dchin1985 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Whats with the women who is hot and cold - like put you into a roller coaster ride? This particular women she seems to be very interested, and would initiate to talk everyday but then would turn cold sometime (angry for no particular real big reason, and then very friendly again shortly). She would show affection, but would still be too busy to see each other. It drives me crazy and annoyed some time. Sometime i just want to say I don't want to waste time and energy and emotion if it goes no further. And thats why sometime i just do not want to talk. -- but then my little voice inside tells me to be a little bit more patient, because we get along very well and we always keep our smile the moment we leave each other until we are back at home. And I realized i still have that smile on my face even when i am on the bed chatting with her, and i think so does she too. So i am confused if she is interested at all or just keeping me there. My mindset at this moment is only, well she is fun and interesting, and we both find each other attractive but i would really like to get to know her more first! Thats it! Any thought on how i should handle this?? Its so easy to figure a solution for other people but not for myself.
Eggplant Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 She may be very interested in you, truly, but she's trying to play it cool. What do you mean she gets angry??
Author dchin1985 Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 I have a feeling that she is not sure... thats why she is hot and cold. Well we are at an age that is latel 20s and early 30s, so i think women tend to be more careful. Second, like yesterday she asked me to send her my photo of yesterday. So i sent (but those one i previously sent her, because we guys don't just take pic of ourselves) and she got angry and said i have sent her already and wondered if I sent them to other gals as well... But i guess the thing that got me thinking and confused the most is, while we talk to each other everyday almost all day long and showing interest, but we are always busy and we haven't seen each other in nearly 3 weeks... it makes me wonder where this is going.
phineas Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Hot/cold women are a waste of your time & the only way it's ever worked out for me was to ignore them for a bit & see if they chase. Then tell them you are a busy guy & unless they got something to offer you to stop wasting your time. Basically, let her know you are done playing games. She knows what she is doing & if she doesn't? Well then she has some kind of issues & who wants to deal with that? I don't. 1
Joaquin Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) Hot and cold signals to me that they are unsure about things. Could be all sorts of reasons behind that, and you can be sure they ain't gonna spill those reasons for fear of losing you. My suggestion would be to not get overly invested in her. Sadly even talking to her about might even (in her own head) paint you as needy and pushing her too fast. It's quite tricky trying to get someone on the same page as you if they aren't already on it. If it gets to point where you can hand on heart say you aren't happy, you might need to think about moving on. In my experience, a girl that wants a committed relationship and sees a future with you does not blow hot and cold. Edited February 26, 2013 by Joaquin
zanesfan Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Dchin, I have a girl-friend like that. She could be very serious about a guy but she will not answer him right away or she will decline dates.. just so she doesnt appear to be needy or desperate. I dont understand her logic but hey.. some men like that. With guys that she doesnt like, she will entertain them and wont be hard to get because she knows that she doesnt like them enough to keep them wanting to come back for more. Now on the other hand (and I have experience this) some people only like the chase. You will be constantly going in circles if the games doesnt stop. Just give her affirmation that she doesnt have to be that way. Im telling you.. at some point you are going to want to throw your hands in the air and say f*ck it!
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