SunsetRed Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I'm on an online dating site and have had this happen more than once. I'll meet someone, we'll exchange messages and then numbers and then will talk. A couple of times, the men said "hey, I've gotta run some errands and I'll call you right back." These guys never called back. No biggie, I figure that's how communication w stranger on the internet works sometime. Whats funny is that months later, these guys will message me like they've just seen my profile for the first time. I sort of shake my head, but I feel like saying, "hey, we've already met. You blew me off after one phone call, don't you remember?" I wonder are they really too dumb to remember that we've already spoken or did everyone reject them and now they're cycling back to me again.
starla33 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I'm on an online dating site and have had this happen more than once. I'll meet someone, we'll exchange messages and then numbers and then will talk. A couple of times, the men said "hey, I've gotta run some errands and I'll call you right back." These guys never called back. No biggie, I figure that's how communication w stranger on the internet works sometime. Whats funny is that months later, these guys will message me like they've just seen my profile for the first time. I sort of shake my head, but I feel like saying, "hey, we've already met. You blew me off after one phone call, don't you remember?" I wonder are they really too dumb to remember that we've already spoken or did everyone reject them and now they're cycling back to me again. I've had a guy I actually went out with contact me TWICE like a year later basically as if he was seeing my profile for the first time. It was hilarious. A lot of these guys go through a ton of girls on dating websites....so no they don't remember.
rocketman122 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I remember every single women I see. as a a pro photog I have a photographic memory. I see everything. and if its an image, not number or technical data to remember (which im good but not like images) then its locked in. I always remember the smallest details of a person (virgo) and I always, always read their profile more than once and most times 3-4 times before considering sending a message. I analyze and see if we can have something then I do. pretty, gorgeous, or average, it doesnt matter. no point starting something if there would be no potential. I hate teasing, using and playing with peoples feelings for my cokks satisfaction.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. 1
iKING Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. That's strange and ingenious at the same time. 1
rocketman122 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. I never felt the need to make a 2nd fake profile. but I got spied on too many times. it was very obvious.
Eternal Sunshine Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I never felt the need to make a 2nd fake profile. but I got spied on too many times. it was very obvious. I actually made it to conduct an experiment on human behavior but then never deleted it.
ChessPieceFace Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. You try writing 50 original messages, getting no responses then facing the prospect of writing 1000 more. Men are supposed to spend 15 minutes writing a heartfelt detailed message to a woman who dismisses him in 5 seconds with a visual scan and a click? You don't have the authority to judge until you're a man trying to use a dating site. Maybe it's impersonal but it's also understandable. I don't see how it's any different than a pickup line. Not even as bad. Since you're already into fake profiles, maybe you should make a profile of an average guy with an average picture, average income and situation, write up 50 custom messages tailored to 50 women, send them out and see what your success rate is. Then you can proceed to judge men on that issue. 3
Leopagne Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I actually made it to conduct an experiment on human behavior but then never deleted it. Pray tell, what was the experiment?
El Brujo Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. News from the other side... I have a fake profile on PoF, and "she" gets a lot of "let's make some little retards" type of messages from guys who think with their d1ck$.
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. Lol. I've had my profile on 3 different online dating sites since 2009 and each time I messaged girls I wrote something completely different. I always brought up something in their profile which I found to be quite interesting. However, after 3 years I still have not had one girl messaging me back on all 3 different sites. Not even once and no, I avoid messaging girls who I find as extremely attractive because I know they are way out of my league. As a guy who tries to stay fit and go to the gym every now and then, I even messaged a lot of overweight/obese type girls and even they wouldn't reply back. A lot of guys just probably copy and paste the same messages just for the sake of saving time by messaging as many girls as they can so at least one girl would be willing to reply back.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Pray tell, what was the experiment? There's already a thread discussing said experiment. Enjoy the read!
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Lol. I've had my profile on 3 different online dating sites since 2009 and each time I messaged girls I wrote something completely different. I always brought up something in their profile which I found to be quite interesting. However, after 3 years I still have not had one girl messaging me back on all 3 different sites. Not even once and no, I avoid messaging girls who I find as extremely attractive because I know they are way out of my league. As a guy who tries to stay fit and go to the gym every now and then, I even messaged a lot of overweight/obese type girls and even they wouldn't reply back. A lot of guys just probably copy and paste the same messages just for the sake of saving time by messaging as many girls as they can so at least one girl would be willing to reply back. Dang dude, 3 years? I gave up after 6 months. If it makes you feel any better I had no response either and I'm a white guy. I only tried POF though. 1
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 There are a couple of threads on how tough it is for white guys. Maybe you should start one. It's been a few weeks...
