She ignores me but cries hysterically when breaking up...

[cre8r]

Please, could anyone explain how a woman can pretty much ignore her guy around friends and family, has undoubtedly proven to me she has taken me for granted and ranking me somewhere below the top 3 on her priority list? I'm at the point where I've had enough and decided it was time to break it off. However, as I was meeting up with her to return some items, she was crying as if the world was coming to an end. I had prepared myself emotionally to break up, but seeing her in that emotional state really got me down and now we're getting back together. I didn't want to break up in the first place but her crying made me think maybe she does care deeply. Have any men come across women like this? Can any women tell me what's going on? I'm really not happy with the way the relationship is going but I really don't want to disregard something that can possibly be fixed.

[TaraMaiden]

Did she make any commitment to change her attitude and behaviour towards you?

 

Did she suggest counselling?

 

Has she recognised that her behaviour led to your attempted break-up?

 

How does she feel about that?

 

Does she agree that her commitment to the relationship was flawed?

[cre8r]

On being ignored around her friends and family, her reply is that "why would she ignore me if she didn't want me to be a part of it', which I'll reply that simply bringing me doesn't make me a part of it. She doesn't mesh me into conversations she'll have with others, nothing I say seems to interest her around others, she'll often look at me as if I'm an alien when I do say something.

 

She's suggested counseling over other arguments although Im pretty sure it's just talk. She pretty much feels she never does anything wrong however I've pointed out a few of her lies that just can't be denied but she sticks to her guns.

 

She is a great and thoughtful person, I think a lot of her but it's not a lot of fun being her significant other.

[TaraMaiden]

Then if it's not 'fun' you need to break it off with her.

 

It's not fun, if you're the only one who sees and feels the problem.

It's not fun when you're the only one who sees it needs fixing, and she won't.

 

leave, go No Contact, then down the line, agree to be a friend, if you're well and truly over her.

 

but reconciling with her simply because she turned on the waterworks, is not a good reason.

You should be with her because your joint love should be a good springboard for tackling a future together, not because you feel sorry for her.