Chuck00 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 My wife and myself starting dating in 97 while we where in high school. 2 years later we go married ad had a kid. We are Coming up on 14 years being married and about 3 weeks ago she said she does not think she loves me as much as I love her. So we got through that and over two weeks ago it got real bad to the point I had to leave and I have been away from home since. It's killing me and she says she wants space and I ask her does she want this to work or no. She says she does not know what she wants. She says she wants to do things on her own. I understand that all the way. I'm the husband so I did take care of everything. Got her anything she wanted bought her things just to make her happy. I know a lot of it is me and how I was. I trust her with all mt heart but my mind takes over and makes me think of the craziest things. My mind makes something out of nothing. At first I was giving her space because I was heart broken. Her and my daughter are my world. I would do anything for them. So last week we where talking and I could not take it anymore. I said I'm done an I will go file. She said is that what you want? I said no that's not what I want. I want us to get through this and be happy again. I started thinking. I'm not going to be the one to file. I will not have that on me for the rest of my life. So I told her that and I said if you want to file I will sign the papers. I just don't get it. She says she loves me but how can she sit there and watch me go through all this. Waisting away. I don't eat I don't sleep I have my own business and I can hardly work. I have been going to counciling for 3 weeks now and she won't go with me. Now she is goin to go to one this week alone and that's fine. I want her to get help. I been reading a whole lot of things about this and I cam across something that said its depression and a lot of people get that mixed up. So yesterday she wanted to get a new cell phone so I thought I would be nice when she was at work and go get her a new iPhone and a whole contract. So I did and then I emailed her and Told her I would drop off her new phone at work. Well she emailed me back pissed off at me saying I'm not hearing anything she is saying. I was blown away. I thought i was helping her out by getting it for her. She always says she loves me when I tell her I love her. I stayed the night with them Sunday night as I loved it till It was bed time. It all hot me so hard that this could be the last time we are all together. This is killing me. My mind and my emotions take over me and make me say things and not let me do anything. I hate this. My mind tells me all day long to walk away and move on but my heart won't let me. I love everything about my wife. There is not one thing I don't like. I always seen ourself growing old together and all this is happing so fast. My mind won't stop seeing what could happen. It always sees the worst of things. Please I don't know what to do..
realtree Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 i think that maybe you should tell her what you want and try to work on things. Tell her firmly where you stand and see where she stands. You can't linger forever.
NervisPervis Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 She's gone. Let her go. Hey gals. Please start teaching your daughters about walk-away wives and the chances they will become one. I have two boys. I'm going to tell them ALL about it and what to watch for. How to prevent it. I'll try to do the same with my daughter, but I don't know what goes through a female brain. We need to fix this. NO MAN should go through this. But a majority of us do.
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