I punched him...

[Kaza]

I was trying to cope, with limited contact (LC), we work in the same place. But he caught up with me and talked to me. We talked and he confessed that he was thinking of his ex girlfriend while with me. Afterwards I was just fuming and when I chanced on him again, I just did it. It wasn't a very hard punch. I feel really betrayed. I can't quite believe I just punched my ex boyfriend.

[Eggplant]

Have you apologized?

[aliceinthebox]

Does she need to?

 

Way to go! He definitely deserved it! Too bad you didn't punch him harder.

[M30USA]

Does she need to?

 

Way to go! He definitely deserved it! Too bad you didn't punch him harder.

 

Disgusting comment.

[Love Bytes]

Does she need to?

 

Way to go! He definitely deserved it! Too bad you didn't punch him harder.

 

Though what he did was despicable, it doesn't warrant violence. What if the tables were turned, and the guy punched a girl for the same thing? Equality or not...pick one.

 

Sorry you're going through this, but punching people doesn't help...though I'm sure it felt great.

[SuperGeek]

You should be arrested for this. A man doing the same thing would be hauled off to jail for domestic violence. Just because you are a female doesn't give you special rights... wait actually I'm wrong. You do get special rights.

 

Enjoy the era where women are correct about everything and men are automatic abusers, perverts, liars, cheaters, pigs, and rapists by default. Oh and if we are accused of doing what you just did, we get our names put on a list maintained by the state and it's virutally impossible to get ours names off of it as a male -- EVEN if the MALE didn't even commit a crime at all, his name still remains on the stupid list. This impacts employments, jobs, security clearances you name it.

 

Enjoy your special freedoms ladies. Go punch out more guys -- it could be some good stress relief for you. Nothing bad will happen to you. You're female so you can get away with pretty much whatever you want these days.

 

Life is just one big double standard now and getting bigger everyday.

 

Equality my ass!!! Biggest bunch of BS ever told. There is only equality when it suits the agenda of the female.

 

And if you're offended by my response - I don't give two ****s.

 

SuperGeek

 

I was trying to cope, with limited contact (LC), we work in the same place. But he caught up with me and talked to me. We talked and he confessed that he was thinking of his ex girlfriend while with me. Afterwards I was just fuming and when I chanced on him again, I just did it. It wasn't a very hard punch. I feel really betrayed. I can't quite believe I just punched my ex boyfriend.

Edited February 25, 2013 by SuperGeek

[Kaza]

You should be arrested for this. A man doing the same thing would be hauled off to jail for domestic violence. Just because you are a female doesn't give you special rights... wait actually I'm wrong. You do get special rights.

 

Enjoy the era where women are correct about everything and men are automatic abusers, perverts, liars, cheaters, pigs, and rapists by default. Oh and if we are accused of doing what you just did, we get our names put on a list maintained by the state and it's virutally impossible to get ours names off of it as a male -- EVEN if the MALE didn't even commit a crime at all, his name still remains on the stupid list. This impacts employments, jobs, security clearances you name it.

 

Enjoy your special freedoms ladies. Go punch out more guys -- it could be some good stress relief for you. Nothing bad will happen to you. You're female so you can get away with pretty much whatever you want these days.

 

Life is just one big double standard now and getting bigger everyday.

 

Equality my ass!!! Biggest bunch of BS ever told. There is only equality when it suits the agenda of the female.

 

And if you're offended by my response - I don't give two ****s.

 

SuperGeek

 

Things are never black and white, don't place judgements so quickly, and there's really no need to get worked up over it. I don't feel like saying more about my thoughts. People who do know me already know everything there is to know.

 

I'll just say that the truth is that he didn't really get hurt and neither did my knuckles.

[geegirl]

Things are never black and white, don't place judgements so quickly, and there's really no need to get worked up over it. I don't feel like saying more about my thoughts. People who do know me already know everything there is to know.

 

I'll just say that the truth is that he didn't really get hurt and neither did my knuckles.

 

Lame punch or not, you don't put your hands on somebody else. If he was vindictive, he could press charges and you would be at the losing end, again. And not forgetting, reacting this way at your place of work. Jeopardizing your reputation and job. Think before you react physically.

 

What he did was awful, but it does not warrant violence. Try to practice restraint, because you can't go around raising your hands everytime you're tempted by an assclown.

Edited February 25, 2013 by geegirl

[TaraMaiden]

I saw that Sharon Osborne programme and I completely agree: her attitude was deplorable and unforgivable.

 

Violence, of any kind, to any leveerl for whatever reason, is utterly unjustified.

 

I would personally take issue though, that violence BY women ON men is as much of a laughing matter today as it was even 5 years ago.

 

Reverse the roles. Women hitting men is considered funny, and justified.

 

I disagree.

 

Public attitudes and standards have shifted.

Such reports of abuse are thankfully, becoming more open, and rightly so.

 

Fewer people 'laugh' about this than you'd think.

I'm not laughing, geegirl isn't laughing and I'll warrant other women posting on this thread will not laugh either.

 

The OP may feel she had just cause, but nothing - BUT NOTHING - gives any justification for hitting another person in an unprovoked manner.

Self-defence is one thing.

Anger and spite are quite different.

 

It's not funny, and it's not clever.

[M30USA]

I can speak from experience, having been assaulted more than once by ex-wife, and you can laugh all you want but it's not funny. And no I didn't "deserve" it.

[Els]

Is there really something to be proud of when you lose your temper and hit someone like a child does, OP?

[Els]

This is why women need to understand that if a man hits her, he can seriously fu ck her up, so it's not a good idea to hit a man because if he decides to defend himself, which he should, she's going to be in a world of pain. And if a women pushes a man's buttons (psychologically, etc), thinking that she can get away with it, she should think again.

