mammasita Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 37 year old male who was laid off and had to move back in with his parents. He is currently finishing his graduate degree and trying to look for a job.
jma500 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Why not? Thanks to the economy and congresses continued bungling of it, life is difficult for most everyone. a least he is trying to better himself and searching for work.
Drseussgrrl Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Nope. Sucks for him but when times have gotten tough for me I didn't run back to my parents'. It would also mean he's not in a position to move forward in a relationship because he's still trying to figure his own course out in life, and I've already paved mine. 2
Emilia Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 37 year old male who was laid off and had to move back in with his parents. He is currently finishing his graduate degree and trying to look for a job. - What was he doing before going back to studying? - Is getting a graduate degree a sign that he understands career development or is he postponing work? - How steady was his employment before? Did he lived at lots of different addresses? 2
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 If you're really questioning yourself about dating him because of his current job status rather than for who he is then just don't date him. Don't let the guy have high hopes in you.
Emilia Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 If you're really questioning yourself about dating him because of his current job status rather than for who he is then just don't date him. Don't let the guy have high hopes in you. So you don't think his current job status partly reflects who he is? My diet reflects who I am. My job reflects who I am. My circle of friends reflects who I am. This is all information we collect about other people. The choices we make in life reflect who we are. 4
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 So you don't think his current job status partly reflects who he is? My diet reflects who I am. My job reflects who I am. My circle of friends reflects who I am. This is all information we collect about other people. The choices we make in life reflect who we are. Nope, you're from UK so you have no idea how the economy in USA is running. You never know when you can get laid off and this guy is actually about to finish his graduate degree and also looking for a new job so he isn't exactly what you would call a bum. The guy moved to his parents so he could finish getting his degree without any added stress of living outside without having a job. Getting a degree would obviously be him taking a huge step for his future.
Emilia Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Nope, you're from UK so you have no idea how the economy in USA is running. You never know when you can get laid off and this guy is actually about to finish his graduate degree and also looking for a new job so he isn't exactly what you would call a bum. The guy moved to his parents so he could finish getting his degree without any added stress of living outside without having a job. Getting a degree would obviously be him taking a huge step for his future. The rest of the world is experiencing recession too - I know this must be news to you as lots of people in the US don't appear to watch 'foreign' news We don't know why he moved, you are making assumptions. Questions have been asked by several posters including myself to ellaborate. However, your stating that it's wrong for the OP to try to work out whether the guy has taken the correct steps at the age of 37 is off. You are making too many assumptions based on not enough information. Give the girl a chance to explain, eh? 2
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 The rest of the world is experiencing recession too - I know this must be news to you as lots of people in the US don't appear to watch 'foreign' news We don't know why he moved, you are making assumptions. Questions have been asked by several posters including myself to ellaborate. However, your stating that it's wrong for the OP to try to work out whether the guy has taken the correct steps at the age of 37 is off. You are making too many assumptions based on not enough information. Give the girl a chance to explain, eh? Well if the woman really has to question about why he moved to his parents after losing a job then please for the sake of the guy, move on and find yourself another guy who makes a lot of money. Let the guy not get so confused about whether she is interested in him or not when he's trying to make something out of his life. I don't know why you're talking about assumptions here. Finishing a graduate degree is obviously a good thing. Losing a job is already tough, and then having a woman like that around is just unpleasant, especially at times like looking for a job. My advice to OP is stop dating the man so he can find someone better wh
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 The rest of the world is experiencing recession too - I know this must be news to you as lots of people in the US don't appear to watch 'foreign' news We don't know why he moved, you are making assumptions. Questions have been asked by several posters including myself to ellaborate. However, your stating that it's wrong for the OP to try to work out whether the guy has taken the correct steps at the age of 37 is off. You are making too many assumptions based on not enough information. Give the girl a chance to explain, eh? Well if the OP really has to question about why he moved to his parents after losing a job then please for the sake of the guy, move on and find yourself another guy who makes a lot of money. Let the guy not get so confused about whether she is interested in him or not when he's trying to make something out of his life. I don't know why you're talking about assumptions here. Finishing a graduate degree is obviously a good thing. Losing a job is already tough, and then having a woman like that around is just unpleasant, especially at times like looking for a job. My advice to OP is stop dating the man so he can find someone better who is willing to appreciate him for him.
