SinceYou'veBeenGone Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 My ex will be leaving the country for a while. Would it be appropriate to ask something along the lines of a goodbye phone call or hanging out one time before he takes off? It saddens me because I feel like I might never see him again. I don't want to come off as needy or as some girl who can't let go. I just think it would be a comforting gesture, but I wouldn't take offense if he says no. I suspect he would say no, or ''maybe" to be polite. I highly doubt he'd want to do it... but do you think it's worth a shot? Have any of you been in a similar situation and reached out like that? Or do you feel its completely pointless and I should not waste any more time thinking about it?
WhatYouWantToHear Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 What good can come of this? Even the best outcome isn't great: You rekindle your relationship and profess your love for each other...then he leaves the country. Long distance relationships don't work, especially those that didn't work when they weren't long distance. If your just looking to get laid though, go for it. But keep telling yourself that's all it is.
Standard-Fare Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Hey, I just posted a very similar inquiry here. Maybe it'd be helpful for you to look at? http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/376303-ex-moving-abroad-should-i-do-anything-before-happens I reached my own conclusion through talking it out. I think I'm going to stick with a short/sweet email wishing my ex the best. I'm pretty sure if I directly asked him to see me once before he goes, I'd get my a*s rejected and feel worse off -- I'd get that gut-punch finality of "Wow, he truly never wants to see me again in his life." But an email with no agenda/expectations at least establishes that I'm thinking about him as he leaves and wanting to keep things positive. I have no idea if he'll appreciate it, think it's pathetic, or even just delete it immediately before reading it, but I think it's something I have to do. He can take the ball from there either now or in the future if he wants ... though I'm 99 percent sure he won't. 1
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