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PhillyDude Established Member

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THANKS?

 

 

why not just ignore the message and delete it instead of instead of sending that silly a$$ "Thanks but no thanks". That's why most of the time a guy will send a nasty message because most woman want to go out of their way to reject a guy.

 

 

That's the difference between men and woman, a man will never respond to a woman who is not his type. why do woman do it? Oh I know, "YOU WERE BEING POLITE!!:laugh:

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There are some women girls out there who just live to reject guys. They get off on it and it validates them.

 

I had one girl post about me on the forums of the dating site to shame me. Claiming that I probably did a search by race since we're both Indian. It was disgusting.

 

I have a friend who regularly does this to guys in real life. She constantly tells me and other male friends that she would never date us even though I have never asked. I told her she's self-absorbed.

 

I have others who often talk about "all the guys always approach me in bars" even though I have yet to see hardly any. They must approach these girls only when I'm not there. :cool:

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Oh for Christ sakes.

 

All you EVER hear is men whining that women WON'T reply to them, even if it's just a gracious, 'thanks, but no thanks' message.

 

Then you've got the other guys who whine when a woman DOES show them a little common courtesy and DOES acknowledge their message by saying, "thanks, but no thanks."

 

When I was doing the online dating thing, I tried to make sure to reply to every message I got. 99% of the time, I was not interested and rather than treat them like a non-entity and IGNORE their messages, I took the time to graciously reply with a declination. But I did it in a kinder, gentler way - usually telling them they were too far away (which they were) and that I was looking for someone more local. Almost every single time, I got back a really nice message, THANKING me for taking the time to answer them 'because most women here can't even be polite enough to acknowledge my message."

 

Maybe you should see the "thanks, but no thanks" messages as the small nice courtesy they really ARE.

 

 

I don't need common courtesy just delete my message if u r not interested, That will prevent me from saying something disrespectful

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I don't need common courtesy just delete my message if u r not interested, That will prevent me from saying something disrespectful

 

Thanks for proving the women's points here on LS about why they don't like to respond to guys online with a rejection.

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THANKS?

 

 

why not just ignore the message and delete it instead of instead of sending that silly a$$ "Thanks but no thanks". That's why most of the time a guy will send a nasty message because most woman want to go out of their way to reject a guy.

 

 

That's the difference between men and woman, a man will never respond to a woman who is not his type. why do woman do it? Oh I know, "YOU WERE BEING POLITE!!:laugh:

 

You know.... there's good and bad in everyone.

 

But you are being the real problem here...

If a girl blows me off, who cares, why would I waste more time on them?

But you're giving the typical loser guy reaction of going around moping and letting some girl you don't even know effect your whole day.

 

So a girl wasn't interest... who gives a crap, reply to the ones who sent you nice messages and stop whining.

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You know.... there's good and bad in everyone.

 

But you are being the real problem here...

If a girl blows me off, who cares, why would I waste more time on them?

But you're giving the typical loser guy reaction of going around moping and letting some girl you don't even know effect your whole day.

 

So a girl wasn't interest... who gives a crap, reply to the ones who sent you nice messages and stop whining.

 

 

My point is I don't remember every girl I send messages to so when I get a message I am thinking it's someone who is interested but instead it's some POLITE RETARD saying thanks

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My point is I don't remember every girl I send messages to so when I get a message I am thinking it's someone who is interested but instead it's some POLITE RETARD saying thanks

 

Maybe you are such a bad apple.

 

Why are you getting so worked up over such a trivial issue?

 

If I got a message like that, at least I can take solace in the fact that she has actually read it. That means that I didn't waste my time typing it out. That's more than what I can say for the 8 or so that I sent so far on OKC.

 

If you are on OLD having expectations, you need to stay far away from it.

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Maybe you are such a bad apple.

 

Why are you getting so worked up over such a trivial issue?

 

If I got a message like that, at least I can take solace in the fact that she has actually read it. That means that I didn't waste my time typing it out. That's more than what I can say for the 8 or so that I sent so far on OKC.

 

If you are on OLD having expectations, you need to stay far away from it.

 

 

They are supposed to do what I do when I get a message from a girl I dont like

 

"Ignore the message, and delete it"

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They are supposed to do what I do when I get a message from a girl I dont like

 

"Ignore the message, and delete it"

 

I can't do that.

 

That will only discourage the chance of getting more legit messages sent out on both sides and will make sure that OLD is just there strictly for casual sex and nothing more, if that.

