Kate_261 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Okay, so those of you who saw my last thread will know about the grad ball/relationship crisis in general. Since we met and decided to give the relationship a real shot, things have been going well. Initially I suggested a trial period to see how things go, but our first couple of dates back together were so good that he didn't really want to do that. So a fortnight ago, on our first date back together, I tell him about an evening out that my friends have invited us both to. He does the 'I'll come with you' routine, and assures me he'll get it off work. Fast forward to last night at dinner, and he says he is no longer sure he can get it off because he's now going to a concert with his family and needs to take time off for that. He's already also spending another weekend with them on the same month. On the other hand, we've been seeing each other a lot - and he's planning really nice/unusual dates for us. Currently I'm in the process of starting up a business and need help getting it off the ground. Of his own accord he's been spreading the word among family and friends, and doing everything he can to help me make it a success. What's going on folks? The only thing I can think is he's treading carefully because of before, but it was him that thought we didn't need 'a trial period'?
Author Kate_261 Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 Anyone...anyone at all? I often find it difficult to trust my own perspective on things, and because everything else is going well, I'm not sure how annoyed I can justifiably be.
FitChick Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Don't rock the boat. He might be testing you. Go to the dance with someone else or don't go. Maybe he doesn't know how to dance.
veggirl Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 So it's only been 2 weeks and he is already reverting back to his MO--that his plans with you are not concrete and if something better/different comes up, cool. He didn't last very long did he....
Author Kate_261 Posted March 12, 2013 Author Posted March 12, 2013 Well, I thought I'd wait and see what happens. Part of the evening will involve dancing and I forgot how much he dislikes dancing (thinks he's no good at it, when actually he is!). I almost felt like I was waiting on him to pull the rug from under my feet (because of what happened previously with the grad ball), and I realised if he pulled out of this night too I couldn't take him for his word ever, not just when he's busy touring. Anyway, after all that he said to me over dinner the other night 'So, I got the night off work, what's the plan ?'. Relief is an understatement! 1
Recommended Posts