 

You're hardly in a position to preach about equality and role reversal, are you, dear kettle?

[Emilia]

I was trying to cope, with limited contact (LC), we work in the same place. But he caught up with me and talked to me. We talked and he confessed that he was thinking of his ex girlfriend while with me. Afterwards I was just fuming and when I chanced on him again, I just did it. It wasn't a very hard punch. I feel really betrayed. I can't quite believe I just punched my ex boyfriend.

 

Well he does sound like a complete ass for doing that to you and you clearly had no any other kind of come back. He wanted to upset you on purpose. Of course I don't condone physical violence but to be fair it sounds like it couldn't have happened to a bigger c**k

[TaraMaiden]

This is why women need to understand that if a man hits her, he can seriously fu ck her up, so it's not a good idea to hit a man because if he decides to defend himself, which he should, she's going to be in a world of pain. And if a women pushes a man's buttons (psychologically, etc), thinking that she can get away with it, she should think again.

 

This is true:

I think one of the reasons some women hit their menfolk, is because they know this particular man will not hit back.

It's a strategy women will use, by viewing their man's passive and non-violent nature as a weakness, or point in their own favour.

 

They're counting on their partner's non-aggressive nature and temperament, to enable them to be physically abusive.

It's a gamble that pays off, because, knowing their man as they do, the odds are on their side.

 

I think if a man hits a woman, it's because he knows he can, because structurally, men are physically more powerful and stronger than their female counterpart. They have far more confidence in hitting a woman, because they know the chances of that woman hitting back are massively minuscule.

[TaraMaiden]

You're hardly in a position to preach about equality and role reversal, are you, dear kettle?

 

No, you're right, he's not - but in fairness, he makes a good point, nevertheless.....

[Els]

No, you're right, he's not - but in fairness, he makes a good point, nevertheless.....

 

I completely disagree that it is justified for a man to beat a woman up just because he thinks she's 'psychologically pushing his buttons'. This poster is just using this thread, like all others, as a hook to push his rather thinly veiled hostility against women.

[TaraMaiden]

No, there you are absolutely right.

 

It's as wrong for a man to hit a woman, because she 'psychologically pushed his buttons' as it is for a woman - and that's the justification the OP is using.

And yeah, you're right.

 

There IS no excuse for that.

 

I actually should have clarified and stated that I was really referring to the man defending himself and being far more damaging. And why.

 

 

I hope that's better.....

[Els]

No, there you are absolutely right.

 

It's as wrong for a man to hit a woman, because she 'psychologically pushed his buttons' as it is for a woman - and that's the justification the OP is using.

And yeah, you're right.

 

There IS no excuse for that.

 

I actually should have clarified and stated that I was really referring to the man defending himself and being far more damaging. And why.

 

 

I hope that's better.....

 

Yep, totally agreed.

[M30USA]

As I've said before, anybody (man or woman) who hits anybody (man or woman) has some serious psychological problems.

[aliceinthebox]

Disgusting comment.

 

You have a right to your own opinion, but from what I can hear he was provoking her. I think there's one thing to be caught off guard or being on the receiving end of abuse and another thing to be outright disrespected.

 

I've never punched someone, but I honestly do think certain people deserve it. Maybe I just sound vengeful, but again you have a right to your opinion as do I.

[stillafool]

Does she need to?

 

Way to go! He definitely deserved it! Too bad you didn't punch him harder.

 

Would it be okay if he defended himself and punched her back?

 

OP it is never okay to physically abuse someone unless you are okay with getting punched back.

[M30USA]

You have a right to your own opinion, but from what I can hear he was provoking her. I think there's one thing to be caught off guard or being on the receiving end of abuse and another thing to be outright disrespected.

 

I've never punched someone, but I honestly do think certain people deserve it. Maybe I just sound vengeful, but again you have a right to your opinion as do I.

 

Then a woman can walk away...just like a man can.

 

Judge Judy once said that a woman doesn't hit a man that she is truly afraid of.

[geegirl]

You have a right to your own opinion, but from what I can hear he was provoking her. I think there's one thing to be caught off guard or being on the receiving end of abuse and another thing to be outright disrespected.

 

I've never punched someone, but I honestly do think certain people deserve it. Maybe I just sound vengeful, but again you have a right to your opinion as do I.

 

I don't think he provoked her. If you read her post, she actually engaged and had a conversation with him. And while what he confessed, was utter stupidity, it didn't warrant violence. The smart and mature thing to do, would be to disengage and walk away, especially when you are at your place of work.

 

When you say provoked, if he got in her face, berated her and just didn't want to let up, then that would be a different story but I still cannot condone hitting someone.

 

People will disrespect you. If your boss disrespected you today, you'd hit him? If a stranger in a grocery store picked a fight with you, you'd hit them? Where do you draw the line? Or is hitting only subjected to exs that act stupid?

[PogoStick]

I punched a girl out of reflex when she put her lit cigarette to my arm to be funny, to which she responded, "you *******". I wasn't even facing or interacting with her at the time. Never felt a bit bad for that one.

[TaraMaiden]

You have a right to your own opinion, but from what I can hear he was provoking her. I think there's one thing to be caught off guard or being on the receiving end of abuse and another thing to be outright disrespected.

 

Would this have been acceptable if the roles had been reversed and it was she 'disrespecting' him?

 

I've never punched someone, but I honestly do think certain people deserve it. Maybe I just sound vengeful, but again you have a right to your opinion as do I.

 

Oh, you know what?

 

I know many, many people who definitely deserve it.

They deserve to be pushed under a moving train, frankly.

 

Would I do it, though?

 

Never.

 

Why?

 

because raising your hands in anger against anyone, no matter how much YOU may believe they 'deserve' it - doesn't make it either justified, or right.

 

And that's not an opinion.

That also happens to be Law.