jagdude14 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I have been on ls for about 2 wks now. My heart was ripped out by a beautiful girl I loved very much. I struggled with it and continue and will continue to. I don't believe I did anything wrong to cause the break up and was blindsided. I am hurt sad mad and angry. BUT the past few days I have been telling myself. She is never coming back!!!!!!! And you know what that needs to be true and I need to believe that so I can move on. Many of us hold out hope. Hope is beautiful and dangerous. Hope is human..... Your ex is human.... You are human. Humans are not perfect. No matter if you ex asked for space, had a reason , or just stopped talking kill the hope and lets lick our wounds and move forward because everything in life is an experience. If pain and hurt suck so much be thankful you are alive because pain and hurt and rejection is a beautiful thing to know because in the long run you will appreciate the true love you find so much more than what we are stewing over now. Smile be happy. We are all alive experiencing the hurts of live which in itself is quite beautiful because it is raw human emotion. Respect you ex even though they may not have respected you. Use no contact and pull yourself up. Guess who is waiting for you on the other side????? True love awaits you one day. Lets turn this into the positive non depressing thread. I believe positivity can help us all move on faster then the dwelling on the negatives. If it is not progressing it is regressing. 12
philosia Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Thank you! I have to be as determined to let go of the hope as I am determined to keep NC. 1
Thunderchild Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 The hard bit is the healing - but, stick with it. You have the boards to turn to when it gets really dark and sh*tty !! It's just in the last couple of days that I have really come to terms not with the fact that my ex might not come back, but that I don't actually want her back. She just isn't worth it to me any more. I have no trust or respect for her now - she's gone. I have taken back control of my life, and, can, hopefully, move forward to better and brighter things. After ten nights of disturbed sleep, I went for a nap this afternoon and slept for five straight hours. I'm looking forward to catching up on lost zzzz's tonight. 2
msalek89 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 This is a great post, thanks. I am actually trying to cope with the whole "hope" thing. I guess its difficult accepting or reazling that they wont come back. I am on NC with him but fall short here and there. I am dweling on blocking his number but I just dont know. I know most of us here are on NC but i feel like blocking his number is completly shutting him down. Read my post and maybe help with some feedback. Thanks http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/376333-pros-cons-blocking-ex-number
Thunderchild Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Msalek - Do it! Do it right now! Take back control. Cut him off totally. That's what No Contact is about! Never mind about him (he'll take care of himself), start focussing on you. Reclaim your power, your dignity, self-respect and self-esteem. It is the only way that you will heal! 1
Author jagdude14 Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 This is a great post, thanks. I am actually trying to cope with the whole "hope" thing. I guess its difficult accepting or reazling that they wont come back. I am on NC with him but fall short here and there. I am dweling on blocking his number but I just dont know. I know most of us here are on NC but i feel like blocking his number is completly shutting him down. Read my post and maybe help with some feedback. Thanks http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/376333-pros-cons-blocking-ex-number Do whatever you need to do to put yourself in a position to move on 1
msalek89 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Thank you both... i feel like that is the only way and let go of this "hope" that is not benefiting me in anyway.
Author jagdude14 Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 I'd like to say I am still struggling but I think I found the door I at least need to get through to move on. And that was ending the hope. For those who don't know my story and how I reacted I crashed I am sure just like most of you. Praying for you all
purplereigncb Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Thank you! I have to be as determined to let go of the hope as I am determined to keep NC. Hope can be dangerous, I know it was in my case.
miklos Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 Today is a new beginning for me. I will NC with ex forever now. Im done with him and im done being in pain.
New2Love4Now Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I'm starting to let go of hope myself, but I find it returning at random times of the day. Is this just my brain's defense mechanism to keep me from being depressed all day? I want to lose all hope so badly because I feel it's holding me back from moving on... Is there some way to force this or do you just have to wait it out?
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