He comes into and out of my life

[bellalove]

Hi everyone - I am in a reallly complicated situation, not sure what to think of it. I have asked some of my male friends and they give me TERRIBLE advice so I think maybe finding people who can take this a little more serious would be the best route to go.

 

I met a man 7 years ago, on the last day of our spring break down in Florida - we are the same age but went to two different schools, probably about 8 hrs apart. After meeting him, we added one another to facebook but didn't communicate at all - I wanted to pursue something but didn't try due to the big distance.

 

Welll during that 7 yrs I moved to a city much closer to him, he's now 2.5-3 hrs away. We didn't communicate until he emailed me telling me how gorgeous I am and that although we barely know each other he wanted to let me know that. We started emailing everyday throughout the day, then progressed to texting and phone calls. He ended up coming to see me a few weeks later, he brought flowers, was incredibly sweet, kept telling me how happy he was to be with me and how much he liked me and how he was happy things worked out the way they did. We were intimate. We made plans to try to meet up again the following weekend but things came up and it didn't work out. By that point, the holidays were right around the corner, we both have family aways away so we weren't able to meet up but made plans to for new years. From the time I saw him, up until right before I was supposed to see him again, we were in constant contact - texting/calling, nothing was out of the ordinary. Then a few days before I was supposed to see him again he just stopped out of nowhere. Of course I started to panick and would text him only to get no reply. I facebooked him, but would get a reply days later telling me he was unsure of the distance and didn't know if he could handle it and he was going through some struggles but didn't want to talk about them. I tried to save the relationship, I didn't guilt trip him by any means but did tell him we could make it work and I wanted to see him still. He didn't reply and I kinda left it at that. I didn't text him/call him/facebook him nothing. I kinda kept tabs on what was going on with any interactions with girls, there would be new pics put up but no girls were in it/no new girls added as facebook friends/no new posts on facebook by girls etc. I don't THINK there was another girl involved but I guess I could be wrong.

 

About a month passes and out of nowhere I get a comment on a new pic I posted saying I was looking good. I thanked him and left it at that. Then valentines day he texts me wishing me a happy vday and we started texting again, he talking about how he would like to see me again and asking how I've been. Then a few days later texting at night, this continuing for a few days in a row. Some texts telling me how I looked amazing in a new pic I posted etc. I want to say he misses me and still has feelings but I don't know how guys operate. There are some days (unlike in the past) where he'll just stop texting me out of nowhere. I don't try to continue the conversation but a part of me feels that he's the one who needs to try if he's the one who messed up. Also, we haven't once discussed what happened when he just stopped talking to me.

 

Can anybody give me advice on what I should do? I guess I would like a guy's insight on what his intentions likely are, is he wanting a relationship? is he wanting someone to hook up with (i would think if that was the case he wouldnt look for someone 3 hrs away). And what should i do? Play hard to get? Be sweet? Has anybody been on either side of this situation?