jma500 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Nope. Sucks for him but when times have gotten tough for me I didn't run back to my parents'. It would also mean he's not in a position to move forward in a relationship because he's still trying to figure his own course out in life, and I've already paved mine. this is a load of bull. funny how it is ok for women to do this and media depicts it as such but for men it isn't and media depicts this as well and society's sheep eat this up. pathetic. 1
Emilia Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Well if the woman really has to question about why he moved to his parents after losing a job then please for the sake of the guy, move on and find yourself another guy who makes a lot of money. Let the guy not get so confused about whether she is interested in him or not when he's trying to make something out of his life. I don't know why you're talking about assumptions here. Finishing a graduate degree is obviously a good thing. Losing a job is already tough, and then having a woman like that around is just unpleasant, especially at times like looking for a job. My advice to OP is stop dating the man so he can find someone better wh I am 40 and I was unemployed for a year when I came back from working in Africa at the age of 36. I didn't move back with my parents and I was studying as well. I had created the financial backup to find ways to support myself (and no, I'm not rich) - even though I had been away from the UK for the best part of 2 years earning very little. A 37 year-old is not the same as a 25 year-old, or at least shouldn't be - in terms of set up. Now there can be exceptional circumstances but moving back with your parents at that age is not the same as moving back when you are 25. I had my own apartment, rented it out to tenants and found a cheap room somewhere until I found a job and could move back to my apartment again. Why doesn't this 37 year-old (who is easily old enough to be a father might I add!) have this backup? Is he likely to? Does he make bad financial choices or has he been just very very unlucky? 1
Author mammasita Posted February 25, 2013 Author Posted February 25, 2013 @IndianGuy - you're completely jumping to conclusions. I don't care how much money a man makes, I can take care of myself. I'm simply asking out of curiosity. 2
Els Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Nope, you're from UK so you have no idea how the economy in USA is running. You never know when you can get laid off and this guy is actually about to finish his graduate degree and also looking for a new job so he isn't exactly what you would call a bum. The guy moved to his parents so he could finish getting his degree without any added stress of living outside without having a job. Getting a degree would obviously be him taking a huge step for his future. Yeah... this might be okay at 27. Not so likely to be okay at 37, barring extenuating circumstances such as ill health. Most people know they're going to get laid off some time or another and would have managed to save up a little to survive by the age of 37, without having to run back to mommy immediately after getting laid off. It's hilarious that the guys who are quickest to defend their own rather amusing preferences, are also the ones quickest to bash others for having some. 3
jma500 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Yeah... this might be okay at 27. Not so likely to be okay at 37, barring extenuating circumstances such as ill health. Most people know they're going to get laid off some time or another and would have managed to save up a little to survive by the age of 37, without having to run back to mommy immediately after getting laid off. It's hilarious that the guys who are quickest to defend their own rather amusing preferences, are also the ones quickest to bash others for having some. yup. you are just so much better than us mere mortals. you even have a quote on your post about perfection
Els Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 yup. you are just so much better than us mere mortals. you even have a quote on your post about perfection I find your worship pleasing, mortal. Go forth in peace. 5
Estate Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 37 year old male who was laid off and had to move back in with his parents. He is currently finishing his graduate degree and trying to look for a job. I'm sure this is a good guy but it sounds like he's talking himself down which isn't attractive. If someone asked this guy to describe himself is this his answer or does he talk about his cool interest, hobbies, or what he has going for him? Just a thought.
Drseussgrrl Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 this is a load of bull. funny how it is ok for women to do this and media depicts it as such but for men it isn't and media depicts this as well and society's sheep eat this up. pathetic. Huh? For the record I'm a chick and I've been laid off. I went out and got a crappy serving job, because you know, I'm an adult and need to take care of my sh*t. Not sure where you got I think it's "ok" for women to do this. I'm just going to assume that you live at home or can't keep a job. 1
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Yeah... this might be okay at 27. Not so likely to be okay at 37, barring extenuating circumstances such as ill health. Most people know they're going to get laid off some time or another and would have managed to save up a little to survive by the age of 37, without having to run back to mommy immediately after getting laid off. It's hilarious that the guys who are quickest to defend their own rather amusing preferences, are also the ones quickest to bash others for having some. Whatever the reasons may be, just leave the man alone if you really wanna question his certain actions. I understand the whole age thing so if you really have to question it, just find someone who makes decent money rather than worry about this type of guy and have him wonder if she's interested in him or not. A lot of guys ended up slacking in their early lives so they never really worked hard for money or went to school. Some of those guys end up maturing later and start taking responsibility of their life. This guy could possibly be the guy who started it off late, hence finishing his graduate degree as late as 37. Like they say, better late than never. And I'm really not bashing her preferences or anything. Did you see me calling names or anything? All I said was there could be some possible legitimate reasons why he moved in and if you really want to question his actions then for the sake of yourself and him, especially the guy who was a victim of recession then forget about continuously dating him and just find a better guy in your eyes that has money so you would not have something like this to worry about. And don't put me in the category of "guys who are quickest to defend their own rather amusing preferences, are also the ones quickest to bash others for having some" because personally, you don't know me and never did I bring up any of my preferences once to even be in the position to defend it.
pbjbear Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I wouldnt be concerned he moved back to his parents. Id be more concerned he is looking for a job in a new field. Most people I know finishing up grad school and looking for a job in this economy could move anywhere at any time and Id like someone more stable in their life. It would be my luck for my first boyfriend to move far away for one of the few jobs he is offered and I dont do long distance
Els Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Well if the woman really has to question about why he moved to his parents after losing a job then please for the sake of the guy, move on and find yourself another guy who makes a lot of money. My advice to OP is stop dating the man so he can find someone better Yes, because this is absolutely not judgmental or bashing.
carhill Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Given the circumstances, probably healthier to date someone in your league. The sample gentleman is an unknown quantity. When faced with that, the usual human response is 'no'. Go with that.
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Yes, because this is absolutely not judgmental or bashing. Yup. That's not bashing because if a woman is questioning dating him just because of his actions related to his job status then he deserves to be left alone to find someone that would appreciate him regardless of his job status, hence better because she would appreciate him more than the OP.
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