undecided85 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I have been with my bf for 18mths now and have been crazy for each other and in a love bubble for most of it. We have had some rough times which has almost broken us up many times already. We started as a fling then eventually started dating. At first I was going to break up with him coz he wasn't what I was after but I enjoyed being with him so much I never did it even though my head said end it. We got serious very quickly and ended up spending every spare moment together to the point where he practically lived with me. We moved in with each other after 6mths and from there it has been up and down. He was unemployed for a year and I supported him and did most of the house duties or had to nag him to do anything. 3mths ago I decided to go overseas to visit my brother and was gone for 2mths, we were extremely close to breaking up before I left due to him not working and not doing anything to get a job or even help around the house. When we are not stressed about life and just having fun we are like 2 teenagers in love and can't get enough of each other. Now I am back from overseas and he has a full time job where he has awful hours and awful pay. We are both grateful he has a job but he complains constantly about his job and we both hate his hours coz he gets home so late and has no time to do anything. I am looking for work but have been doing all the housework to ease the situation. Thats the rough idea of us. The situation is we are very different people. He says I have OCD in how I like everything to have its place and put away and things have to be a certain way where he is very messy and takes his pants off as soon as he gets in the door and leaves them on the floor wherever he is. He doesn't think to do laundry or any housework, would rather buy take out then cook dinner when I ask him to. I feel like he is very much of a 20yr boy rather then a 27yr man. He has never really lived out of home and had to take care of himself and hasn't had a proper adult relationship before. I have been married previously and been living out of home since I was 18yr and am now 27. Can we make this work or has it been doomed from the beginning?
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