geegirl Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 But I do miss my ex a lot. Missing him is normal. But acting on your emotions is another thing. Missing him doesn't warrant chasing him down this way, especially when he's rejected you. The guy has given you his answer. Stop forcing someone to want and love you. Get a grip. Keep going to counseling. Focus on your studies.
na49 Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 It doesn't matter how much you love him. If he doesn't love you, there's nothing you can do to change his mind. He has to realize "Wow... I f*cked up.." to him, dumping you was the right thing to do. It may not have been an easy thing to do, but to him, not having you in his life was a better choice than keeping you in his life. Why not make him wonder about what you're up to? He's got you wrapped around his finger and has easy access to you because you allow yourself to be so accessible. I'm sure he will be surprised to see you showing some dignity and not begging him. This is when he will come to you and reach out. He may not say what you want to hear, but he will reach out which is what you want right? For him to be the one making the first move? That gives you the power back. Puts the ball in your court and you can play it based on what he says. And if he never does this? Well, you know where you stood with him.
TaraMaiden Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Pompous matriarch ? Not at all TM, just a beloved ball buster! Great - yet another title to add to the list....!
AlexfromBoston Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 Your experience, yes. But when the person who has been dumped, has a needy, dependent type of character, where their self-esteem is at an all-time low, and they're out of a relationship which was obviously either one sided or very un-even - such behaviour is actually only going to raise their hopes and make them yearn more for the dumper, not cure them or bring them much needed healing comfort. Your advice may well work for some, but for an awful lot of others, it's really not a good idea at all. This is going to make me sound like a pompous matriarch, but perhaps you could consider being more selective about whom you give this advice to, instead of promoting it as a heal-all method.....? Yeah, you are right Tara but I am not touting myself as a relationship expert or a professional on the matter. I am just a regular guy who has a modicum of success with women who just wants to provide his 2 cents. For me, a little bit of false hope has always worked in the long run. It gives me motivation to move on while simultaneously healing. But i have stated this in the past...I don't get too wrapped around the axle when it comes to women. As I have said, I have luck with girls and I truly understand that there are plenty of fish in the sea.
AlexfromBoston Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 I am sorry alexfromboston I didn't go to his house. I'm studying at the library. I have class at 6pm. Lol it's alright Miklos...I forgive you. You really need to just let it go and move on. I am telling you, you are really pushing it with this guy. You don't want to wind up with a restraining order or a domestic violence stalking charge. Word to the wise, anything labeled DV(domestic violence) related will greatly enhance an otherwise minor charge. They take it very very seriously. So if you become too manic and start stalking, you are looking at a DV stalking case which, depending on your jurisdiction, could bar you from making bail. So you could be sitting in lockup until your formal arraignment.
Author miklos Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 Im not that crazy -_- well maybe i am. a month ago when i went to beg. he told me he wanted to punch me and he actually pushed me all the way to the sidewalk first heartbreaks hurt sooo bad and i didnt know how to handle it.
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