JealousLover17 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 So, my boyfriend and I had been "talking" for about two months before we decided to finally get together a week ago. We would've both gotten together sooner, but out of respect for his friends, and family, we decided to wait. To explain this better, I'll start off by saying, him and his ex were together for 1 year and 8 months. Apparently, he had a falling out and wasn't happy with her for 3 months due to fighting and other personal reasons. He broke up with her, but decided to give her another chance to see if it would work. (This was before me.) Now, this is where I came into the picture. Well, him and I met at a local dance and I saw them basically not looking "coupley", as she was off dancing with someone else. It looked as if neither of them wanted it anymore. After that night, we continued to talk and things became more serious than I had expected. I was truly starting to like him, and vice virsa. So, he made the decision to cut ties with his ex, and this is where we decided to wait. Unfortunately, it wasn't a long enough wait for his ex or family. She was, and still is in love with him. Their families were both close, so for me to jump in, I hadn't got the best and warmest welcoming. I have delt with a lot through this, and now his ex won't back off. I have gotten his mom to at least accept me, and now I think she's slowly starting to like me. And his brothers are more respectful and I can hang with them as if they were my own. It's just his ex now. She had gone as far as telling me to take down pictures of us, as it in her own words, "disrespectful to her." I tried and am still trying my best to be respectful, as they were together for almost two years, and it isn't my place to just start calling shots. But at the same time, she isn't respecting us. He wants to stay friends with her to keep things civil, but she is taking it to a higher level due to still having feelings for him. Every time him and I are on a date, or just hanging out, it never fails, there is a call, text or facebook chat from her. She tries to be in his life in every little possible way that she can. i.e asking for rides, congratulating him on every new success he has, and even going as far as asking him for prom dress suggestions (yeah, I know.) I am getting really annoyed. But I can't say anything to her because I feel as if it isn't my place to. How do I deal? He has reassured me more times than I can count. I know he is faithful and moved on because he ignores her calls, and gets annoyed every time she comes up, I just need her to back off. I am slowly but surely falling for him and I don't want this to ruin us. *Btw, sorry for the long read! I appreciate anyone who takes the time to answer this.
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