

Size matters. Period.

[kaylan]

That is so true... I also wonder if maybe the problem is that OP girlfriend thought OP was a bit insecure with his size and that would be a good way to reassure him...

 

 

People who justify lying in one situation will always find justifications to lie in other situations too....

Trust me when I say Im not insecure about my size...nor has it ever been an issue for me. Women usually remark about me being able to fill them up well...and a few have had to keep a hand on my stomach to keep me from going too deep. Im not huge down there...but I am above average and some smaller girls I have to be more careful with.

 

If anything Ill be more worried about hurting chicks who arent the biggest down there themselvws..ratjer than worry if Im enough to satisfy them.

[Quiet Storm]

Posts like this, while partly true, are also somewhat arrogant in my opinion. Because they seem to discount the knowledge and experience of women who dont get off with smaller than average penises.

 

Plenty of women know they need to feel an average or above average penis in them to feel satisfied. And plenty of women know exactly what gets them off despite what you say they do and do not know about g spot.

 

Sure I can get off with a number of vaginal sizes...but sex feels best when a girl is the right amount of tightness. Not too tight...not too lose either. Who is anyone else to tell me different about what feels go for my body?

 

And just because someone sometimes has an orgasm doesnt mean they had an amazing orgasm or great sex. So I wouldnt try to be an authority on other peoples bodies...especially when a person has experienced what great sex is for them.

 

 

I didn't intend to sound arrogant, Kaylan, but for most women, our sexuality is a journey. It takes time & experience to learn our bodies and figure out what works. Many women in their 30s & 40s would look back on their early years and agree, so I am just offering that perspective. If you'd have asked us at 20, we'd have claimed to know it all.

 

I'm not an authority on bodies, nor did I claim to be, (I offered g spot placement info that anyone can google), but this has been my experience, which is valid, and I am sharing it. Some men may read what I wrote, research the g-spot, try a new angle and blow her mind! So while my post may not be relevant to you, some may find it helpful.

[xxoo]

If they are having bad sex, they are having bad sex. Penis size alone is no excuse for bad sex. You've got a mind, 10 fingers, a tongue, and an internet full of toys for a reason

 

You don't need to get into the details, but you should tell your buddy that his girl is mouthing off about his performance. I wouldn't want to sleep with someone like that!