Does Love Last?

[realtree]

Everyone is breaking up and getting divorces! Is there a point to love at all? I am so confused! Is breaking up the only solution? If one person puts in effort while the other doesn't, can that change? How would I go about talking to my boyfriend of three years? I have tried to tell him what I don't like and I feel torn apart when I see him tear up about breaking up. I do love him...but is that enough.

[thecrucible]

All relationships go through struggles and anyone with enough life experience knows that. Arguments don't always lead to the break-up of a relationship but they have to happen. Not saying anything about a problem and letting it foster resentment over time is another relationship killer. But I'd rather have a proper discussion then endure misery for a long time. Take your pick.

 

You said you tried. What's holding you back? Try harder.

 

That sounds harsh but there's always more you can do, and probably more he can do too.

[gaius]

I don't think you can really make someone put in effort. Either they want it or they don't. If they really aren't putting in effort then just stop putting in effort yourself. If they still don't seem to care then you have your answer. Time to move on.

 

Love is amazing while it lasts. So it's always worth trying for.

[SJC2008]

Some people are in love with the feeling of love and when it fades they're gone with the wind. Kate beckinsale was in love but then fell in love with someone else, so she went with how she "felt" instead of making an effort to stay with her then current man.

[zanzi]

sometimes relationships have a expiry date. Love doesn't always last. Sometimes you just stop loving that person because they are different from when you met them and you are different too. Its not the end of the world- just a new stage in your life.

[RachR]

Simple answer is, yes if it's nurtured.