runningfar Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 No, my loins just don't work that way. You could put a god among men in front of me and I would not register his attractiveness unless he talked to me intelligently, made a funny joke, and got me thinking. My girly parts are inextricably tied to my brain. No mind stimulation = no stimulation at all. However, once the neurons are firing, a man becomes a sexual being to me. Until then, no matter how traditionally good looking he is, I just won't/don't see him. After that, you would be hard pressed to tell me he wasn't a god, whether anyone else would agree with me or not. Don't get me wrong, I am not immune to a gorgeous man, I just don't get turned on looking at him. I see him the same way you see a piece of art. While I might appreciate his beauty, I don't want jump his bones. Let a man tell me how he runs his network infrastructure or share his perception of the cosmos - yum. If my boyfriend and I ever split (big if! ) then I will stick with the friends first rule. No straight to romance with me!
runningfar Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 (edited) Okay a guy who would only be a friend and not ever considered a boyfriend... Even if we were both free and he were attracted to me....Well usually it is a personality deficit... Like being overtly sexual, poor behavior to other girls or past girlfriends.... Or a guy who is too submissive. Some guys don't get the line that you don't have to be a jerk to be not submissive (and submissive guys can be jerks) and this isn't every gal but submissive men do not attract me. This normally takes time for me to see But it could be difference in opinions on major topics. I have a friend who sincerely believes Satan planted the evidence for evolution... If we stay away from science and religion he is a funny, great guy. Even very handsome in the way I am most attracted towards... Would never date him. Wouldn't date a friend who wasn't very into physical fitness and outdoor activity. (Not related to looks at all.) Basically, friendship might be viable but I personally am not going to date a guy without the potential of forever. Edited February 26, 2013 by runningfar 1
Els Posted February 26, 2013 Posted February 26, 2013 No, my loins just don't work that way. You could put a god among men in front of me and I would not register his attractiveness unless he talked to me intelligently, made a funny joke, and got me thinking. My girly parts are inextricably tied to my brain. No mind stimulation = no stimulation at all. However, once the neurons are firing, a man becomes a sexual being to me. Until then, no matter how traditionally good looking he is, I just won't/don't see him. After that, you would be hard pressed to tell me he wasn't a god, whether anyone else would agree with me or not. Don't get me wrong, I am not immune to a gorgeous man, I just don't get turned on looking at him. I see him the same way you see a piece of art. While I might appreciate his beauty, I don't want jump his bones. Let a man tell me how he runs his network infrastructure or share his perception of the cosmos - yum. Amen, sister! I'm the exact same way - I have never found a man attractive, ever, until he starts talking to me. I'm not particularly fussed about his depth of knowledge in science, but a razor-sharp wit and striking intelligence make me swoon like no other. Okay, I was lying about the knowledge - it's probably no coincidence that the only two guys I've ever been in a serious R with had read an entire series of encyclopedias from cover to cover as kids. The bf used to quote abstract bits of trivia during our courting phase, because he could tell that it worked very well! 1
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