He broke my trust and I;m not sure if I want to be with him anymore

[Kaitie]

My boyfriend of (almost) 6 years flat out lied to me, and I caught him. He smokes weed here and there, and I had no big problem with that. The past year, his friends have started going downhill and many have been to rehab for drug addiction, just to go back to it again. He said he would never do that and I believed him, for a while. I caught him a few months ago with prescription painkillers and told him that I do not want him doing that. He told me he would stop. Fast forward to today, I walked into his bedroom and discovered he was doing what looked like heroin (which one of his "friends" are addicted to). There were no needles around and he told me it was just crushed up painkillers. I just shut down. I did no get angry or sad, I just stopped feeling anything. We sat down and talked, I told him how I feel and that I believe he should be spending more time at school finding new friends, rather than hanging out with his old ones. After a short conversation I left.

 

He completely broke my trust and hid something from me for months, all while saying how he stopped doing painkillers. I still believe he as doing herioin, and no matter what he is telling me, I don't believe him. I don't know if I'll ever be able to fully believe what he says to me anymore.

 

I'm really thinking about breaking up with him over this. We have been good friends for over 10 years, and I know I could not go without talking to him for a long period of time. I think that if we were not together, he may be more inclined to stay at school during weekends and make new friends. I think that we will always be friends, I'm just starting to think that we are not meant for each other.

[richard9]

My boyfriend of (almost) 6 years flat out lied to me, and I caught him. He smokes weed here and there, and I had no big problem with that. The past year, his friends have started going downhill and many have been to rehab for drug addiction, just to go back to it again. He said he would never do that and I believed him, for a while. I caught him a few months ago with prescription painkillers and told him that I do not want him doing that. He told me he would stop. Fast forward to today, I walked into his bedroom and discovered he was doing what looked like heroin (which one of his "friends" are addicted to). There were no needles around and he told me it was just crushed up painkillers. I just shut down. I did no get angry or sad, I just stopped feeling anything. We sat down and talked, I told him how I feel and that I believe he should be spending more time at school finding new friends, rather than hanging out with his old ones. After a short conversation I left.

 

He completely broke my trust and hid something from me for months, all while saying how he stopped doing painkillers. I still believe he as doing herioin, and no matter what he is telling me, I don't believe him. I don't know if I'll ever be able to fully believe what he says to me anymore.

 

I'm really thinking about breaking up with him over this. We have been good friends for over 10 years, and I know I could not go without talking to him for a long period of time. I think that if we were not together, he may be more inclined to stay at school during weekends and make new friends. I think that we will always be friends, I'm just starting to think that we are not meant for each other.

 

if he does have a drug problem then i would say he needs to get some help. but he must admit he has a problem, there's no point in you helping him get help if he doesn't believe he has a problem.

 

it may just be his friends are dragging him into it, i say that lightly because at the end of the day he is choosing his friends over you by breaking the trust.

 

you cant control what your boyfriend does, you just have to decide if you are willing to accept it or not? if not then you need to tell him you're not willing to put up with how hes behaving whilst hes in a relationship with you. if he doesn't change then you need to stand firm and leave, maybe a break? so he relises what he is doing to your relationship by being so irresponsible.

 

hope that helped:)