lamerhood Posted February 25, 2013 Posted February 25, 2013 My gf and I know each other for 10 years since we are in the same school back in 2002, and we are together for 6 years. Before we are together, we are best friends In 2011, she broke off with me because she doesn't know if i'm the right one, but after 2 months, she called me and told me she wanted to start afresh, so i started to woo her like i used to and win back her heart. 3 months ago, she found out that i lied to her (etc fall sick, act mental disorder)selfishly because i was so insecure that time(my dad just had an affair) and i need her by my side. She was so angry and broke off with me. At first, i pleaded her but to no avail. i go NC for 2 months and decided to call her again, she was happy initially as i approach as a normal friend. We updated each other what we are doing and never mention about our past I started to contact her once per week, but somehow along the way, she became colder n colder. Finally she admitted that she doesn't felt comfortable with the contact as she felt i'm still not over her (doesn't want to give false hope). Her feeling is gone for me and only can be back as a normal friend. Last week, i pass her a scrapbook and flash video that i have done 3 months ago, and she just reply "sorry". I am so sad now that i dunno what should i do
blue_jay_bird Posted February 27, 2013 Posted February 27, 2013 She is not the one for you. She's not understanding of your situation, or being supportive of you. Maybe she love's you, but is not mature enough to deal with hardship, and the difficult issues your dealing with. IT IS WHAT IT IS. She just does not have the "IT" factor that makes HER stay and not be what she is. And the person that I am seeing is greedy and not understanding. Sounds like she's using you. IT IS WHAT IT IS. GO NC. You can do better.
Author lamerhood Posted February 27, 2013 Author Posted February 27, 2013 She is not the one for you. She's not understanding of your situation, or being supportive of you. Maybe she love's you, but is not mature enough to deal with hardship, and the difficult issues your dealing with. IT IS WHAT IT IS. She just does not have the "IT" factor that makes HER stay and not be what she is. And the person that I am seeing is greedy and not understanding. Sounds like she's using you. IT IS WHAT IT IS. GO NC. You can do better. actually she had always been very supportive throughout the whole relationship, just that she couldn't take it i lied to her when she had been trying to give me moral and mental support. I wanted to gain back her trust on me but i didn't know what should i do ?
Author lamerhood Posted March 1, 2013 Author Posted March 1, 2013 today is exactly 1 Month NC... i have hit the gym almost everyday and i feel so awesome but in my heart i still miss her alot
Skalabanan Posted March 1, 2013 Posted March 1, 2013 Keep up the gym sessions and just try everyday to enjoy yourself. One month is very minimal time considering the length of your relationship, it's okay to still feel pain, it shows your human! I decided one day that I'll always love my ex and I'm grateful for the time we spent together, people are obsessed with blocking the ex out of your life and mind but always do what feels right for you.
Author lamerhood Posted March 2, 2013 Author Posted March 2, 2013 just received a call from her mum, told me that she cried when looking at the scrapbook i made, told me not to give up yet and keep fighting hmmm i told her still i will stick to NC until i can see her without any emotional feeling. She told me best of luck
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