sallycinnamon Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 In January with some friends from an NGO we decided to go on a trip to a city near the mountain for a week. We were 4 girls and 4 boys. We were travelling on a Friday but that day I was feeling sick so I stayed at home and didn’t travel until the following Wednesday. Before going I already knew that the two previous nights Vicky (one of my girlfriends) had hooked up with one of the guys in the group, Tom. She even told me (via bbm) that she kind of fancied him and wanted to start “something” with him. When I got to this city, Vicky had already left because she was going to the Caribbean with her family. So we were only three girls. The first night out we went to a karaoke bar, I was way too drunk and I ended up making out with Tom, the guy Vicky had kissed and had a crush on. The following day I decided not to tell Vicky a word about Tom and me because she was in the Caribbean and she wasn’t using her phone so I didn’t think I should “worry” her with this stuff. That night I hooked up with Tom again… And we slept together, we didn’t have sex (of any kind) but we spooned, dry humped, and that kind of stuff... He even licked my back! Hahaha! The following night we also hooked up, we didn’t sleep that night since we got back to where we were staying at 6am and our bus back home was leaving at 7. We travelled next to each other, I slept on his shoulder, we talked, and he even hugged and kissed me. That Saturday, when I got back home I thought to myself “what the **** have I done?” I thought things would be kind of awkward between me and this guy but they weren’t. We saw again the following Tuesday in a thing related to the NGO and everything was cool. The following weeks during nights out with our friends we hooked up again (this happened on two nights because Vicky wasn’t there). Afterwards, I told Vicky about me kissing him when we were on vacation. She was kind of upset but she forgave me and decided to act as if nothing had happened. Every day, Vicky, Tom, another girlfriend, Tom’s flatmate and I talk via inbox and twice a week we hang out. I believe Vicky still has feelings for Tom and he shows ambiguous signs. Like he spends some time talking to her but then talks to me and rubs my arm. I don’t think I have a crush on him but I still want to hook up with him. And maybe the fact that he also shows some interest in Vicky makes me feel kind of jealous and this whole situation is just driving me crazy. Ah, by the way, he isn’t handsome at all, he’s rather ugly actually but he’s a really good kisser. Aaaaand I can’t send an inbox to him because he always leaves his fb open and anyone can see what I write. And he also is this careless with his phone so I can’t text him… Besides I would rather be rolled over by a truck than text o call him. What should I do? Suggestions?
MrCastle Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Be a better friend and stop falling for "ugly" guys.
JennaMax Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 you sure wrote a lengthy post...I'm a bit confused because you say you don't have a crush on him and he's rather ugly, which makes me think why hook up with him in the first place? I think what you need to do is make your mind up about him (whether you want to be bf and gf) and tell your friend. 1
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