A n t h o n y Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Long story short my Ex left me about 4 months ago for some 25 year old douchebag and they have been together 3 months or so now and I found out here recently they are engaged and getting married. We were together 3 years prior to this went through a lot was with me while I was fighting cancer among other things. Did I mention she's 18?! I can't explain why I feel so irritated but I am.
stevie_23 Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 Well…you’re likely irritated because you probably hoped and dreamed and expected you both to end up what she is now with this new guy. And it didn’t happen, so…that kinda sucks. Except it’s GOOD because (a) it wasn’t meant to be and that was evidenced by the fact it didn’t happen, (b) if the guy she is with now truly is a douchebag (and that’s not just your biased opinion based on the way things happened), well, that’s her loss and it may be a bit of a not so good reflection on who SHE is as a person if she’s chosen to be with someone, and © the fact she’s committed to getting married to this person when she’s only 18, it may show she doesn’t know what she wants (and this may relate to your relationship ending too, if she initiated the break up), or it may show she now DOES know what she wants and this is why she’s committed to the guy so quickly and didn’t get to that stage with you. And that may hurt (which manifests itself as irritation to you now), but it’s ok. It still doesn’t mean she never loved you. It still doesn’t mean you’re not a good person, worthy of having a girl fall in love with you and want to marry you.
Author A n t h o n y Posted February 25, 2013 Author Posted February 25, 2013 I guess I just don't understand how you can build a "life" in less than a few months. And yeah we loved eachother I know we did but I feel moving in together put to much stress on us and pushed us away and this guy was "there" for her when I wasn't. And he's a drug selling tatto artist so yes, he's a douche and honestly a snake because I trusted them both with their whole "friendship" and never suspected anything but literally the day she left me she was with this guy. It just blows my mind.
KatZee Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 She hasn't "built a life" in 3 months. She's 18 and an idiot. Don't you remember being 18? Her frontal lobe in her brain isn't even developed yet. Won't be until she's in her mid-twenties. She has NO IDEA what she's getting into. Guaranteed divorce within 5 years. There's nothing to be envious or angry about, she's digging a very deep grave here.
Author A n t h o n y Posted February 25, 2013 Author Posted February 25, 2013 I know she is and I really think that's what's bothering me the most. I feel like she is getting married to this guy just for the sake of getting married. She always asked me when I was going to ask her to marry me etc etc but I'm only 20 and I told her im not ready for that. I wanted to go to college etc etc. so I feel like she's about to make such a bad decision and its hard to see her throw her life away.
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