marklarsson Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 This is to the ladies Do you still wear your ex's clothes like his sweat pants, Shirts, Sweat tops, etc... not things that he bought you as a gift but rather things that are his that he left at yours after the break up. whether the relationship ended badly or not, is this because you are not quite over him? Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Why would a woman wear her ex's clothes after a breakup? Sounds like a recipe for pain. Then again I don't even wear the bf's clothes - except during sex play. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author marklarsson Posted February 26, 2013 Author Share Posted February 26, 2013 Why would a woman wear her ex's clothes after a breakup? Sounds like a recipe for pain. Then again I don't even wear the bf's clothes - except during sex play. Maybe if they are not quite over them? i cant see any other reason why, which is why im asking Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Is this a gf that you're with? Link to post Share on other sites
magnoliasoutherly Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 It's not really appropriate, no. Especially in front of a current boyfriend. That is definitely a HUGE no-no. ETA: I assumed that she was your girlfriend. If instead you are asking if she likes you, then the answer is very probably. Link to post Share on other sites
mcdo Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I highly doubt my ex still wears my clothes. But I know she still wears stuff I bought her. I was quite bemused to see that she still wears a ring I bought her. I don't think I wear anything she bought me (in fact I don't know where any of those things are). Link to post Share on other sites
richard9 Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 i think it would be best to get rid of them, from experience its best to drop them outside his door when hes not in, that way prevents game playing if he decides he wants them back or money for them because you threw them out. to answer your question more directly, no i think it would only serve to cause pain, one of the hardest things about my break up was she left some things at mine, i used to smell them and think back, hard times, looking back i should have just got rid of them but maybe it was part of the mourning process. dont keep them and definitely dont wear them imo Link to post Share on other sites
Author marklarsson Posted February 26, 2013 Author Share Posted February 26, 2013 Is this a gf that you're with? no i saw my ex whist out and she was wearing a sweat top of mine Link to post Share on other sites
Author marklarsson Posted February 26, 2013 Author Share Posted February 26, 2013 It's not really appropriate, no. Especially in front of a current boyfriend. That is definitely a HUGE no-no. ETA: I assumed that she was your girlfriend. If instead you are asking if she likes you, then the answer is very probably. thats what i was thinking. she has a current boyfriend and yet she was wearing my sweat top when i saw her out Link to post Share on other sites
Author marklarsson Posted February 26, 2013 Author Share Posted February 26, 2013 i think it would be best to get rid of them, from experience its best to drop them outside his door when hes not in, that way prevents game playing if he decides he wants them back or money for them because you threw them out. to answer your question more directly, no i think it would only serve to cause pain, one of the hardest things about my break up was she left some things at mine, i used to smell them and think back, hard times, looking back i should have just got rid of them but maybe it was part of the mourning process. dont keep them and definitely dont wear them imo cause pain fir her in what way? she made a conscious decision to swear it or not surely? Link to post Share on other sites
richard9 Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 cause pain fir her in what way? she made a conscious decision to swear it or not surely? true, but probably to rekindle memories, unless she's REALLY past the relationship and just making use of clothing she likes the way she looks in Link to post Share on other sites
adelia Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Yes i wear his shirt for comfort when im stressed. aside from being comfy he is a friend i confide in from time to time so its a positive thing wearing it. Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) Honestly, maybe I'm the weirdo here, or the exception to the rule... but I do. I had TONS of my ex's clothing at my house and when he broke up with me I threw it all in a huge black garbage bag and dropped it at his front door. I went back home and I was preparing to pack to move to my new apartment and I noticed I missed a small pile on the floor of my closet. (Majority of his stuff was up on hangers.) Instead of giving any of that crap back, I kept it. For a couple of reasons. 1. The stuff I had left was stuff I really liked. (comfy hoodies, tee's to relax in.) 2. Because I had had them for so long (years) they virtually became mine by default anyway. I not too long ago wore one of his sports jersey's I had to root for a football team. And when relaxing in the apartment I'll throw on the oversized hoodie. And no, I'm not in love with him. Not even remotely. I'm completely indifferent to him. I think of those things as my stuff now, honestly. It's just cotton! (Or maybe poly blend) I don't have emotional attachments to fibers. LOL. One of my favorite tees is an old Gap grey tee-shirt. It was actually my first love's shirt. (10 years ago!!!) I wear it on occasion. It's the softest thing ever. I actually purposely stole it when we were dating b/c it was so comfy! hahahaha. Edited February 26, 2013 by KatZee 1 Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 When I broke up, I threw all his clothes that I used to wear in a big garbage bag and shoved it in a corner in my closet. Couldn't wear it when I was hurting. About a year later, I was cleaning out and found it. Kept some of the oversized sweatshirts and hoodies and threw out the rest. I still wear the sweatshirts/hoodies when it's cold, only because it's comfortable and warm, and large like a snuggie! When I started dating current bf, I asked if it was okay, and he didn't mind. