maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Okay so this super cute guy at work asked me out for a dinner. But we didn't set any specifics. So after a few days, I initiated the talk and asked for his number. We still haven't set the specifics but he said some time early next week. He then started texting me, so I guess he was somewhat interested. That was like 3 days ago. But then I am a terrible texter (because I rarely text and rather meet people in person). Anyways so I think I kinda scared him or bored him, I don't know what, and he stopped texting. So no texts at all yesterday. At this point, I really need a guy's perspective: should I text him today and ask if he is still up for dinner tomorrow? The last thing I want to do is make him uncomfortable by pushing for a get together when he is no longer interested. Any suggestions/thoughts/insights, please?
Keenly Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Okay so this super cute guy at work asked me out for a dinner. But we didn't set any specifics. So after a few days, I initiated the talk and asked for his number. We still haven't set the specifics but he said some time early next week. He then started texting me, so I guess he was somewhat interested. That was like 3 days ago. But then I am a terrible texter (because I rarely text and rather meet people in person). Anyways so I think I kinda scared him or bored him, I don't know what, and he stopped texting. So no texts at all yesterday. At this point, I really need a guy's perspective: should I text him today and ask if he is still up for dinner tomorrow? The last thing I want to do is make him uncomfortable by pushing for a get together when he is no longer interested. Any suggestions/thoughts/insights, please? Yes.. text him. Tell him you are looking forward to it. Lack of texting can be misinterpreted really easily into lack of interest. Remind him you want it.. also point out that you suck at texting to put him at ease.
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 Yes.. text him. Tell him you are looking forward to it. Lack of texting can be misinterpreted really easily into lack of interest. Remind him you want it.. also point out that you suck at texting to put him at ease. But what bothers me is that it was HIM who abruptly ended our last convo. So I feel like he is no longer interested?
CryForNoOne Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 How did he abruptly end the last convo? From what you've posted this far, I'd say with CERTAINTY he is still interested but thinks you have rejected him. One way text conversations is the modern equivalent of saying no by not even answering...
Keenly Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 But what bothers me is that it was HIM who abruptly ended our last convo. So I feel like he is no longer interested? He only did that because he feels like you are not showing interest in him. Make your desires known and watch behavior soften.
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 How did he abruptly end the last convo? From what you've posted this far, I'd say with CERTAINTY he is still interested but thinks you have rejected him. One way text conversations is the modern equivalent of saying no by not even answering... He said Hi, I replied Hows it going. Then took him an hour to say Busy. But then I still replied saying It's almost weekend! I was gonna drop by but seems like you are busy. And then after 2 hours, he just said: Have a good weekend. So I just said: You too. And that's it...... So I'm a bit discouraged right now to initiate anything...
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 He only did that because he feels like you are not showing interest in him. Make your desires known and watch behavior soften. Oh just to clarify, what I meant by "terrible texter" means I don't know how to flirt or be perky via texting. I do reply to every single texts quite fast.
CryForNoOne Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 He said Hi, I replied Hows it going. Then took him an hour to say Busy. But then I still replied saying It's almost weekend! I was gonna drop by but seems like you are busy. And then after 2 hours, he just said: Have a good weekend. So I just said: You too. And that's it...... So I'm a bit discouraged right now to initiate anything... So that is not that abrupt. If it had ended at "busy", that would be bad. It just seems like you have stilted text convos. Some girls I text are like teenagers replying 3 seconds after every message I send and using tons of smiley faces LOL blah blah blah. Others reply anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours later. Every person is different. If he already asked you out, I think there is a decent chance you can get a date if you text him. If you have a hard time reengaging just think of something casual to say that is suggestive like mentioning a movie or restaurant he might like but not specifically tying it to a "date". it always should be in context to some past interaction.
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 So that is not that abrupt. If it had ended at "busy", that would be bad. It just seems like you have stilted text convos. Some girls I text are like teenagers replying 3 seconds after every message I send and using tons of smiley faces LOL blah blah blah. Others reply anywhere from a few minutes to a few hours later. Every person is different. If he already asked you out, I think there is a decent chance you can get a date if you text him. If you have a hard time reengaging just think of something casual to say that is suggestive like mentioning a movie or restaurant he might like but not specifically tying it to a "date". it always should be in context to some past interaction. You think so? I thought it was pretty abrupt because he could've continued the convo but instead just ended it by saying Have a good weekend, and especially only after 3 texts.. I just felt like things are fizzling out .. But nonetheless I think I'm going to bring all my courage out and text him...
curlygirl40 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 If you do text him, I would say something like 'I'm looking at my calendar for this week, what night would be good for you to meet for dinner?'. Assume you're still on rather than going the 'do you still like meeee???? Do you still want to go out with meee??' route. I'm exaggerating for effect but you see my meaning. I think it's up to him to reach you and firm up those plans (if he was super interested he would), but if you do decide to reach out (not a bad idea to initiate since he was the one who initiated last time) make it casual like you're assuming you're still on. Good luck 1
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 If you do text him, I would say something like 'I'm looking at my calendar for this week, what night would be good for you to meet for dinner?'. Assume you're still on rather than going the 'do you still like meeee???? Do you still want to go out with meee??' route. I'm exaggerating for effect but you see my meaning. I think it's up to him to reach you and firm up those plans (if he was super interested he would), but if you do decide to reach out (not a bad idea to initiate since he was the one who initiated last time) make it casual like you're assuming you're still on. Good luck Well I just texted him an hour ago really casually but he still hasn't responded so, I don't know what to make out of this.
IAmRobot Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Dont worry too much about what you're saying. He seems a rather weird texter. He's obviously wanting to be chased so I honestly don't see it going a long way, but you could shoot him a txt asking if you guys are still on for this week. "Are we still on for this week"?
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 Dont worry too much about what you're saying. He seems a rather weird texter. He's obviously wanting to be chased so I honestly don't see it going a long way, but you could shoot him a txt asking if you guys are still on for this week. "Are we still on for this week"? I mean, I texted him, which he hasn't reponded. I don't feel right. so something must be not right.
curlygirl40 Posted February 24, 2013 Posted February 24, 2013 Trust your gut. If something doesn't feel right, then it's probably not right. I don't think my gut has ever been wrong when it has come to one of these 'is he interested?' thoughts running through my head. It allows me to keep my pride. Usually. lol
Author maestrok Posted February 24, 2013 Author Posted February 24, 2013 (edited) Trust your gut. If something doesn't feel right, then it's probably not right. I don't think my gut has ever been wrong when it has come to one of these 'is he interested?' thoughts running through my head. It allows me to keep my pride. Usually. lol I don't know anymore... Edited February 24, 2013 by maestrok
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