simplybrill Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 Hey yall! Well I met this guy a year ago, and we've seen each other around campus, chatted etc, had a class together, hung out a little bit, and then I stopped talking to him, because he frankly gave me the creeps. Its because he's so controlled and guarded with everything from his actions to his emotions, to what he wears on a daily basis : you only see what he wants you to see, heaven forbid he break down and have a human moment. This dude would be in my head all the time, I would think about things and overanalyze every action I made when we hung out, the end result, me being a nervous wreck around him. I really liked him a LOT before I started noticing what a marble statue he was. So I didnt talk to him for a year, and I ran into him randomly one day and we've kind of been communicating again, its just that now he's not answering when I call, and it doesnt seem like he can be bothered to call me at all anymore. Is this my karma for just leaving him high and dry last year when he creeped me out? I also let him know that I thought he was trying to get back with an ex gf he mentioned he still kept in touch with last year. That's another thing that made me back off. I told him flat out, well dude I couldnt get a good read on ya, and he said "yea haha you were'nt supposed to!" Anyone else ever encountered someone like this...because to this day, im befuddled... Is he backing off because he thinks I like him again, and he doesnt want a relationship? I wish one of you guys knew him, so you could just tell me haha. Sometimes he acts so sweet, and other times its just frustrating because in the back of my mind im thinking " oh are you just being sweet because you want me to think you're a nice guy and start chasing you again, or are you being this way for real this time??" Ugh...here I go again, getting my mind all tied up in knots over some ego-centric metrosexual probably. PS- Im not calling him back. He needs to call ME.
surfergirl Posted September 2, 2004 Posted September 2, 2004 Sounds to me like he certainly has some sort of chemical imbalance. I don't think that I would spend any length of time with this guy. You can do better than that. No one is looking out for you but you so why have a relationship with someone who keeps you tied up in knots about everything? If you can't be yourself and he can't really be himself then do you really know him at all after all this time??? sg
faux Posted September 3, 2004 Posted September 3, 2004 Originally posted by surfergirl Sounds to me like he certainly has some sort of chemical imbalance. I don't think that I would spend any length of time with this guy. I wouldn't say it's a chemical imbalance. Who is to say that any of us are balanced chemically in the first place? I have met a few people who are just like this guy. They are very gaurded about everything, always serious, and tend to make even the most simple of conversational topics uncomfortable. Unfortunately, some people do not want people to know anything about them unless they find you truly exceptional, and let you into their lives. If you want to know why he is backing off, you are going to have to ask him. I cannot read minds, and I don't think anyone but he would know why he chooses to do as he does. If you really need to know his reasoning, you may have to phone him before he phones you, or simply try to strike up conversation in person.
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