tobefree Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Long story short, i met this woman who is my colleague from last July. She started flirting with me from the very beginning. Later we talked a lot online, then i learnt that she had a boyfriend. Initially i only wanted us to be friends and no more. But she kept flirting with me, texting me till very late every night. She told me how she and her boyfriend were not getting along and she said she liked me and asked me not to feel guilty because if it were not me, she would also break up with her boyfrend, saying their relationship would not last long. I believed what she told me and really hoped that one day she would break up with her boyfriend to be with me. But after a few months have passed, she never mentioned her boyfriend, and i did confront her how things are with her boyfriend every now and then, she would never gave me a straight answer. I was feeling insecure all the time being with her. Because she seldom picked up my phone even though we texted back and forth all night long, but when i called her, she would not answer my phone calls. She would say she was in the shower, or downstairs walking dog, or he phone was somehow set in silence mode, or she didn't hear the phone calls at all. She blamed me that i never trusted her. I knew she and i would not last, but i still sticked to it till this week. She became distant after she came back from her hometown where she spent her CNY for more than a week. I texted her saying i made the mistake by getting involved with her and her boyfriend and i said since you and your boyfriend wouldn't break up, i would let go and find my true love. Last Friday she texted me she was pregnant and did the abortion. I was very sad to see the message and said how this happended. I was not afraid to take the respnisible if the child was mine. And after all the talkings, she said it was only a joke. I was very confused. She said she just wanted to see how i reacted and how my moral quality is. I confirmed her again last Sat she said no, she was not pregnant. I was very confused. She told me before that she had a 3-year old child with a man. But then said it was a joke too. I mean why she said she was pregnant and then said it's not true? She said this just because she want to break it up with me? Help please. I am so confused.
destroyed4sho Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 How old is this woman? She sounds immature. Have you confronted her about her inappropriate "jokes"? i dont find them funny. If she wants to.know about your morals she should spend time with you rather then test you with horrid "jokes". She is heating on her bf...she has no regard or respect for her SO. She will do the same to you eventually.
Author tobefree Posted February 26, 2013 Author Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) Thanks for your reply. She is 30 years old. I confirmed her about this "abortion“ thing the next day after she said it by text and she said no, she was never pregnant. when i reconfirmed she still said no and asked me not to think too much. ( i have been calling her ever since she said it, she would never pick up the phone.) From the get go, when we texted back and forth, when she told me she was not feeling well, i called her, but she never picked up the phone even when we were texting at the same time. This gets me really confused and leads me to speculate that she may be with her man (not sure her bf or lover, since she never discloses it to me) when we were texting. sigh. Edited February 26, 2013 by tobefree
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