Navajo46 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Over the last 3 months i have gotten much better. Not a day goes by where i dont think about her, but i no longer have the same pain. Recap is she left me 3 months ago for someone else and have been no contact since. I have not reached out in a single way and finally deactivated my facebook so i dont check hers. I pulled into the gym and was on the phone and then she pulled in few minutes later. I walked in and saw her sitting in her car and she saw me an hen abruptly left. It was a little irritating honestly to think she couldnt even be in the same viscinity as me and just do her routine. I wouldnt have tried to talk to her in any way. I would have thought that after 3 months we could be in the same area with no problems and not really care. Why would she be avoiding me? I didnt do anything ya know. Wasnt expecting her to talk to me at all and We have both moved on and i get it, but kinda feel slighted. Oh well **** it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
BarbecueMan666 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 Hmm, there's a few ways to look at what happened, and I don't necessarily think what happened was a bad thing at all. Glad you're doing better btw! If she sees you, and feels the need to get away - she's still not ready for that kinda thing, maybe she feels she betrayed you, maybe she's just uncomfortable with seeing you right now - not because you did something wrong, it just makes her uncomfortable, maybe the heart ache/pain feeling hit her hard. Either way, don't feel bad man, I'd take that as a bit of a moral victory right there. If you can go about your business with her there, and be totally ok then awesome. If she can't - well she's still getting over what happened. Link to post Share on other sites
cdt76 Posted February 24, 2013 Share Posted February 24, 2013 She can't be around you because the guilt will eat her alive. She is a cancer and can barely look herself in the mirror. Feel honored that she left. I bet the workout was good!!!! 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Navajo46 Posted February 24, 2013 Author Share Posted February 24, 2013 Hmm, there's a few ways to look at what happened, and I don't necessarily think what happened was a bad thing at all. Glad you're doing better btw! If she sees you, and feels the need to get away - she's still not ready for that kinda thing, maybe she feels she betrayed you, maybe she's just uncomfortable with seeing you right now - not because you did something wrong, it just makes her uncomfortable, maybe the heart ache/pain feeling hit her hard. Either way, don't feel bad man, I'd take that as a bit of a moral victory right there. If you can go about your business with her there, and be totally ok then awesome. If she can't - well she's still getting over what happened. Thanks man, been hitting the gym hard... Lost 35 pounds... I got a little chunky lol. Somewhat back to my old self. But, im not gonna read into this too much for all i know she has twisted this into hating me for some reason and just didnt wanna see me... Thats ok though. Out of my control but ill be damned if i am going to avoid places just because she "might" be there anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Navajo46 Posted February 25, 2013 Author Share Posted February 25, 2013 This actually is really irritating me at the moment... Lol. I guess thats how it goes right? Exes avoid you because you are the ex. I just thought we were past it. Its irritating cause i did nothing wrong and treated her good. Its one thing to avoid the place completely but kinda childish to go there see the person and then leave... To me anyway. Link to post Share on other sites
na49 Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It is childish, but they probably think us going completely dark on them is childish. They probably think us not accepting their offer of friendship is childish. I avoid my ex like the plague, not really concerned what she thinks of it honestly. Seeing her makes me sick to my stomach and makes me want to punch a wall because of how angry I get when I see her happy without me. You handled it well. Also congrats on losing 35 pounds. I've started going to the gym myself, but have been working on getting stronger more than losing weight. I never worked out so I look pretty weak. Gotta look good for the summer Link to post Share on other sites
