soso66 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I've been friends with this woman at work for 5 months (I'm 40, she's 29). We aren't super close friends but we made an effort to see each other and chat and went out for a coffee a few times after work. Very early in the relationship when I tried flirting she made it clear that she had no interest in me and I told her that's cool. I became attracted to her over time and recently asked her out but she didn't give a straight answer. She started acting scarce and when I confronted her and told her that I'm attracted to her she became angry and said that I crossed the line, that it's creepy, and that we cannot be friends anymore, just co-workers. I explained that I wanted to be honest because it's not fair to either of us for me to pretend that there's nothing there. That didn't help. I asked her what she expected me to do. She said to keep it to myself (like that's not creepy). Anyway, I don't feel I did anything wrong and I'm hurt that she would so easily drop our friendship like that. Should I assume this is a done deal and she will never ever be interested? Should I assume she will never want to be friend either? Should I have a strict co-worker relationship with her from now on and not give her any special treatment? A nod when passing by her rather than a 'how are ya' pause? (I'll still be pleasant with work stuff just as I am with other co-workers) Should I try to talk about this with her again?
CC12 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Should I try to talk about this with her again? No. I think she's made it pretty clear that she doesn't want to have a romantic relationship with you. She's said that from the beginning, but you are like purposely ignoring that and you're still pursuing her. I think it's over and you should leave her alone now. 1
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