Wanting to take care of them

[Anela]

 

I need an alarm clock that plays this every morning.

[RedRobin]

There are lots of things about everyone that resist 'fixing'... could be genetic, could be personality...

 

I commend the young lady for sharing her condition with Kaylan early on so that he can make a decision. I wasn't there, but giving her a hug and showing some sadness about her condition showed what I think is an appropriate level of concern. I think it is sweet too.

 

Now that it is out, then things don't deserve much more discussion or attention... I'm with Carhill on that one.

 

Things we really can't fix are best ignored... or we find a convenient distraction from so we can focus on more positive things.

[Els]

So I just wanted to know how others feel.

 

The girl Im seeing just let me know about a medical condition she has. It can be serious if not properly kept in check, but is totally manageable and a person can remain very healthy if they follow doctors orders.

 

That being said, I know some people might be cautious about certain medical condition for a variety of reasons...ie...potential for future kids to inherit the condition, not being able to emotionally handle what the condition might bring in later life, concerns about the conditions affect on the couples lifestyle, etc

 

Though its a bit soon for me to be thinking of any those things, one thing that definitely swept over me was a big "awwww" when she told me. I kinda just wanted to rub her back, make her tea, and just take care of her. It pisses me off though that some people get dealt not-so-good cards in life, but this girl really takes it all in stride. I really admire her...especially considering she didnt have a great home life growing up too.

 

But yeah...I just wanted to wrap her up in a big bear hug and make everything better.

 

How would some of you react to such news when dating someone pretty new?

 

I think the way you reacted was great. And cute, too. It doesn't sound like you were trying to 'fix' her at all - just to show empathy and be there for her emotionally.

 

I personally would not be with a guy who reacted the opposite from you. If, upon my revealing some intimate facts about my life and/or health, the guy starts distancing himself from me or worrying about how it'll affect him, I'll know I'm better off without him.

[Estate]

Allow me to smack down some of these assumptions. Because you know what they say when you assume right?

I never said it was an issue. I was asking other people how they would react in my situation. I wanted to see if other people felt similar to me. I didnt think my reaction was any issue at all. I was merely curious how others would think about this stuff.

??? Night in shining armor because I dare feel empathy for a girl whos had a tough life? Grow up bro, seriously.

 

Lmao. First off, learn to spell. Regardly? Whats that?

 

Secondly, so wait...now people shouldnt empathize or sympathize for others unless their sympathize on situations that happened after they showed up? Obviously, I want to, and have been getting on well with this chick since we started talking...but the fact that you take issue for me having sympathy for her in some tough situations is really stupid.

 

Another stupid assumption. You want to know how the medical condition came up? Because I asked why she cant do any strenuous exercise. The regulars on this forum know how much I enjoy exercise and fitness...so when I asked why her regimen was what it is, she told me why. She wasnt fishing for attention...I asked and she answered. Thats it.

 

Shes very indepedent and has been single for quite some time now...so shes not looking for saving. But she does like having a guy around who actually shows some damn compassion. Im not gonna be running to her every beck and call, especially because things just started...but I will be a good fellow and be considerate as we move forward.

 

Maybe if you showed some maturity and didnt make dumb assumptions, youd see theres nothing wrong with being empathetic towards folks...especially if youre dating them.

 

Tell me more about your super successful dating life, oh great guru know-it-all..

 

You're so lacking for comebacks you resort to spell checking?

 

Whatever man, it's your life.

 

How would I react to something like this? I wouldn't post on a forum looking for people to tell me what a great guy I am.

[StanMusial]

If it's not serious and a manageable condition then I don't see the problem. I dated a girl once who had lupus and it had no effect on our relationship whatsoever.