Is this love?

[tei]

We kept things a secret cause our parents knew each other, and we wanted to give our relationship a chance. He used to text me every morning and every night and I guess I've never had a boyfriend so I didn't know this was something other women would envy a bit. However it gradually died down and eventually stopped when I got hooked on him and liked him. We've been dating kind of on and off for a good while. He'd have hot and cold patterns, and we've never had sex. Even though he'd want dirty pics here and there. Since I'm so inexperienced we didn't even kiss until 4mo after dating. After two years of this kind of casual dating there was a period (8mos ago) where we were going to break it off for good but ended up not. Then about 6 months ago it got really hot in our relationship. We started to see each other more and more and then suddenly he tells me he has a girlfriend. Though I didn't have sex, we did fool around a couple of times. When he broke the news I asked him when and it turns out since 6-7 months after having first dated me....when I was an idiot taking things way too slow. I say an idiot because I could tell he was really into me back then. He used to text me after our dates and talk to me til it was bedtime, and he even had cute movie night ideas where we would talk on the phone but watch the same movie. Well anyway...I cried but not in front of him...it broke my heart to learn this, but he still wanted to continue seeing me,and he's been awfully honest to me about a ton of things even though it makes him seem really horrible. Having a girlfriend was the biggest thing he'd ever keep from me, but at least he told me right? Now we see other one to two times a week, when it used to be maybe once a month about 6months ago. He tells me that he hasnt had sex with his girl in a long while, and now shes suspecting him of cheating because he hasnt spent enough time with her. But it still breaks my heart to know then that this is why I wasnt invited to his birthday parties or anything...Even now, he would text me when he'd be with her so that I won't text him.. Given he does only see her maybe once a month it doesn't change the fact that she's the one he takes to disneyland. When we spend time together he always says he misses me, he's thought about me alot (he usually does text me, and if I don't respond, he'd call...one day he called me 5x in 3hrs...my phone was on silent), but never says he loves me. I guess then my question is, do you think he's stringing me along for no reason? I feel like he does in fact have strong feelings for me, otherwise why stick around for 2yrs without getting any....(i think they became official because she was willing to have sex and I was a slow moving turtle). Why be so honest? Vent to me about his relationship? Fool around with me? I don't know the girlfriend part too well, or if perhaps this is his dating pattern? He told me his girlfriend used to be his ****buddy he had. Do you think I'm a friend with benefits or more to him? Do you think he does love me but is afraid to admit it? Sometimes he'd ask if I can come over so we can just cuddle and watch a movie. He'd cuddle me and kiss me on my forehead when he thinks I'm sleeping...I just don't know if I just officially break it or perhaps wait a few months until he possibly ends it with his girl or what....Please help!

[Toddbt12y1]

How old are you?

 

Why are you willingly going along with being the ow(other woman)? Doesn't matter all those cute little words he tells you; you're second hand. Doesn't matter he told you -- you're his cake.

 

What you are doing is wrong, just as wrong as him: to go along with a cheater, makes you just as guilty of cheating as they are!

 

You'll hurt his gf. He will. Cause her endless misery. What goes around will come around.

 

Do you see this? Rid yourself of him and do not venture this insidious path nomore. No good will come of it!

 

If he cheats with you on her; what makes you think he won't cheat on you? Be mature, this is bad news...