elixxrx Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I knew a girl once who was everything I could have ever wanted. She was so beautiful, smart, funny and independent that I fell completely in love with her. there was a time when she gave her love to me as well but I lost it. I lost it because I was immature, petty, jealous and completely unable to handle the feelings I was having. She tried her best to be patient with me waiting for me to make up my mind and do what needed to be done in order for us to be together in a healthy relationship. I could go into all the reasons why I couldn't or didn't but I won't. Needless to say one day she had had enough and ****ed me off for good. The thing I regret most was the way it ended between us. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself and thinking about how much I was hurting that it never occurred to me that maybe I hurt her as well. Time has past and she says she has forgiven me but the damage has been done. She was the one and I let her get away. Regret really sucks.
stevie_23 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 The good thing about regret is that you learn from it. 3
magnoliasoutherly Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Stevie_23 nailed it. I'm assuming you're young and so this was your first real breakup. We all learn from life experiences. From 'don't fry bacon naked' to don't tell her 'wear that one, you look thinner in it.' No matter how serious or silly it may seem, it is something you'll learn from and take away with you. Your next deep relationship will be so much better for it. There is always going to be 'the one who got away.' I have loads of them! Still, for each I learned something new. Now I have a near-perfect marriage that I never dreamed I'd ever have. Good luck and hugs. 1
Pinky777 Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I hear you on the regret factor and the "one that got away". I know what I did wrong and I still miss my ex like crazy but I now know what I will NOT do in my next relationship...with someone who will actually love me like I deserve to be loved (while I know my ex cared for me, he did not love me). My ex was "perfect" in every way, but not the way that it counts. I also had terrible bouts of insecurity and was unable to handle my feelings like an adult...and I'm in my 30s. Love can make people crazy but it's a temporary type of insanity. I hope you learned something about yourself from it and I hope you find peace one day.
cindyloo Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I knew a girl once who was everything I could have ever wanted. She was so beautiful, smart, funny and independent that I fell completely in love with her. there was a time when she gave her love to me as well but I lost it. I lost it because I was immature, petty, jealous and completely unable to handle the feelings I was having. She tried her best to be patient with me waiting for me to make up my mind and do what needed to be done in order for us to be together in a healthy relationship. I could go into all the reasons why I couldn't or didn't but I won't. Needless to say one day she had had enough and ****ed me off for good. The thing I regret most was the way it ended between us. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself and thinking about how much I was hurting that it never occurred to me that maybe I hurt her as well. Time has past and she says she has forgiven me but the damage has been done. She was the one and I let her get away. Regret really sucks. I can relate SO much to this, elixxrx. Were the two of you in a relationship? Or how do you feel that you hurt her? Do you have tips on how to cope with this kind of situation?
cindyloo Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I knew a girl once who was everything I could have ever wanted. She was so beautiful, smart, funny and independent that I fell completely in love with her. there was a time when she gave her love to me as well but I lost it. I lost it because I was immature, petty, jealous and completely unable to handle the feelings I was having. She tried her best to be patient with me waiting for me to make up my mind and do what needed to be done in order for us to be together in a healthy relationship. I could go into all the reasons why I couldn't or didn't but I won't. Needless to say one day she had had enough and ****ed me off for good. The thing I regret most was the way it ended between us. I spent so much time feeling sorry for myself and thinking about how much I was hurting that it never occurred to me that maybe I hurt her as well. Time has past and she says she has forgiven me but the damage has been done. She was the one and I let her get away. Regret really sucks. I can relate SO much to this, elixxrx. Were the two of you in a relationship? Or how do you feel that you hurt her? Do you have tips on how to cope with this kind of situation?
cindyloo Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 I can relate SO much to this, elixxrx. Were the two of you in a relationship? Or how do you feel that you hurt her? Do you have tips on how to cope with this kind of situation?
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