kimberlydoll Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I hear online dating is hard for men. Yet why is it every guy I meet online wont delete his account and continues to see other girls, even when we've been dating awhile? I dont choose guys that are hot either to date. Most are prob average looking
Estate Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I remember every single women I see. as a a pro photog I have a photographic memory. I see everything. and if its an image, not number or technical data to remember (which im good but not like images) then its locked in. I always remember the smallest details of a person (virgo) and I always, always read their profile more than once and most times 3-4 times before considering sending a message. I analyze and see if we can have something then I do. pretty, gorgeous, or average, it doesnt matter. no point starting something if there would be no potential. I hate teasing, using and playing with peoples feelings for my cokks satisfaction. Well aren't you the gentleman.... fishing for something dude?
Estate Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Lol. I've had my profile on 3 different online dating sites since 2009 and each time I messaged girls I wrote something completely different. I always brought up something in their profile which I found to be quite interesting. However, after 3 years I still have not had one girl messaging me back on all 3 different sites. Not even once and no, I avoid messaging girls who I find as extremely attractive because I know they are way out of my league. As a guy who tries to stay fit and go to the gym every now and then, I even messaged a lot of overweight/obese type girls and even they wouldn't reply back. A lot of guys just probably copy and paste the same messages just for the sake of saving time by messaging as many girls as they can so at least one girl would be willing to reply back. Then what are you saying to them? Its VERY easy to get replies from even verry attractive girls, even if it doesn't lead to a date. Just be normal. My female friend showed me some of the stuff guys send her and even the ones you know are "heartfelt" are just so cringeworthy it hurts.
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 There are a couple of threads on how tough it is for white guys. Maybe you should start one. It's been a few weeks... I only brought it up because he was griping about girls hatin on him due to his indian heritage.
SmileFace Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I know most guys send mass messages so I don't really give them any crap when I get multiple messages - especially if I changed up my picture. However I actually went on a date with one guy. It wasn't a bad date. We both didn't like each other much and you can tell the feeling was mutual - there was no contact after the date on both sides. However a year later he wrote me on the dating site and couldn't remember who I was. Now that is a different story.lol
rocketman122 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Well aren't you the gentleman.... fishing for something dude? Not understanding your statement. I dont fish anymore. I have a GF. When I did OLD, I didnt have to try hard to find dates. I was selective though. I didnt go out with a girl only because she looked great. that would be shallow. I chose them because I thought they were attractive and because I thought there could potential. and yes, always a gentleman...when I date.
Cutiepie1976 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I only brought it up because he was griping about girls hatin on him due to his indian heritage. I was being tongue-in-cheek. BTW, you're a cute little warthog today. This is by far the most adorable of your reincarnations so far, although the giraffe was close. I wonder what safari animal you'll grace us with next.
StanMusial Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 I was being tongue-in-cheek. BTW, you're a cute little warthog today. This is by far the most adorable of your reincarnations so far, although the giraffe was close. I wonder what safari animal you'll grace us with next. You never know... giraffes are my favorite animal probably but I like to shake it up.
CptObvious Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 It's funny because I have one fake OKC profile. I often see guys messaging me and that other profile with exactly the same message. Some messages actually sound original and it would be hard to tell if I didn't have fake profile. http://affordablehousinginstitute.org/blogs/us/wp-content/uploads/brilliant_681.jpg
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Then what are you saying to them? Its VERY easy to get replies from even verry attractive girls, even if it doesn't lead to a date. Just be normal. My female friend showed me some of the stuff guys send her and even the ones you know are "heartfelt" are just so cringeworthy it hurts. I act normal and don't really send any "heartfelt" type messages. More like hey, how are you. Compliment her looks once and point out something in her profile which I find to be interesting.
IndianGuy87 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Dang dude, 3 years? I gave up after 6 months. If it makes you feel any better I had no response either and I'm a white guy. I only tried POF though. Haha. In the past few years I used to message any girl regardless of her race. It was just almost last year when I finally decided to stop messaging white girls in these online dating sites and also stop approaching them in real life. I consider my reputation and face value to be important and don't wanna seem as another desperate minority who is obsessed with white girls. I started focusing just on black and Asian girls but they are really not into Indian guys either. They only prefer white guys when dating interracial. My present preferences in girls are Indian, Middle Eastern, and Hispanic but there aren't many of them in my area plus they are hard to find on the online dating sites. Found some Middle Eastern girls but almost all of their preferences said they wanted a Middle Eastern guy.
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