Had a banter with a friend about something she did to a guy, need your s

[lesbihonest]

So my female friend dated a guy for a few months. Going in, she already had feelings that this guy is a womanizer and that his "charm" is nothing but a game to get in her pants. She suspected that he was doing this with other women so she went into this relationship to use him for sex because she was attracted to him. She played along by pretending she bought into his charm, pretended that she had strong feelings for him, pretended to believe that what he said was true: that he was the only woman; that he loved her and wanted to be with her exclusively. Just completely straight up used him for her own benefit. She did however, try to give him a chance to be a good person by asking him to be honest with her and confirm her suspicions that he was seeing other women but he denied it. She warned him not to mess with her but he still kept telling her that she was the only one.

 

So one day, he accidentally leaves his Facebook open and she happened to find out that he's keeping relationships with 8 different women and sent the same "charming" messages to each of them. She decided to take it upon herself to message all 8 women and inform them that they were being played and that this guy is nothing but a lying, cheating, scumbag. The consequences was somewhat heavy, he lost most of his social network, most of the women dumped him, some stayed but eventually left and from what I remember, he went to jail because of it. The guy still tried talking to her, having no idea who did this, but she never fessed up, instead she pretended to be a victim, fake cried and told him that she can't see him anymore. That was a year ago. To this day she continues to play mindgames with him because from time to time he still tries to reach her and she continues to purposely mislead him because he's a lying womanizer, despite the fact that she has a long-term boyfriend herself who doesn't mind what she's doing. She admits that she's an evil bitch and she does this because it entertains her.

 

So to the main focus: I told her that ruining his life and sending those messages out to those 8 women was unnecessary and was not her place to do it. Going in she was already using him and playing mind-games with him by pretending she bought into his "charm". He did deserve some payback but sending those messages out and ruining his life, he didn't deserve that. Because I said that, she was infuriated with me, saying that it was indeed her place and that somehow they are all interconnected together because he strung all of them along. To me that was most bull**** excuse I've ever heard. She admitted and was proud of what she did, but I don't get why she would be pissed at me for saying that he didn't deserve it. She has a vindictive personality, she loves revenge and I felt what she was doing was just feeding her ego by letting people know you can't outmsart her.

 

What do you think? Do you think what she did was unnecessary? Do you think he deserved what he got?

[Keenly]

Your friend is a bitch. For may ways than one. She took just as Much of a part in a fake relationship as he did, already making them equal. She snooped into his Facebook, ruined his life, regardless of whether he should or shouldn't be doing that stuff, and she did it because she is a selfish woman who has no empathy or feelings for another human being.

Cool I get it she was skeptical... why didn't she behave like an adult and.just.walk away. Instead she went the childish route. Revenge for a relationship where she was.playing.him equally.

[lesbihonest]

She admitted to being a bitch and she was proud of it which is fine but why get pissed off at me for simply saying that I felt she didn't need to ruin his life. She was close to lashing out at me for saying it.

[MsSmurf]

This woman clearly has problems of her own if she thought it was ok stoop to this same guys level and use him just for her own amusement and enjoyed it. What's that saying? Two wrongs don't make a right? Certainly applies here.

 

The one thing I'm not getting is how this guy ended up going to jail because he was having serious relationships with several women. Last I knew that just made him a jerk, not a criminal.

[Keenly]

She admitted to being a bitch and she was proud of it which is fine but why get pissed off at me for simply saying that I felt she didn't need to ruin his life. She was close to lashing out at me for saying it.

 

 

Sounds pretty sociopath like to me.

[lesbihonest]

So you agree that it was not her place to send messages to those 8 women and that it was unnecessary?

[Lonely Ronin]

I think the adjective "raging" needs to be added to her Bitc* label.

 

 

If i had to guess, she is a perfect example of a person who is pronoid.

[RedHead33]

She lied to you how she really felt about him from the begining because if she didnt care about him, and was just using him she wouldn't send those emails to 8 other women. She knew who he was and was probably playing her as well but her actions only say that she is still crazy about him. Bat Sh*t crazy obviously cause she continues playing games because that's the only way he'll keep her around. And yes she got mad at you cause you told her the truth to her face.

[AlexDP]

People aren't sent to jail because they have sex with other girls..

[lesbihonest]

Beats me, I'm going off by what she told me. Maybe one of the women had a boyfriend/husband and they got in a fight?

[ltjg45]

Interesting.

 

I can agree with her that he deserved it. I also can agree that she should have done it just so the other 8 women can move on from this fake piece of trash.

 

I will never condone watching people waste their precious time off of a bunch of lies if I can help it.

 

However, I can't agree that she should be raging at you because you have a different opinion.

 

I'm curious as to why he went to jail because nothing he has did, despite it was disrespectful, was worthy of a jail sentence.