Author Navajo46 Posted February 25, 2013 Author Share Posted February 25, 2013 It is childish, but they probably think us going completely dark on them is childish. They probably think us not accepting their offer of friendship is childish. I avoid my ex like the plague, not really concerned what she thinks of it honestly. Seeing her makes me sick to my stomach and makes me want to punch a wall because of how angry I get when I see her happy without me. You handled it well. Also congrats on losing 35 pounds. I've started going to the gym myself, but have been working on getting stronger more than losing weight. I never worked out so I look pretty weak. Gotta look good for the summer Yeah, i could see them thinking its somewhat childish to not accept the friendship, but i dont care about that at all. Who knows maybe the new guy was supposed to be meeting her there and it would have been way awkward then. I tried not to think about it but got the best of me... Not painful though at all, just irritating. Was my first time i saw her at all in 3 months and threw me off a little. Yeah, i was in real good shape until about 5 years ago and then went to ****. Was always a big workout guy then got complacent And gained bunch of weight. Sure that contributed to the lack of spark towards the end, but live and learn. Im hitting the gym hard now and will look awesome for summer. This time though got to keep up a good routine and not gain so much weight. Link to post Share on other sites
Almond_Joy Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 It has nothing to do with you personally. If she was okay with breaking up with you she wouldn't have been bothered by you. Not saying she wants to get back with you, but something about the way she chose to end things with you doesn't sit well with her, it makes her uncomfortable. This isn't a reflection on anything you've done, only her and her sense of right and wrong. You're right not to think much of it, and seriously there's nothing for you to be irritated about. Her avoidance has nothing to do with you. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Navajo46 Posted February 25, 2013 Author Share Posted February 25, 2013 (edited) It has nothing to do with you personally. If she was okay with breaking up with you she wouldn't have been bothered by you. Not saying she wants to get back with you, but something about the way she chose to end things with you doesn't sit well with her, it makes her uncomfortable. This isn't a reflection on anything you've done, only her and her sense of right and wrong. You're right not to think much of it, and seriously there's nothing for you to be irritated about. Her avoidance has nothing to do with you. She had an emotional affair with her married boss who "says" he is leaving his wife and probably physical too and only fessed up when i saw her texting him non stop etc. and lied about it. She told me when we broke up that she fealt so guilty and feels like the breakup happened so fast and that it was over nothing... Lol. I really pressed it because I found out about the texts and she said she loved me like a friend... So i pressed the breakup. She would have drug it out and i was sick of dealing with it. Was a 6 year relationship though which made it tough... Not for her though. Shes such a closed off person emotionally that i figured she would have no guilt left. Honestly their relationship is not my concern if it works or doesnt. But she is not your average girl... She is an emotional WRECK. All that matters to me anymore is that the minute she fealt like he was available she jumped at the chance. Kept asking to be friends and i said no... I told her you should feel guilty... Not about breaking up, but about being shady and lying. Edited February 25, 2013 by Navajo46 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Almond_Joy Posted February 25, 2013 Share Posted February 25, 2013 Yeah that's a while alotta baggage you got rid of. Be happy she won't try to come barreling back in your life lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Navajo46 Posted February 25, 2013 Author Share Posted February 25, 2013 Yeah that's a while alotta baggage you got rid of. Be happy she won't try to come barreling back in your life lol. Hahahaha... I know and thats not the half of her problems. When i look back at it, just crazy man. Through it all i loved her though, that is probably the craziest part of the whole thing. Miss laughing with her, have since realized though that she obviously had no respect for me and I truly am better off without her. Just burns you up and hence the irritation that after all that she did to me... She is the one avoiding me... Lol. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Navajo46 Posted February 27, 2013 Author Share Posted February 27, 2013 I absolutely cannot believe that i am getting mad again. Its been 3 months. I cant believe just seeing her for 10 seconds put me in this mood. I must say, the timing of the breakup wasnt the best either... Had to go through Thanksgiving, my bday, christmas, valentines day, her bday, and anniversary next week. Dude, what is wrong with me and why do i care if i ever talk to her again?????????? Wtf? Link to post Share on other sites
fancy feast Posted February 28, 2013 Share Posted February 28, 2013 Change your mindset about what happened. She saw you and lost her mind at the mere sight of your new Adonis body. The only thing she could do was to drive crazily into the night, never to know true pleasure again. All while you bask in your own glory and the attention of other girls. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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