magnoliasoutherly Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I hope you don't mind me asking. I'm actually a forum member but I've been tasked with studying this. I have a few questions about men love. How do you know you are in love?What does it feel like emotionally to be in love?What does it feel like physically to be in love?Are you ever secretly jealous? If so, please elaborate.What qualities do/did you look for in a mate?If you're in love now, (and you don't mind sharing) what was the moment when you realized there was no turning back?Do you ever talk about it to your friends? (Even if minor and please share an example if you don't mind.) Please answer any or all questions. This is mostly for the men because women are usually very open and verbal about it. Men not so much. Many thanks to anyone who is willing to answer.
dichotomy Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) Guy here. How do you know you are in love? I put the needs of the other above mine, I am willing sacrifice for their spiritual and emotional growth, I am willing to commit to them fully and exclusively. I want to give to them fully and without reservation.What does it feel like emotionally to be in love? Romantic love is a feeling based on brain chemicals that will eventually fade, true love is NOT a feeling it is commitment to anothers growth. See Scott Peck from the road less traveled. Love is a verb.What does it feel like physically to be in love? The initial feelings of "love" or romance I would say - I suppose to me - the love for her felt like I found a trusted partner, lover, friend who knew me and I knew her - we were one and the center - and everyone else was just everyone else. Also the feelings of being loved - felt like being wanted and desired by another - of feeling treasured - special - valued and respected as a man.Are you ever secretly jealous? If so, please elaborate. Of course I experience feeling of jealousy, envy, maybe more than normal. Mostly motivated by fear of loss (my love mate and partner), being hurt, not truly being loved, or my own self esteem and insecurity. Sometimes by fears I made the wrong choices in my life.What qualities do/did you look for in a mate? Shared beliefs on sex. love, honesty, morality, religion, marriage, commitment, family.If you're in love now, (and you don't mind sharing) what was the moment when you realized there was no turning back? I can share the moment I decided (or was able to) to finally return the words "I love you" which she had been saying to me for a month - but to which to me was a major commitment and leap of trust in the relationship. She had just recounted a story, working an aide in nursing home, holding the hand of an old man who was dying and had no family to be with him. I felt this was a woman who could handle the tough parts of this world - not just the good ones.Do you ever talk about it to your friends? (Even if minor and please share an example if you don't mind.) In general, I do not talk about the intimate details of my marriage or wife to friends, love in a long term marriage is complicated. I have talked to my therapist about love and loving someone frequently - and of course here were no one knows who I am. The Road Less Traveled: LOVE, it?s not a ?feeling? | Radical Reading's Sheryl Paul: Love is a Verb Edited February 26, 2013 by dichotomy
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