spiritofjosh Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Ok I'll try and condense this as much as possible. I dated my recent ex for over a year. She definitely has insecurity issues but I dealt with them. More specific; she thinks I'm some "player" and that she's just what I was into at the time and that I'd drop her for the next "attractive girl" to show interest in me. I always tried to reassure her in which I was being sincere. I truly care for her and only want her and have since the day I met her. I must admit before her I haven't dated in almost 3 years, so as pathetic as it sounds I felt like I forgot how to be a good boyfriend. I didn't want to be overbearing but it backfired and I ended up being neglecting. To rise her insecurity she felt like this was a sign I wasn't that into her. WE talked about it but it never got through until finally, about a month tops, she broke it off with me. She claimed she doesn't want anybody else, no hooking up with anybody etc. Just her space and her alone-time. I respected this and gave her such. But my question is; why is she texting me if she wants space? The past 2 weeks she's been texting me once a day at random, about random things. She texted me a weird fact she read online. I posted an instagram picture with lyrics that say "I woke up in someone else's bed but I was dreaming of you" and she texted me asking whose bed I woke up in because she thought it was literal. She asked me the other day if I could meet so she can give me my birthday presents that she never gave me (my birthday passed a couple days ago). But in advice I read I keep my conversation very to the point and minimal as to not sound desperate, because I do want her back. But when she asked to me I told her I was busy because an old female friend asked if we could meet for a drink because of my birthday. Her jealousy was blatant. I explained she's an old friend and nothing more, and never was anything more, its harmless, etc. This is getting long-winded and I apologize. But on my actual birthday she asked me what my plans were and I said "idk." She didn't like that and brought up the "why can't we be friends?" idea. I explained why it's not a good idea and she just gave me an attitude and kept telling me to have fun moving on and so much for me not giving up on her and us. This is why I'm confused...obviously she wants to try and keep me dangling so she can come and go if she pleases and I'm trying to not play her game which she obviously isn't into. So, what do I do? She went from loving the idea of being friends and me disagreeing, to her not texting me for a few days and now finds a reason to text me once a day about almost nothing..is this a woman's way to be friend's with her ex or a way to say "I miss you?" Before I mentioned her insecurity, and I know if anybody reads this they'll bring up "why I want somebody insecure, it'll never work, etc." This has already been thought of, and this isn't what I asked. I trust this girl more than I've ever trusted a woman. She's more honest with me than anybody, and more genuine. This is who I'd like to keep a relationship with so. But I do need help reading her and her actions. My friends try and say she doesn't just want to be friends (her and them don't really see each other, so they aren't any middle man) because of how jealous she's obviously getting about things. All I'm doing is leaving her alone, giving her her space and keeping to myself and focusing on me, the rest is up to her. I apologize for the length and I hope somebody can give me their thoughts because my friends tend to be biased I'm sure. But I do appreciate anybody taking time to read my rant.
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