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 No matter how great you think you packed up their stuff, you never find it *all*. There are usually remnants and usually clothes or movies or random cookware you bought together but didn't know how to divide since you are the only one who cooks. I have experience with this situation. And yeah initially after the break up you wear their basketball shorts that are nearly pants, extra cushy socks, or boxers that are way too big. I know I am over them when I want to get rid of it and never have a mutual reason we need to see eachother. My most recent ex has been hording my DVD's.....do I think he watches them and dreams of me?? No way. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Els Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I admit I'm pretty puzzled by this. Why do you girls need your bf's/ex's shirts when you want something comfortable to relax in? Don't you have comfy/big tees of your own? My own wear-at-home tees are way more comfy than my bf's. I'm big on comfort so I purposefully buy soft material, whereas his are coarser. Always buy oversized for lounging in. OP, I wouldn't read too much into your ex's actions. If she wants you she'll contact you. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
geegirl Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I admit I'm pretty puzzled by this. Why do you girls need your bf's/ex's shirts when you want something comfortable to relax in? Don't you have comfy/big tees of your own? My own wear-at-home tees are way more comfy than my bf's. I'm big on comfort so I purposefully buy soft material, whereas his are coarser. Always buy oversized for lounging in. OP, I wouldn't read too much into your ex's actions. If she wants you she'll contact you. Didn't keep the tees. I have my own tees. Just the thick cotton sweatshirts and hoodies for home use during the winter time. There was no point in throwing those away when it didn't affect me emotionally. Just comfortable pieces of clothing to wear, when with him, and even now, without him. Link to post Share on other sites
sweetkiwi Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 Imagine when it's an animal you share or kids.... Wearing his Halloween boxers after a breakup is not that bad. Can't toss the puppy in the trash when you go through the anger stage.... Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 My most recent ex has been hording my DVD's.....do I think he watches them and dreams of me?? No way. LOL! I have a HUGE collection of DVDs/TV shows and when we split I actually found out I had his entire season set of Prison Break... SCORE! LMAO 1 Link to post Share on other sites
KatZee Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I admit I'm pretty puzzled by this. Why do you girls need your bf's/ex's shirts when you want something comfortable to relax in? Don't you have comfy/big tees of your own? My own wear-at-home tees are way more comfy than my bf's. I'm big on comfort so I purposefully buy soft material, whereas his are coarser. Always buy oversized for lounging in. OP, I wouldn't read too much into your ex's actions. If she wants you she'll contact you. It's a hoodie. I personally find oversized hoodies much more comfortable to lay around in, than the tight women's kind. I'm also not about to go and spend $60 on an oversized hoodie when I have a perfectly good one right in my closet. If there's no emotional attachment I don't get what the problem is. I wouldn't ever throw out perfectly good clothes. Link to post Share on other sites
Mack05 Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I don't know about wearing clothes, but I will never gave a girl a top that means something to me again. I made one of the biggest mistakes of my life and gave my last ex a VERY sentimental irreplaceable rugby jersey. She tossed it into the bin and then lied saying she sent it back to me, after I asked for it over and over again. I am still absolutely gutted about that. Of all the hurt she caused me that was the worst. Can't believe someone could be that cruel and vindictive. Link to post Share on other sites
Fallen Petals Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 I can. I do. It means nothing. It's big, it's comfy, it's a shirt...Might be different if it was some special gift...oh but I won't wear them to bed anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Harradin Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 My ex used to wear my hoodies regularly, she just used to put them on when she was round mine. She had one hoodie when she left me, I asked for it back with the money she owed me as I'm quite possessive over my things which she did give it back. If I hadn't have asked for it I reckon she would have chucked it away. Link to post Share on other sites
veggirl Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 No. First of all, I was never the type that accumulated bf's clothes. I was more like "oh, come back you forgot your sweatshirt" as he's going to the car. So I don't have any ex bf's clothes anyway. Second of all, my stuff is way more comfy than some ginormous stuff that doesn't even fit. Third of all, if I did have an exes clothes, that shiz would be in the trash after we broke up. Now, wearing stuff an ex bought ME. Heck yeah!! I have jewelry from an ex, etc. I wear it. It's mine, why not? It means nothing...tho tbh if my ex saw me in a necklace he bought me, he'd probably get really excited thinking I'm nostalgic or something lol. Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted February 26, 2013 Share Posted February 26, 2013 This is to the ladies Do you still wear your ex's clothes like his sweat pants, Shirts, Sweat tops, etc... not things that he bought you as a gift but rather things that are his that he left at yours after the break up. whether the relationship ended badly or not, is this because you are not quite over him? no. wearing someone's clothes has nothing to do with feelings, it has to do with laundry and/or temperature. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
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