smile95 Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 CAn someone tell me if the hurt of a break up ever goes away? Does it really fade with time? Does it ever happen where the ex calls? Whether it's a month or a year? Do they call sometime? I just am so sad and not quite sure if this pain will ever go away? Any input would really help. Is it time I have to wait on? How do i try and move on?
a2nxtc28 Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 I've read a lot of your threads..we're like totally in the same situation.My ex broke up with me too 3 months ago after he got his freedom from his ex wife.He promised me a lot of things and i was so inlove with him..suddenly he left me saying that he needed time alone.I was there for him when he was getting through his divorce(how could he?).He had a sweet tongue,told me everything what a woman wants to hear from a perfect guy,we made plans for our future,house and kids..you name it.How can he just left me?I dont know.Im depress for awhile and i feel so low and worthless.He stopped calling me now(thank God) .It's either he made up with his ex or found a new girl..i really dont want to know..im going to die if i find out.It's better that i dont know anything.It hurts but i have to move on.I dont want to be miserable because a guy left me and thinks that im not good enough for him.So guRL..you have to move on too.I know it hurts like a b*tch but you have to take it step by step or you'll be stuck there forever.He dont deserve your love.So for now distract yourself dont go crazy(like me) and stop thinking about him too much,i know you have a lot of friends so go out and just have fun.The next thing you know you'll meet another guy and be dating again.Goodluck!
Bender donetat Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 I know for me the pain didnt stop until i knew WHY the breakup had happened and could justify why it was or wasnt not my fault....time does help, keeping yourself busy does help......but in the end its all about knowing why you broke up and learning it wasnt you....most the time when you are NOT the one ending it and nothing seems wrong it IS NOT your fault......It is their issues....
Author smile95 Posted September 3, 2004 Author Posted September 3, 2004 Did you decide to break up? Or did he just stop calling? Have you talked at all in 3 months? I know it is not my fault. I think I am just hurt that waited on him for 2 yrs and finally when it is about to happen. He is gone? Last itme he did this, his lawyer told him to stop contact with me til it is done. But, he never told me that. If that is what he is doing now, there are calling cards to call and tell me!!! Or write a letter. Bottom line...I built him up to be "the one" and we had everything planned and he **** on me. I have no explanantin? It hurts so much. I know I deserve better. But had my heart set on him. I am starting to date again to get my mind off him, but wonder how he loved me for 2 yrs and just let go with no reason. last time we talked he said he was stressed out big time and he loved me! Who knows. I need to move on
Tracy Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 In his defense....why were you so willing to give your heart to someone who wasn't divorced yet? He was in a very consfusing time, and neither one of you should have made such promises during that time. (I only say this because I did the same thing, only we were both going through a divorce, so it was doubly hard ) He could have really meant, felt the things he told you. But, it is extremely hard to make that plung when things are only just over between you and the person you thought you were going to spend the rest of your life with. Especially if there are kids involved. Maybe he really does just need time to clear his head.
backspn Posted September 4, 2004 Posted September 4, 2004 The good news is the pain will go away. The bad news it will take a while, for me it took almost a year. Some people get over a breakup faster and easier than others. Rest easy.....surround yourself with friends and family and before long you'll be good. You will always have memories of your times together but soon they will turn in faded memories......trust me.
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