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I don't need common courtesy just delete my message if u r not interested, That will prevent me from saying something disrespectful

 

What should prevent you from saying something disrespectful is having emotional maturity and having manners... probably what is also preventing you from successfully dating someone

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What should prevent you from saying something disrespectful is having emotional maturity and having manners... probably what is also preventing you from successfully dating someone

 

 

Manners go out the window when some girl goes out her way to say......"no thank you"

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Manners go out the window when some girl goes out her way to say......"no thank you"

 

Sounds like plenty of manners to me.

 

She, at the least, was willing to respond back. Apparently, you are clearly ungrateful despite it.

 

You was better off not getting any responses of any kind after reading this.

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Why does it bother you so much? It's not like it would have worked out anyway... OLD does not work.

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Sounds like plenty of manners to me.

 

She, at the least, was willing to respond back. Apparently, you are clearly ungrateful despite it.

 

You was better off not getting any responses of any kind after reading this.

 

 

So what am I supposed to do when someone responds back and say no thank you

 

 

"YES SHE WAS POLITE TO ME!! SHE WAS POLITE TO ME!!! LMAO

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So what am I supposed to do when someone responds back and say no thank you

 

 

"YES SHE WAS POLITE TO ME!! SHE WAS POLITE TO ME!!! LMAO

 

Just delete it and not make such a big fuss over it?

 

That is what I would do.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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PhillyDude, in all seriousness, are you autistic? That isn't meant as an insult, it's just honestly the only explanation I can think of for your complete lack of understanding of basic manners.

 

 

No but a lot of the woman online are autistic

eleanorhurting Established Member

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Do you have a job already?

 

I remember a while back you were unemployed.

 

You should work on that

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Which you are medically qualified to diagnose, no doubt.

 

 

Maybe I am retarded because I don't have a clue what goes on in the mind of a woman lol

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Since I'm not a mind reader and cannot know how a man likes to be rejected, I do what is comfortable for me and that is to say something like "Thank you for your interest but I'm afraid we are not a good match. Good luck on your search!" It's sad when some of them think that's an invitation to keep chatting so I eventually have to block or ignore.

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Since I'm not a mind reader and cannot know how a man likes to be rejected, I do what is comfortable for me and that is to say something like "Thank you for your interest but I'm afraid we are not a good match. Good luck on your search!" It's sad when some of them think that's an invitation to keep chatting so I eventually have to block or ignore.

 

 

Why do you have to sound like a EMPLOYER?

 

 

"Good Luck on your search???????????????????

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THANKS?

 

 

why not just ignore the message and delete it instead of instead of sending that silly a$$ "Thanks but no thanks". That's why most of the time a guy will send a nasty message because most woman want to go out of their way to reject a guy.

 

 

That's the difference between men and woman, a man will never respond to a woman who is not his type. why do woman do it? Oh I know, "YOU WERE BEING POLITE!!:laugh:

 

Yes. What's wrong with curtesy?

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Yes. What's wrong with curtesy?

 

 

You are not a employer, you are a woman on a dating site. why is it so hard for you to understand that?

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Why do you have to sound like a EMPLOYER?

 

 

"Good Luck on your search???????????????????

 

It sort of is. After all, a date is kind of an interview on whether you might be boyfriend/girlfriend material. To be that, requires a certain amount of attraction.

 

And for at least some people, qualifying for a relationship puts you in the running for a promotion (ie. marriage).

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It sort of is. After all, a date is kind of an interview on whether you might be boyfriend/girlfriend material. To be that, requires a certain amount of attraction.

 

And for at least some people, qualifying for a relationship puts you in the running for a promotion (ie. marriage).

 

 

The last woman who told me good luck received a nasty message because I don't need LUCK to find someone.

 

Saying good luck to someone is so extra

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You are not a employer, you are a woman on a dating site. why is it so hard for you to understand that?

 

It is. You are applying for a date (interview) to determine if I/you are boyfriend/girlfriend material. If you are, and get "hired", then you may be in the running (for some people) for a promotion (marriage).

 

Most guys I talk to appreciate courtesy and politeness and acknowledgement. You don't obviously. Which means, you are likely to not be courteous and polite or appreciative. That way, you get to date the kind of person you want (who ignores you). I get to date who I want, and not make enemies out of people I may meet later on.

 

 

:rolleyes:

 

Geez.. some people will find ANYTHING to complain about.

Since you're the one who wants to be ignored - you don't have to write back.

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