aloneinphx Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 Well just asking for some input. My girl and I broke up 6 or so weeks ago after an 8 mo relationship. She wanted to be apart because she does not want to commit at this point in her life. This has been a problem her whole life in relationships. Anyway to get to the point we tried no contact but we both always seem to end up talking. Never has been a fight since we broke we have just seemed to have parted. We spend sometime together and get along fine little playful digs but its okay. Yet even though i have been seeing a different girl and working on my life I can't seem to be able to cut my ex off. And i really don't want to yet i do want her back and love her as much as always. Is this healthy? We still tell each other that we love each other. Have not slept together once because we know you can't just f*** someone you love. But i think i'm being so nice and understanding because i want her back. I have felt alot of pain since we broke up always do when someone rejects you even if they love you. But i have never had a hard time parting and seeing her makes me feel good not bad? Guess just looking for some advice..
Breathe Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 If you love her, want her, miss her - she makes you feel good - all that.... then why did you two break up? And why are out with OW? Is she dating others also?
Author aloneinphx Posted September 2, 2004 Author Posted September 2, 2004 Well those are all great questions. The break-up was never me it was all her. I tried very hard to save it. Mostly thru actions and letters I knew i had to let her know how i felt but try not to push to hard. She has never changed her stand that she does not to commit anymore. She is 29 I am 38 so i have to remember at her age i wanted to do whatever i wanted to do also. As for the ow been seeing her on and off for 3 weeks nothing major. My ex has been very clear we are not getting back together at least for now so why not see someone? Maybe she is the one for me? It is very hard when you love and respect someone but they are not ready to change. But i do be leave actions speak louder than words and i have no reason to hate my ex. She could have had so little respect for me that she cheated or used me instead of saying i can't do this to you. She says she is not dating which before me she had buddies you know. But nothing serious for 2 years so im sure she is out having some fun just the same as me.
overseas2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Ok here is some advice. You should not be seeing your ex at all. You need time to heal and get away from her so that you can move on with your life. I would stop all contact until the day comes when you have moved on and it doesn't hurt anymore to see her. That way you will get over it. This way you wont. You'll just end up frustrated like you are now.
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